Update to previous situation. Still no clarification from him

[mauilurve]

Ok so I need some advice, here’s the link to my previous thread:

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/cheating-flirting-jealousy/326244-he-has-cheating-right

 

Its been a little over a month since I found out about his work hours being off. I have asked him for his time sheets, yet he hasn’t given them to me yet. He told me about 3-4 times that he asked his supervisor for his time sheets, come to find out he never even asked one time. His supervisor (let’s call him Stan) is also a friend of his from high school so we were hanging out with him and his wife one weekend and I asked him if my bf ever asked for the time sheets and he said no. So I confront him with this info and he’s really quiet and just says that he’s been busy and he lied because he didn’t want me to get mad. I told him I wanted him to get them by the end of the next week. This time he does attempt to get the time sheets (about 3-4 times) from Stan, I saw the texts in his phone asking when he would be able to get them. So he ends up needing to get the paystub to get the time sheet (Stan has to get it from his boss, let’s call him Mike). Long story short, he ends up not being able to get the time sheet. So now the paystub is back with my bf and he needs to ask Mike’s boss Dan for the time sheet. He’s afraid of asking Mike because he does cocaine and is usually in a crappy mood. Mike also has a tendency to short people on their paychecks and has also paid people full paychecks when they didn’t work at all in exchange for coke. My bf is afraid to ask Mike because he’s afraid of getting fired.

 

My second issue is that when I asked Stan about the time sheet I also asked him if my bf is always there at 7 to start work. He said yes, but there may have been once or twice that he came in around 8. Then he says he thinks there was a time that he came in at 8 because he told him the night before that he didn’t need to be there until 8. I confront my bf with this issue and he says that he’s lying. He later tells me that he spoke to Stan and that he claims this is not what he told me. He says this is BS because he’s always annoyed with Stan for not letting him know ahead of time that they won’t need him until 8. He is still claiming that he’s never gone it at 8.

 

I’m not sure what to think about all of this. I’m not sure if he’s avoiding getting the time sheets to hide something from me, although he did make a few attempts or if he’s genuinely having a hard time getting them. I’m also not sure about Stan saying he came in at 8 and him saying it’s not true. What do you guys think of this? I want to try and have another talk with him about this tonight, but I’m not sure how to go about it. He wasn’t annoyed about it at first, but I keep bringing it up and he’s starting to get frustrated.

[orcunderabridge]

I'm amazed your boyfriend tolerates your ****....

 

seriously.. if all you have up to this point is that you caught him lying about him not asking for his timesheets... and this after looking through his texts... it's time you let it go...

 

Hypothetically if your boyfriend is cheating on you, there's no point in being openly suspicious about it as he will just hide it better

[Professor X]

I read your previous thread and I am sure there are lots of other factors unaccounted for, namely that he needs some time alone from you. You seem to be a very controlling person due to your paranoia so until you get a hold of some serious evidance, you better treat him as a good person.

 

Ever heard of the phrase "thoughts create"? "wishful thinking" perhaps? You keep pushing him with accusations of cheating, and he might really end up doing it. Or perhaps he'd just break up with you and than find a new woman, who knows. Point is, from the look of things, he just wants some space from your constant nagging and accusations, can't blame him if he gets it by lying to you about his working hours.

 

Really, what could he tell you that you'd accept in order to get his free time? "Listen babe, you annoy the living hell out of me, I want to be alone for a while, cya later".