coco24 Posted July 2, 2004 Share Posted July 2, 2004 It is getting worse. Today it got so bad I ended up having my own mother and brother coming over. My boyfriend's mother is from East Africa and she is here for 10 monthss. She has been here for 8 full months now and my patience has worn off and it seems she is trying to ruin our relationship on purpose. We have had several talks between families and it is just getting worse. She has tried everything from staring at me to talking to my boyfrined and saying that I do not let her play with our youngest child (she says it when I am not there) so that by the time I get home my boyfriend is against me. I feel like this, a typical day with her is I get up after my boyfriend leaves for work, I get the kids together (she'll be in her room minding her business). She does not come out of her room unless I leave the house or if she's really hungry or has to use the bathroom. Now that school is out she does not even attempt come into the kitchen if I am in the kitchen. Once I leave the kitchen, she'll enter the kitchen. If I enter the house and she is sitting in the living room,like last night, she will leave the room. It's like she does not want to be in the same room with me. If we are going to cross tracks in the house, she moves back like I am the devil or something. She will stay in her room all day other than that until her son comes home. Then...it starts. Everyday at 3:45 she sits in this one spot and stares at the door to wait for her son to come home. If I am not home, she'll even cook dinner just for him (none for me or the kids) One time she waited for 4 hours on the couch until he came home. There is even a dent in the couch. She offers him bread/dinner but does not offer me anything. If he is outside, she watches out the window. It is irritating. Last week she cooked for her and her son and she has such a strategy because she thought I would go to sleep by 8pm so the dinner sat there from 4pm to 9pm until her son said aren't you going to eat mom? It's been sitting there since he came home. She murmered something to hime and he asked what the kids were going to eat. She told him I don't like her food thats why she did not cook for me. That is not the case. Well what about the kids if it was. She still did not cook for them. The said thing is my boyfrined approached her about it but he justified her reason for not cooking for me. That is not right. There have been atleast 100 things that she has done, with strategy, to help ruin our relationship and I do not want him to disrespect his mom, but at this point I feel like she is in my domain and she is up in it toooo much. For someone who does not know too much English she sure does know how to control her sons actions. I actually went to a psychic, because she has these beads and I found some dirt-like substance in her suitcase when she was sick. I am not the psychic type, but his mom is from Africa and I did not know what that dirt is and those beads being shaken at 3:45 am scares the **** out of me and I am afraid. The psychic immediately asked me is she into magic or is she magical. (What the hell is that supposed to mean?) Is she putting a spell on my boyfriend or something? He also said she is testing me. and she has to be in control. He is right about that. Since then, I told my boyfriend and I asked if she can move into the basement to lesson the pressure in the house. Like her doing dishes and moving things where she wants them. Not watching my children properly--she just ignores them most of the time. When I am gone and I here her playing with my youngest, then when I enter the room she immediately shuts up. That can drive any woman crazy. Because of all this, me and my boyfrien may break-up. What should I do. He does not even kiss me good-bye any more. Link to post Share on other sites
supermom Posted July 3, 2004 Share Posted July 3, 2004 Are these his children too? He needs to remove her tit from his mouth so he can be a man and stick up for and the kids. Sorry so harsh but he sounds like a mamma's boy and this is why I can't stand them! [/i]sorry about the bad joke, i couldn't help it! Link to post Share on other sites
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