What do i do when my girlfriend kissed one of my friends?

[Garrett98]

Please i need help. One of my good friends went over my girlfriends house to hang out and they ended up kissing. I am so confused cause i dont know ehat to do. Before they kissed she told him she didnt really want to be with me, and thats the part im confused about because she tells me she loves me, sometimes writes me sorta long measages telling me she loves me but i dont really know if she loves me or not. I love her so much but i dont know if she feels the same. I really dont want to break up with her but i dont want her to break up with me also. Please any advise would help i dont know what to do. PLEASE help!

[Philosoraptor]

End the relationship. She's going to leave you and is looking for a safe place to land so she doesn't have to be single.

 

She's already said she doesn't want to be with you... that's enough. Save yourself extra pain and just end things now. She'll get what she wants which is to be away from you, and you'll get a head start on healing.

[Garrett98]

Its just really hard cause i love her so much. She only told him she dosnt want to be with me because she thinks she is doing everything wrong, she said its all on her but...i dont know...im mad, sad and everything else. I just dont know what to do. ):

[Philosoraptor]

Yea yea, that's total garbage. She's covering her butt just in case she can't find another spot to land. She's going to leave, it's just a matter of when. You'd be best off ending it sooner than later to cut your own pain down.

[Garrett98]

yea, iguess your right. ):

[Philosoraptor]

yea, iguess your right. ):

It's not fun to hear, but you needed to hear it. It's going to hurt but it's better now than in a few weeks when she decides she has a new man and you're disposable.

[Garrett98]

Your right but shes always telling me how much she loves me and how she wont leave me but i dont know if i can belive that. I mean like how can you tell if their telling the truth or not??

[Philosoraptor]

Your right but shes always telling me how much she loves me and how she wont leave me but i dont know if i can belive that. I mean like how can you tell if their telling the truth or not??

You can't. But she has proven herself as untrustworthy if nothing else.

[Garrett98]

I mean is there anyway that i can tell that she loves me and is not just going out with me cause she feels sorry for me. Like for example, always telling her how much i love you her and she dosnt show how much she loves me back?

[Philosoraptor]

I mean is there anyway that i can tell that she loves me and is not just going out with me cause she feels sorry for me. Like for example, always telling her how much i love you her and she dosnt show how much she loves me back?

If you have to question it you've already got your answer. Someone who loves you doesn't kiss other people nor do they say that they really don't want to be with you.

[Garrett98]

I just want to know if she loves me or not. i have asked her before and she said" well i mean yes".

[Philosoraptor]

I just want to know if she loves me or not. i have asked her before and she said" well i mean yes".

Love is shown by actions not words. She has simply done everything to show that she does not.

[Garrett98]

But see when we hang out shes all lovey dovey and stuff... its just so hard to break up with someone u truly love...

[Philosoraptor]

But see when we hang out shes all lovey dovey and stuff... its just so hard to break up with someone u truly love...

Look I didn't want to get into it but how old are the two of you?

[Garrett98]

haha we are both 14. but i have nothing but love for her.

[Philosoraptor]

haha we are both 14. but i have nothing but love for her.

Ugh... do whatever you want. I remember that age and those crazy thoughts. No one is going to stop you from getting hurt no matter how much advice you're given.

 

Just try to have fun at that age. Don't worry so much about relationships as you'll never have this much freedom again.