Backstabbing friend

[david555]

Ok so in this thread I would really want to know what to do. I'm 19 and I fell in love with this girl in school when I first saw her. I decided to start talking to the girl through Facebook, and then I learned that she has a boyfriend, but I kept my distance and waited till she broke up with him. When I heard that she broke up with him, I kept on talking to her and she called me out on a date. And everything was heading in the direction of us ending up as a couple. My friend who I helped out thru high school and college knew that I liked her because I told him that I liked her. Recently from another person I heard that he was talking to her and learned that he wanted to get with her as well. I wanted to talk to him one on one and resolve this situation without jeopardizing our friendship. Instead of actually talking to me he was coming up with lame excuses. At the same time the dude was talking to several other girls. A few weeks ago I learned that he asked her out and she said yes. He got ahead of me a few days earlier. I was devastated to learn that he did this to me. I tried to forget about the girl and him, I stopped talking to him and her, but I felt that I was stabbed in the back. The kid is a complete idiot, I really do mean idiot. He doesn't even know how the GPA system works. The girl thinks he's an understanding person, but she doesn't really know him. He's hiding his true self behind a mask and she doesn't know the true him. I still like the girl and I still can't get over the fact that they are dating. I tried getting with another girl but I couldn't forget her. I want to know what to do in this situation cause I really do care about her. They say time heals but it's only making my situation worse. Please I need a really good advice. I want to know what to do, because getting on with my life isn't working to well for me if I'm still thinking about her.

[Emme]

You are 19. Adult yet still a teenager. I say you can be a friend to her if you can't let her go. Honestly I would rather you move on but you're young and your hormones are all over the place. Try and be a friend to her if and only if... she didn't know that you two guys were/are friends. If she knew you two were friends and then she still accepted his offer on a date after she asked you out on a date (If I read that part right), f*ck her. She's no good. You don't want her.

 

 

In the future, if no one schooled you... there is a rule. NEVER ... EVER .... EVA tell another person who you want to get with or who you are interested in. Don't ever make that mistake again. Keep it to yourself. All is fair in love and war.

[Radu]

Ok so in this thread I would really want to know what to do. I'm 19 and I fell in love with this girl in school when I first saw her. I decided to start talking to the girl through Facebook, and then I learned that she has a boyfriend, but I kept my distance and waited till she broke up with him. When I heard that she broke up with him, I kept on talking to her and she called me out on a date. And everything was heading in the direction of us ending up as a couple. My friend who I helped out thru high school and college knew that I liked her because I told him that I liked her. Recently from another person I heard that he was talking to her and learned that he wanted to get with her as well. I wanted to talk to him one on one and resolve this situation without jeopardizing our friendship. Instead of actually talking to me he was coming up with lame excuses. At the same time the dude was talking to several other girls. A few weeks ago I learned that he asked her out and she said yes. He got ahead of me a few days earlier. I was devastated to learn that he did this to me. I tried to forget about the girl and him, I stopped talking to him and her, but I felt that I was stabbed in the back. The kid is a complete idiot, I really do mean idiot. He doesn't even know how the GPA system works. The girl thinks he's an understanding person, but she doesn't really know him. He's hiding his true self behind a mask and she doesn't know the true him. I still like the girl and I still can't get over the fact that they are dating. I tried getting with another girl but I couldn't forget her. I want to know what to do in this situation cause I really do care about her. They say time heals but it's only making my situation worse. Please I need a really good advice. I want to know what to do, because getting on with my life isn't working to well for me if I'm still thinking about her.

 

Well, i know what will help but i don't know if you you have the strength to carry it out ... should i tell you ?

 

Ok, i will :

1- remove your shoes/socks

2- get on your knees

3- pray to whatever God you worship for this friend's 'help' in showing his and hers true colors now instead of later

 

I'm not joking, you dodged a major bullet.

What if he had backstabbed you 5yrs from now with your wife ?

Stop talking to him, stop thinking of her, look at other girls ... get on with your life fast.

 

Look up the 180 and implement some of the ideas there.

[MissBee]

I don't think this is in the right section, but in any case, you didn't know her that well it seems...you will probably get over it soon. You're 19, you like people, you move on. If she went on a date with another man, it's safe to say, she wasn't that into you. If someone isn't as into you, as you are them, they aren't right for you and you just have to wait your feelings out. This time next year, I'm sure you'll be WELL over it.

 

Your friend did stab you in the back and he is no "friend" to you at all. It sucks that he did this, but it also on her too, as like I said, she agreed to go out with him after you two had gone out on a date...so that means she doesn't like you as much. Now you know how he is and don't need to be a friend to him or have him in your life.

 

She may be a nice girl but not the best or only girl in the world...you will like plenty of others who will also like you in return. So focus on other things and in time you will get over it.