Jackson232 Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 (edited) we were together on and off for 8 months...basically she cheated on me with her best friend and then she told me she doesnt know if she wants to stay with me or be with the guy she cheated on me...i then went to her house told her how i feel and she started crying and was crying for five hours so i stayed with her, then i told her to decide what she wants...then the next day i started talking **** about the guy and she started going out with him....then for a whole month i stuck around, sometimes i called her a bitch, sometimes i cried, told her how i still love her etc. then we went no contact after two weeks i sent her a text and we started texting...then 2 days later she said she is confused and doesnt want to hear from me or about me....then 3 weeks later we got together again...we talked and everything was fine...but then i got drunk and told her she should just drop dead....but we worked that out and we went no contact...it's 8 days now...so do i still have a chance at this or did i mess up by sticking around calling her names, talking **** about the guy, telling her how i still love her what she means to me etc...plus she says this guy is better than me in every way, and she doesnt love me anymore and she thinks that her love for me shifted on to this other guy or something like that (i dunno)...so is there still a chance? Edited June 23, 2012 by Jackson232 Link to post Share on other sites
MooBear Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 To be brutally honest, no there is not a good chance. But that's not because of you, she has screwed this up. She's gone in between you and a friend of yours - all the while knowing how you feel about her. She comes back when she feels like it and you accept it. The best thing you could do is to let go of her and move on. That girl is going to be nothing but a heartache. BUT if you are determined that you want to be with her, then you two need to talk. Seriously talk about everything and work it out. It's my feeling that she doesn't want to be in a relationship which is why she is acting that way, so you need to talk to her openly. Link to post Share on other sites
LovelyDaze Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 Ugh. SO much horrific drama. The question shouldn't be if you still have a chance, but you should ask yourself WHY do you want to get back with her period? She proved she can't be trusted by cheating with the best friend, she basically insulted you by saying the other guy is better than you, AND that she doesn't love you anymore. Ask yourself...why do you want the drama and why do you want a person that said and does these things back? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jackson232 Posted June 23, 2012 Author Share Posted June 23, 2012 because i love her Link to post Share on other sites
Gulf-Delta Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 Girls who act conflicted like that are not likely to return I'd think. Your chances would look better if she were straight up cold-shouldering you. Link to post Share on other sites
LovelyDaze Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 because i love her Brilliant, but what kind of love is she showing you? Gosh, you need to believe that you deserve better than that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jackson232 Posted June 24, 2012 Author Share Posted June 24, 2012 (edited) Brilliant, but what kind of love is she showing you? Gosh, you need to believe that you deserve better than that. well...surely she's not gonna tell me she still loves me if she is with this other guy...but she chased me for 2 months when i gave in...we started dating we broke up 2 times in 8 months and we always got back together...i mean she's 16 im 19...plus when we broke up she said that she will never meet another guy like me, and hopes we could be together in 10 years when she gets more serious :/...but now she changed all that and probably because of the way i acted towards her...now she is saying she was embaressed going out with me, i make her depressed, and doesnt love me anymore....so i don't know Edited June 24, 2012 by Jackson232 Link to post Share on other sites
BB7 Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 She's acting like a 16 year old. Move on mate. You'll be okay. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jackson232 Posted June 24, 2012 Author Share Posted June 24, 2012 so what if she is 16? Link to post Share on other sites
BB7 Posted June 25, 2012 Share Posted June 25, 2012 Her immaturity is showing through and it is only going to lead to more heart break for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jackson232 Posted June 25, 2012 Author Share Posted June 25, 2012 i dont think i could be more heartbroken then now :/...it's just a mind**** for me...we broke up and everything was fine at that point i wanted to be mature and act like i dont care...but i think it was when she said that she hopes we could be together in 10 years when she gets more serious...and that she was crying to me for 5 five hours telling me she doesnt know what she wants and i was telling her how much i still love her, how im willing to change, it doesnt make sense, im gonna kick his ass etc....and now 2 months later she says she doesnt love me anymore, she was ashamed of going out with me in public, she cant stand me...but i was pretty extreme on her at times, plus her parents kinda hate me for pounding and crying inside my car by their house after we said we shouldn't see or talk to each other for at least a month and I was pretty loud :/....and i hate myself now for being such a pussy and needy and crying to her...but at the time it felt right...or i dont know...or maybe i just want to get back beacuse i want to kick this guy's ass and then broke her heart like she did mine.... Link to post Share on other sites
