Will this kind of "love" last? Is this even love?

[ltensail]

My love experience is minimal and I've been through this kind of scenario 2 times.

 

First off, getting attracted with a girl's looks, mannerism and charisma like most other guys do. Take action and date her out.

 

Problem here is the things I asked about her during the date aren't what I genuinely want to know. E.g. what she does during her free-time, her family members, what she likes/dislikes, what's her aspiration, etc etc.. They are used to avoid awkward silence on first date.

 

I don't genuinely care about her life or want to know!

(But of course, I will still remember these things about her just like normal conversation between friends.)

 

Is this kind of "love" just surviving on pure attraction? And they will die off fast?

 

Does anyone understand this kind of situation I'm trying to convey?

Does true love only starts from friends?

 

Edit: Oh and, it is definitely not lust. Because I'm not obsessed with bedding the girl.

Edited June 27, 2012 by ltensail

[Philosoraptor]

Well you don't fall in love on the first date. Dating is a means of getting to know someone and figuring out if you'd like a future with them.

 

If you don't want to know about someone's life then what is it you do want to know about them?

[ltensail]

Well, I guess there's two kind of knowing I feel.

 

1. Just pure questioning for info's sake and keeping the conversation alive.

You know this when you feels like it is turning into an interrogating conversation

 

2. Queries genuinely come from concern and really keen to know.

For example, asking about her family because I really know what kind of environment she grew up in. How does that shape her characters etc.. I really want to know

 

Yep, I think I explained my point. I'm coming from point no. 1.

 

Can anyone see from my point of view?