CMathie Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 I've always struggled with cheating. It just seems to find me and I wish I could explain it better. My wife of 6 years caught me 3 years ago. I love her and am not sure why I did it. We work different schedules so I wind up with free time and her not around. It was a friend of a friend from work and it just happened. Anyway my wife has always had a dominant side but it's gotten much bigger since. I got a literal ass beating afterwards (I accepted it reluctantly) and I've had one other since then too for coming home drunk. I also agreed to start wearing panties all the time. This is to remind me she is in charge and to make me less likely to take my pants off with anyone else as well as giving her some peace of mind. It's very strange but it makes a big difference in my behavior. Like I said I've struggled with this and I think this emasculation is one of the only things that's made a real difference. I was just curious if anyone else has ever heard of this or experienced it.
whichwayisup Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Wearing panties is not going to stop you from cheating on your wife. And no, it didn't "just" happen by accident. You didn't fall and accidently slip yourself into a willing vagina that wasn't your wife's.. You chose to cheat, please own that. To say I don't know why, or it just happen is such crap and an out for you so you won't have to feel remorse, feel guilty/bad, or even work on yourself to find out why you can't stay faithful. 2
2sure Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Thanks for the panties advice, I will forward it to my exH new girlfriend. FINALLY... A cure?? 4
2sure Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 I think this posters wife is on to something. I was kidding at first, but when you think about it...it's brilliant. But. OP if it was so easy to cheat on your wife would it not be even easier to change your underwear in the car?
Author CMathie Posted June 27, 2012 Author Posted June 27, 2012 Okay, so valid point, and I know I'm over simplifying the issue.. I accept it was my choice, wish I had a better explanation for why I've made that choice most of the times. It wasn't full on sex, not that it matters i suppose Anyway if you really want to know. She's there picking them out or providing input when I buy the panties. I can't get away with the boyshorts, it's mostly high cut bikinis, thongs and the like. I don't like wearing the thongs, I got my first one a year ago, she's been making me wear them more often lately in an effort to make me get used to them. I think I've had a thong on the past two weeks at least... It's just obnoxious having it up your ass all day. My cheating was pretty spontaneous, I don't have any men's underwear anymore and if she found me with some I'm sure I'd get a whipping.
Plan 9 from OS Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I have a hard time buying this thread. This sounds like some erotic fiction that someone wrote in order for people to indulge in the dominatrix/massochist fetish. I think this is a bunch of crap. However, if this is true then this marriage is dead IMO. One of the important parts of a marriage is mutual respect for each other, i.e. that both of you are in love to the point that neither of you wants to see the other belittled, humiliated or treated like dirt. Your cheating was bad and needs to be addressed. However, your wife is trying to get her pound of flesh. You can't fix a marriage by demanding that pound of flesh for payment/retribution. You'll only be going down the rabbit hole even further by continuing on this route. 1
Ducky23 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I have a hard time buying this thread. This sounds like some erotic fiction that someone wrote in order for people to indulge in the dominatrix/massochist fetish. I think this is a bunch of crap. However, if this is true then this marriage is dead IMO. One of the important parts of a marriage is mutual respect for each other, i.e. that both of you are in love to the point that neither of you wants to see the other belittled, humiliated or treated like dirt. Your cheating was bad and needs to be addressed. However, your wife is trying to get her pound of flesh. You can't fix a marriage by demanding that pound of flesh for payment/retribution. You'll only be going down the rabbit hole even further by continuing on this route. OP, do you feel as though your wife is trying to get her "pound of flesh" by forcing you to wear panties? Do you feel humiliated by having to wear panties? Has your relationship devolved into this "Dom/sub" relationship, or did you marry this woman knowing that it would be this way? Plan 9, these are relevant questions for a number of reasons. I know a lot of masochistic people who would DIE to be in this man's position, where either the woman was able to "humiliate" the submissive man or vice versa. Because this is a part of their marriage, if he knew what he was signing up for in the first place, I don't believe that the marriage is "dead". There are alternative lifestyles and he may very well love her for her dominance. I don't hear him screaming "THIS IS UNFAIR! THIS IS NOT WHAT I SIGNED UP FOR!" I hear him asking "has anyone else gone through this?" His cheating is the issue, and if he's "okay" with her "punishment" of him, then what's the problem? Otherwise yes, the marriage is dead and I don't think even counseling could fix their problems. OP, have you considered therapy for your cheating issues?
