SRS Posted June 27, 2012 Share Posted June 27, 2012 Had an argument with my GF a few weeks ago over her spending time with her GFs partying at clubs. I understand gals night out but felt it was a bit excessive. So we made up and she assured me it was just to chit chat and have a few drinks etc. After this we are still intimate but Ive noticed she doesnt text me intimate thoughts anymore. No more kisses by txt and less kissing in person but we still make love. Just this week we are together and someone calls her. A quick call but it ended with her making a sound like she was receiving some kisses over the phone from someone. At the same time she was expecting a call from her GF I assumed it was her GF but am getting second doubs. I didnt want to appear intrusive by asking her but it bugs me a lot. Another time some guy (clearly it was a guy) calls her and she kind of blows him off by saying shes busy. It appeared she had not talked the guy for a long time but she did ask if he can be reached at that number. Am bothered by all this as my feeling is something is going on. Yet we spend a lot of time together. Could these be past guys who have chased her? Shes introduced me to all her GFs including the ones she parties with but Im not sure that means anything. We are presented as a very in love couple to her gals and family but something doesnt feel right. My own wild thoughts or is stomething going on? How to proceed? Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted June 27, 2012 Share Posted June 27, 2012 Had an argument with my GF a few weeks ago over her spending time with her GFs partying at clubs. If you know my take on being with someone that parties too much, much less goes clubbing, then you'll know I'm going to tell you to find a better girl. Partiers and clubbers are not trustworthy. Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 If you know my take on being with someone that parties too much, much less goes clubbing, then you'll know I'm going to tell you to find a better girl. Partiers and clubbers are not trustworthy. I like to party and go clubbing. I am 25, and love to be social in that way. I am trustworthy. I would NEVER cheat. How dare you tell me I am not trustworthy. I do not go out everyweekend - I have a weekend off in between drinking, for health. I also enjoy going to museums, and have hobbies and interests besides partying. Not all people that party are idiots, who can not be trusted. SRS - she sounds like one of those girls who parties and cannot be trusted. Some people that go out to clubs a lot do tend to like to make themselves feel more popular, by being social and having guys like them. You know, they will see a guy, and also flirt with other guys. These girls are immature and bad news. A girl like me can go out and manage to keep her legs spread, though. I only bother having boyfriends very much like, and end up loving - and would never cheat on. I do not get blinde drunk often, and when I am very wasted it is only in the company of my boyfriend. I would never put myself in a position where I was too drunk, without my boyfriend. Being THAt drunk, it is easy for a girl to lay back and get raped, or to lose control. I am WAY too scared of losing my boyfriend, to allow myself to get that drunk with he is not around.............. If I got raped fair enough, but if I remembered doing it, and just let it happen because I was too drunk to remember how much I loved my bf - I would tell him, knowing he would end it. If he did not end it, I would make him end it, because cheating is absolutely a deal breaker. Link to post Share on other sites
Reddice Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 A sudden shift in behaviour, as the one you're describing, does not happen without a reason. You had an argument, but made up, so this shouldn't be the reason. Also, your gut feeling is acting up. I can tell you, ALWAYS trust your gut feeling. When you start "feeling" that something is wrong, that is because something most definately is wrong. In my last relationship, my gut was telling me the same thing. I ignored the feeling, thinking she would never cheat on me, disrespect me, lie to me or deceive me... Boy was I wrong! Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 I like to party and go clubbing. I am 25, and love to be social in that way. I am trustworthy. I would NEVER cheat. How dare you tell me I am not trustworthy. I do not go out everyweekend - I have a weekend off in between drinking, for health. I also enjoy going to museums, and have hobbies and interests besides partying. Not all people that party are idiots, who can not be trusted. Maybe not "all", just most. Sorry, but I'll let experience guide me. I've never known anyone that parties or clubs to be trustworthy. Are there exceptions? Sure, but its like winning the lottery. There is a slim chance you'll win, but the odds are against it, just like the odds are against being able to trust a partier. If you are the exception, great. Perhaps 1 in 10 pit bulls would never harm anyone, but I'm not going to leave my child alone with one. Link to post Share on other sites
Robert P Posted June 29, 2012 Share Posted June 29, 2012 It depends on your standars. I would not date a girl who drinks a lot and goes out with friends at night clubs often. It's not my kind of girl, since I don't like those things. What's more, it's hard to find girls who get drunk and still stay firm and solid on their beliefs. Women get drunk easily. And I know that most women (not all, but definitely most) can't control themselves when they're totally drunk and surrounded by guys trying to know her better, if you know what I mean. If I have a girlfriend, flirting (even if nothing else happens) doesn't exist in my world and it definitely shouldn't exist in her world either. Link to post Share on other sites
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