QUESTIONS Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 Here is my story... I have been dating this guy for two years.. he proposed to my X-mas time, I accepted. There has always been 1 sticking point in our relationship... He works nights and I work days. He also does side things on the side. He wants to do things when he wants to do them. Barely any time for me..(but when we are together.. it is GREAT) .. He constantly tells me how much he loves me. I even made concessions about not seeing him as much. But at least a phone call a day. Well he showed me.. he didn't call me for a week and 1/2 ... this is a couple that is to be married??? I don't think so. We talked.. I went up there again and again.. He said nothing is wrong.. I love you.. I don't want to this to be over. He told me everything I wanted to hear. I gave him chances to tell me what was wrong.. CLOSED MOUTH TO SAY THE LEAST... he would tell me what I wanted to hear then do the complete opposite. I treated him with kindness, respect love honor,e tc. of course I'm not perfect.. but then no one is. I just wanted some closure at this point.. IF YOU DON'T WANT TO BE WITH ME.. be a man and tell me .... or tell me what is wrong. So the last time we talked for 2 hours.. and he told me we reached a "stronghold" in our relationship.. we would either get passed it or not. So the same day we make arrangement to go to the movies.. he neither shows up or calls.. I have had it... but have I..??? I call him up on Tuesday and say I can't let you hurt me anymore.. yada yada yada.. It hurts... but how do you explain that you are engaged to be married to someone and you don't have enough balls to explain why??? I cry and cry ... of course... I get mad and madder... and frustrated.. and feel like running up there... but that feeling passes.. HE HAS THE UPPER HAND.. because of all the times I went running up there.. I use my friends as a sounding board and everytime I feel like calling, I call one of them. I am wondering... I believe it may be because he didn't want to change his lifestyle.. NOT CHANGE.. I WASN'T ASKING HIM TO CHANGE.. I was asking him to COMPROMISE... seems he could do that. Am I living in a fanasty world.. by hoping.. that if I don't contact him.. and he wonders where I am.. HOW COME SHE ISN'T RUNNING AFTER ME.. that he will call and maybe try to change.??? and realize what a gem I am...lol... Its been three days since I broke it off with him.. and no calls.. nada... On the other hand.. how dare he not be a man and end it the right way... ignoring my calls and telling me everything is fine????? whats up with that.. coward.. if you ask me... But he does have other great qualities.. if we could just get past the selfishness... How can you lose something so great... but I guess he didn't feel it was so great... If feel that if I would have been the meek and mild type ... and not said.. I dont' see you that often... we would still be together... BUT IN A RELATIONSHIP.. I will tell you when things are just not right.. as well as tell you when things are wonderful. We didn't fight, didn't have words.. well I talked... then nada... any suggestions... Do you think he will call after awhile? I know that I have a lot of great qualities.. and that in time.. I will find someone to appreciate these qualities.. but I really thought it would be him... Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 It doesn't matter if he calls. If he does call, you should be out with your new boyfriend who treats you with respect. Don't answer if he calls. I don't have much time to write, but basically this guy is a jerk and you were NOT expecting too much of him. Link to post Share on other sites
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