ManAshley Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Hey all. First time for me. I've posted on another board with my whole story but the people there were very judgmental and non helpful at all so I will just run thru the basics on this site. Dating a girl I loved VERY much (still do) for 2 years. Did everything with her. Went to same school. She had a reputation as a cheater but when we got together she swore she wanted to change. blah blah blah. 1 year into relationship, she abruptly broke up with me and started hooking up with some guy in the same week. Broke me to pieces. She came running back when she saw me out with another girl. of course i took her back. 1 more year down the road, she starts pushing me out of her life. cutting me out of her friends, changing plans (she suddenly wanted to go to a wedding alone) and cutting off sex. I tried and tried and tried so damn hard bc i loved this girl until i couldnt take it anymore and broke up with her. We spent the next few weeks in pergutory. hooking up sporatically. even took a beach trip together. Come to find out, she was hooking up with 2 other guys during this time. one was enagaged, the other she started dating after going NC with me. So, we are still in school together. She's blocked my number. Hasn't answered my e-mails. (maybe 1 a week, not for a few weeks) and wont even look at me. Its been 3 months since we broke up. 2 months with limited contact (where she lied to me about other guys and was telling me how much she loved me, blah blah blah) and 1 month of absolute no contact. Part of our problem was that she wouldnt even acknowledge me as her BF on FB. (stupid i know for a 30 year old man) but now shes all over the damn internet with her new bf and soooo happy. ( i got rid of my FB, bc i dont want to see that crap). Point is, I still love her. She cheated on me, lied to me, treated me like crap, wont acknowledge me at all (2 years, every day together!) I was a good BF. I treated her great. Not to toot my own horn, but im pretty cool. Im a good looking 30 year old man in excellent shape about to be a lawyer. (so is she). Why? how can someone just throw away someone like that? Why is she sooooo happy when I still hurt ALL THE TIME?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ManAshley Posted June 20, 2012 Author Share Posted June 20, 2012 I forgot to mention. I haven't seen her in 2 weeks (thru skillful avoidance so i can heal) then this morning she pulled up next to me in the parking lot. I've been panicky and uneasy ever since. Which is why I'm here today Link to post Share on other sites
DustinMilk Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 First of all just want to extend my deepest sympathies for what you've gone through already. I totally understand the misery and anxiety of this situation. People try to make it a positive situation and say move on and such, but let's make it clear that it's okay that you feel you need her to be happy or you want her still after all of this. The key here is not giving up, even though it seems or feels she may have already. I know you don't want to let this go, just work through it one step at a time. One helpful site for tips through it all is Relationship's forum I truly wish you the best of luck. Don't let this girl go! Roger Link to post Share on other sites
GLDheart Posted June 25, 2012 Share Posted June 25, 2012 ...The key here is not giving up... I truly wish you the best of luck. Don't let this girl go! Uhm... what? Look up the cliche'd definition of insanity please. Link to post Share on other sites
Tiera D Posted June 25, 2012 Share Posted June 25, 2012 she is a cheater she has a reputation,i could imagine why the other board is being judgemental..I dont want say anymore just do one thing,read your own thread with a third person perspective,not to be harsh but this girl really isnt good.My opinion would be get someone new.OP you must understand being nice to someone does not mean she had to be equally repay you back,you saw all the red signs its time to move on TD Link to post Share on other sites
GLDheart Posted June 25, 2012 Share Posted June 25, 2012 I'm not saying to stay or to go. I'm not telling you what is right for you. All I can wish for you is to honestly know what you are getting yourself into (or getting away from). Link to post Share on other sites
WordvAction Posted June 25, 2012 Share Posted June 25, 2012 First of all just want to extend my deepest sympathies for what you've gone through already. I totally understand the misery and anxiety of this situation. People try to make it a positive situation and say move on and such, but let's make it clear that it's okay that you feel you need her to be happy or you want her still after all of this. The key here is not giving up, even though it seems or feels she may have already. I know you don't want to let this go, just work through it one step at a time. One helpful site for tips through it all is Relationship's forum I truly wish you the best of luck. Don't let this girl go! Roger I respectfully 100% disagree with this. He may feel he needs her to be happy now, but that will not be the same down the line. If he continues to pursue, she will brush him off and he will slowly break down. We're dealing with a serial manipulator/cheater here. ManAshley: Do yourself a favor and let this one go. Even if you get back with her she will do this again and again to you. It will be extremely hard, and once she sees you back on your feet and back in the dating game she will probably try and get you back again. This is what these types of women do. If it makes you feel any better, she will not make it with her new boyfriend either; I can guarantee you that. Link to post Share on other sites
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