pcustoms Posted June 26, 2012 Share Posted June 26, 2012 Short story. I cheated on wife 2yrs ago n produced a son. She stood by me in court n i got full custody of my son. We never got divorced or split up. After court i needed help changing name so had contact with my sons bio mom n let her see him a couple times in 2mnths slab of time. I cut contact with her after got his name changed an seen the contact affected my marriage. 2mnths after cut contact my wife gets a fb mess from a old classmate n she told me its odd as they never really talked in HS n he tells her he had a crush on her. She told me not to worry as she thought it was flatering n left it at that. Then 2 weeks after that i find out she met up with him after girls night out n later he asked for sexual pics. I contacted him n told him shes married n i dont feel that if they want to stsy friends he gotta understand shes off limits n its not to ever cross being friends. 3 mnths later things didnt feel right she was lieing bout lil things hiding her phone n her talking bout day events was getting shady. She said im be parinoid. I added an app to her phone 1 day n boom catch a text they had that sounded like they met up at his house. I confronted her n she said no they didnt meet up. 4days later i put app back on an i come home n check it n boom its talking how tight she is n how he cant wait 2 days to be inside her again. N i snapped. Woke her up n we had hug arguement.. things settled n we dicided we can work past this but she needs to end it. She said ok n meets with him to tell him nicely that her n i are goin to work our marriage out. N then week later behind my back she meets with him n i caught it. She said alk they did was talk n theres nothing wrong with hanging out with a friend n i said if u have to hided n lie bout it its wrong n it means the affair is still continueing. She feels even tho they arnt having sex that the affair is continueing. I told her to move foward n rebuild he cant be in our lives no more. Hes not in it for the friendship but for the sex. She said no hes dif. My wife n i have 4 kids together plus my 1 with another. Shes 28 n very beautiful n im 29. Her n i get along good with normal bills n money fighting n sex life has always been great. But seems we really fight n argue bout him when he text her n ask her to meet. Tell its like spitting in my face by continueing contact with guy. What should we do. I know we can rebuild n move foward. Just without him untill our trust is better n we can see if we truly can work it out. Said he cant be the blame if hes not in pic if our marriage fails. He continues contact it will cause fights n put a wedge in our life. What should we do? Lost Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted June 26, 2012 Share Posted June 26, 2012 My guess is she's not over your cheating on her. She wants the OM to stay in the pic and torment you and remind you of her betrayal just like your child with the OW reminds her. I'm not blaming an innocent child, but I'm guessing that she's resentful of the constant reminder and of what you did to her. She may have stayed, but she's certainly not over it. Link to post Share on other sites
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