compgeek2004 Posted July 3, 2004 Share Posted July 3, 2004 Title says it all I'm 20 and still not gotten any kinda date or gf..Well how do I find one...I go to school and see all these girls talking to these guys or there on their cell phones and I just assume they are talkin to their bf's or whatever..I act very positive when talkin to people I don't walk around with my head down or anything and I smile and talk to people so what am I doin wrong?..is school not a good place to be lookin if it isn't where is a good one? Any help on this I really appreciate Link to post Share on other sites
ceek Posted July 3, 2004 Share Posted July 3, 2004 It's not just up to the other person to ask you out you know. If you talk to someone you like - ask them out for coffee or something. The worst they can do is say no! Finding people to go out with is less about looks and more about confidence. You sound like you have some confidence, so use it to talk to people and let them know you are interested. If the person is available and thinks you are ok they will give you a go - they will defiantely be flattered that you asked. They might be just as shy as you, and waiting for you to make a move - who knows! If noone has the guts to ask, nothing is going to happen You can do it! Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
dudesomewhere Posted July 3, 2004 Share Posted July 3, 2004 it's a simple thing really...all about making a match...just depends on how many of them you want to light, lol. I'm not a numbers guy and I've always felt very comfortable having little experience as they say. All through middle and high school I never wanted a gf. College maybe, but nothing but drunk party girls, lol. And that I didn't want either. Only after I hit 21 did I feel I needed to start. So, basically don't ever feel you need to have one, when she comes along...she'll hit you so hard you'll be dazed and like it look around you, good looking ppl...not so good looking ppl...absolutely grotesque ppl, they have someone because of that match thing...or many times they've given up on hope so you'll see that couple that makes you go huh. Not because they're physically different but because one seems obviously miserable while the other acts the ass. eh? What a long winded story huh? hehe hey, if you want a cellphone jackass...be a cellphone jackass. You know, those that have no clue of ettiquette when using one. There is also something called the dating game and you may want to do that...I don't play that game so I don't get around. Play it and you'll score aplenty though . Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted July 3, 2004 Share Posted July 3, 2004 You're just not hanging around the girls that put out, that's all. From what I understand, school (college?) is a great place to meet people. Link to post Share on other sites
Burg Posted July 3, 2004 Share Posted July 3, 2004 It's hard. Are you a guy who's never kissed a girl or who has SOME experience? Link to post Share on other sites
J_weik Posted July 3, 2004 Share Posted July 3, 2004 "You're just not hanging around the girls that put out, that's all. From what I understand, school (college?) is a great place to meet people." If hes never had a girlfriend, or anything like that, i doubt he wants a girl that "put out." Thats a heartbreak waiting to happen. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted July 3, 2004 Share Posted July 3, 2004 I think you're right to be sking questions, 20 years with no gf is bad news! I also think you want the benefits without putting in the effort. Boy, girls like a man who's confident. And one is confident about something, weather it's looks, brains, culture, taste in clothes or money. MAke your pick and start putting in the effort: like work out, read more, learn more, make friends and get intouch with people. Get more involved in school activites, talks, projects and then the confidence thing will come along. So will girls' attention! Somy advice: it must come from within, not from outside. It's not them, it is you! Change, redefine yourself for yourself! Link to post Share on other sites
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