LovelyDaze Posted June 27, 2012 Share Posted June 27, 2012 i dont think i could be more heartbroken then now :/...it's just a mind**** for me...we broke up and everything was fine at that point i wanted to be mature and act like i dont care...but i think it was when she said that she hopes we could be together in 10 years when she gets more serious...and that she was crying to me for 5 five hours telling me she doesnt know what she wants and i was telling her how much i still love her, how im willing to change, it doesnt make sense, im gonna kick his ass etc....and now 2 months later she says she doesnt love me anymore, she was ashamed of going out with me in public, she cant stand me...but i was pretty extreme on her at times, plus her parents kinda hate me for pounding and crying inside my car by their house after we said we shouldn't see or talk to each other for at least a month and I was pretty loud :/....and i hate myself now for being such a pussy and needy and crying to her...but at the time it felt right...or i dont know...or maybe i just want to get back beacuse i want to kick this guy's ass and then broke her heart like she did mine.... Sure, you want to but definitely don't do anything that will make this even worse. Not to put age into it but she is a 16 year old girl. I am twice as much older now but I do remember being 16: confusion, immaturity, naivety, and just clueless about what a mature & loving relationship is about. She doesn't have the life experience to understand what commitment means. I don't care if she has dated 1 or 100 guys. She is still 16 and actually ACTING like the 16 year old she is. I'm sorry, this is not destined to become a forever unless you both have matured later down the line with the ability to compromise, work together, care for one another genuinely, selfless, uplifting regarding each other's futures in career and life and at the same time, care for yourself without the other person taking advantage of you. Took me over 30 years of life to figure that out! At 19, you are also still coming into your own so you will most likely meet and fall for many girls/women before you figure out WHAT type of woman you are looking for. No doubt that your feelings are real for your ex but also recognize what else is real: her lack of interest on working things out with you. Whether your are 19 or 91, a person like that...is not going to make you happy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jackson232 Posted June 28, 2012 Author Share Posted June 28, 2012 she sent me a text saying'' sorry for the text but im wondering just for the info if u still have dreams about me:)'' how should i reply? Link to post Share on other sites
Gulf-Delta Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 she sent me a text saying'' sorry for the text but im wondering just for the info if u still have dreams about me:)'' how should i reply? Depends on the vibe/message you wanna send. You could be spiteful and a jerk, you could ignore it. Most will say ignore it, and that's probably the best thing to do, however it isn't very mature....I have no idea. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jackson232 Posted June 28, 2012 Author Share Posted June 28, 2012 i guess ill be a jerk and ignore it :/ Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jackson232 Posted June 28, 2012 Author Share Posted June 28, 2012 fck...i replied with "not really"...and she replies..."okay cool, thx" Link to post Share on other sites
Plan 9 from OS Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 Jackson232, you need to grow up and find someone old enough to vote. Also, don't ever take a 16 year old girl seriously when she says I've never met anyone as intersting, fascinating, etc. etc. Of course she probably hasn't because she is only 16. How many times has she texted you back and forth while she was in class? Get a grip and move on. She needs to spend time with her friends and date kids her age. You need to start dating people who are at least 18 years old or older. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jackson232 Posted June 28, 2012 Author Share Posted June 28, 2012 i know that...that is why i didnt want to be with her in the first place but she was chasing me for a month and i gave in...now it's the other way around ...so did i sent her the right reply? Link to post Share on other sites
