Warsawman Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 I'm suppose to get married in about a week from now to a woman whom I look at different then I did a year ago. You see I found out that I had or thought that I had a daughter from back in my college days. My friend did not like all of this and felt it would cause the relationship problems which it did but because she caused them herself. She was always very cold towards the girl who really is not a girl being she is 36 years old. I can't tell you how many blow ups and break ups that we have had but I kept going back. I made a huge mistake...I didn't tell my best friend whom I used to date. She is a very jealous person and even if we were just friends I knew if I told her I was with someone else....she would break off everything so I kept putting it off. I was not sleeping with her or anything. We were just friends and talked on the phone more then anything which I enjoyed and didn't want to end. I kept telling myself that I needed to tell her as specially when it got serious but I kept putting it off. She found out a about three weeks ago. We were talking as we do and she told me she knew about me getting married. She even said the ladies first name. She was cool....she told me that I chose not to tell the truth like she asked and that our friendship was over. That I should never call her or bother her. She even shipped all the little bears I had purchased when we were dating. Yesterday she sent a text saying how our relationship was just one big lie and how I lied about everything. That hurt and still does. I feel so guilty at the same time. I know and knew she wanted more but I was not holding her back from moving on but she made me feel like I was. And what is so bad about it is she is retiring the same week I am getting married. I have lost more then thirty pounds since all of this started. I don't know what to do or how to feel. I don't want to hurt the lady I am marrying however she has caused me a lot of grief about my daughter. Over the last month...she has blown up at least once a week and I keep going back. Why I don't know. She is a true Christian Bridezilla if there is such a thing. I miss my friend too....I hate myself for letting things get where they are now. I know I can't fix anything. I hate this!!! I hate this!!! Things are not well with us but she is determined to have the wedding. She almost got married several years ago. It got close but she called it off. I feel like she is pushing this because she does not want to be embrassed by the break up. I have never felt this bad even when I lost my Mom or when I was going through my divorce. I am praying for answers from God. I'm so tired too....so tired. Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 Sorry - your story is way too confusing to figure out; too many "she" pronouns to be able to know who you are talking about; your fiancée? Someone you used to date? Regardless, if you are having second thoughts about marrying, than listen to your gut and don't do it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 I had the same issue, having difficulties reading this... Link to post Share on other sites
CyBz Posted June 21, 2012 Share Posted June 21, 2012 same here didn't catch a lick Link to post Share on other sites
MuscleCarFan Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Please clarify what is going on. I am rather confused. Link to post Share on other sites
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