alexandria35 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Okay, so valid point, and I know I'm over simplifying the issue.. I accept it was my choice, wish I had a better explanation for why I've made that choice most of the times. It wasn't full on sex, not that it matters i suppose Anyway if you really want to know. She's there picking them out or providing input when I buy the panties. I can't get away with the boyshorts, it's mostly high cut bikinis, thongs and the like. I don't like wearing the thongs, I got my first one a year ago, she's been making me wear them more often lately in an effort to make me get used to them. I think I've had a thong on the past two weeks at least... It's just obnoxious having it up your ass all day. My cheating was pretty spontaneous, I don't have any men's underwear anymore and if she found me with some I'm sure I'd get a whipping. LOLOLOLOL...this thread is cracking me up. 2
firemanq Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Hey, are they granny panties? If they are thongs, do they cut off the circulation? Do you have pictures?
thomasb Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 (edited) Nice of you too stop by and mock the BS's. Perhaps if you have a real question about marriages between the WS and BS you can come back and ask them respectfully. The BS doesn't make the WS stay with them and they don't have our balls in their purse. We are with them because we CHOSE them. And you need to get over it. Edited June 28, 2012 by thomasb 2
2sure Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 @thomasb.....Really? The post was some hidden agenda thing? I didn't catch that. But you're right.
OpenBook Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Nice of you too stop by and mock the BS's. Perhaps if you have a real question about marriages between the WS and BS you can come back and ask them respectfully. The BS doesn't make the WS stay with them and they don't have our balls in their purse. We are with them because we CHOSE them. And you need to get over it. So what color is YOUR parachute, thomasb? ;) Seriously, lighten up! Some guys get off on wearing women's underwear. I've heard worse. If it works in their M, why knock it? No need to jump to the vitriolic conclusions. I don't get why some of you BS's always claim to know the hearts & intentions of other posters BETTER THAN THE POSTERS THEMSELVES DO. You don't!!! What's wrong with taking the post at face value?
thomasb Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 So what color is YOUR parachute, thomasb? ;) Seriously, lighten up! Some guys get off on wearing women's underwear. I've heard worse. If it works in their M, why knock it? No need to jump to the vitriolic conclusions. I don't get why some of you BS's always claim to know the hearts & intentions of other posters BETTER THAN THE POSTERS THEMSELVES DO. You don't!!! What's wrong with taking the post at face value?\ Well. nice of you to jump to conclusions without knowing thing one about me! I was a MM. Not a BS. Get over yourself too.
OpenBook Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 \ Well. nice of you to jump to conclusions without knowing thing one about me! I was a MM. Not a BS. Get over yourself too. Ok Ok, you got me. But you still didn't answer my question. ;) :D:D:D:D:D
Just_A_Poster Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 OP (a/k/a Panty Boy) has 2 posts to his name so he likely won't be back. Hey OP, why don't you fly your freak flag over on Penthouse Letters or something? I'm sure those folks would be fascinated to hear all about your oh so sexy ass beatings and thongs. Freakin' amateur.
YellowShark Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 Dude you really wear panties? Man that's "f'ed" up. You cheat and now wear panties as a punishment. You creep me out man.
eeyore1981 Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 Seriously, if this was the route I chose to take with my cheater, I think I would go more for adult diapers than panties. She could also secretly mark them in some way and insist they are not to be removed under any circumstances when he is not in her presence. Yep, I think that would be the way to go, instead of this silly panties thing...
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