Plan 9 from OS Posted June 29, 2012 Share Posted June 29, 2012 i know that...that is why i didnt want to be with her in the first place but she was chasing me for a month and i gave in...now it's the other way around ...so did i sent her the right reply? Whatever reply you can send that would get her out of your life is the correct one. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jackson232 Posted June 29, 2012 Author Share Posted June 29, 2012 i dont want her out of my life...i've been with girls my age, over my age and under...when i had to let go it was no problem...but with her its been three months now and i still feel like ****...yes she is young imature and naive and i wasnt the best bf since i took her for granted...im willing to do absolutely anything to get her back...i dont care if im an idiot or stupid for wanting her back after all she did to me Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jackson232 Posted July 3, 2012 Author Share Posted July 3, 2012 (edited) wow...this one's a winner ...a friend of mine got into an argument with her last night about how he hopes one day she'll be sorry for doing this and that i am one of the best persons he knows...she told him that i am a putz...so like an idiot i send her a text the next day that she should watch what she is saying...she got nervous, saying how she doesnt care if everybody hates her now, telling her that she just used me and that i was such a nice guy to her and that everybody think she is a **** for doing this to me...i told her what did you expect, you cheated on me, left me for another guy, and didn't care that i still wanted to make it work, then i said she is naive, confused and doesnt know what she wants and that i wish her the best with her new bf...i didnt respond to her next text Edited July 3, 2012 by Jackson232 Link to post Share on other sites
Charlie25 Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 Ok, to be honest, we can't tell you how you should feel. I believe most people look at cheating as a deal breaker, some don't. You need to sit down and discuss this like adults, back and forth texting and mixed signals will only add to the drama. But to be honest, this girl looks like trouble Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jackson232 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Share Posted July 21, 2012 (edited) really messed up here....so i told her that i might not be around for long because i might have caught something from smoking cigarettes...she then called me all drunk and said she still likes me....we went for a drink and talked for 2-3 hours...we talked like we used to talk when we were together and actaully said that she might have messed up for leaving me and that she cries once a week and misses my bed ...then when i dropped her at home i wanted to kiss her and she got mad at me...then like a stupid ******* i got drunk and i ran into her two days later and her new boyfriend and i punched him....she sent me a text saying its over between us forever to never contact her and that if she sees me again she might punch me that i havent been the same since we broke up and is kinda afraid of me...i sent her a text saying...i am so sorry, i was drunk and if he would let me i want to apolagize to him, i never meant to hurt you even if you sometimes thought so, if you want to get back at me do what you want...she hasn't responded Edited July 21, 2012 by Jackson232 Link to post Share on other sites
Plan 9 from OS Posted July 22, 2012 Share Posted July 22, 2012 really messed up here....so i told her that i might not be around for long because i might have caught something from smoking cigarettes...she then called me all drunk and said she still likes me....we went for a drink and talked for 2-3 hours...we talked like we used to talk when we were together and actaully said that she might have messed up for leaving me and that she cries once a week and misses my bed ...then when i dropped her at home i wanted to kiss her and she got mad at me...then like a stupid ******* i got drunk and i ran into her two days later and her new boyfriend and i punched him....she sent me a text saying its over between us forever to never contact her and that if she sees me again she might punch me that i havent been the same since we broke up and is kinda afraid of me...i sent her a text saying...i am so sorry, i was drunk and if he would let me i want to apolagize to him, i never meant to hurt you even if you sometimes thought so, if you want to get back at me do what you want...she hasn't responded Sounds like this is getting better by the month. Let me guess. She is now dating a 16/17 year old from her high school and you clocked him one. Find someone your own age and move on already. What's the charge for assaulting a minor? Link to post Share on other sites
princess_e Posted July 28, 2012 Share Posted July 28, 2012 Wow why would you wanna be with a girl liek that? (Dont say because you love her- be practical and think about why being with her would be good for you) Its not even just the part where she cheated, she doesnt even seem remorseful. She seems to be stringing you and the other dude along at the same time. If she cant make up her mind, you shouldnt be letting her toy around with your emotions in the meantime. I dont think you screwed up, I think she did, and just keeps doing so while you are accepting all of it. Link to post Share on other sites
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