charleskg Posted July 4, 2004 Share Posted July 4, 2004 But now I am beginning to realize that something about me is really unattractive. I don't know what it is. I wish I could figure it out. All I know is that women definetly are not attracted to me. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted July 4, 2004 Share Posted July 4, 2004 It isn't about looks; it's about personality! Be warm, friendly, and approachable and unless you have major odours or never wash yourself or clothes, you will attract people. Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted July 4, 2004 Share Posted July 4, 2004 There are times when I begin to fixate on my physical qualities that I dislike, and I find myself extremely unattractive. This affects how my personality shows, and when I am down in the dumps, and not exuding with my normal humor and stimulating conversation, it really does not help to attract people. You may find that, if you can narrow down the exact issue that you find so unattractive about yourself, that nobody else even notices. I think that my nose is crooked, and even in my avatar I see this big old crooked nose. Nobody else has ever really seemed to notice, however. I can nitpick quite a bit about myself physically, but I am the only one who appears to ever see the flaws. I prefer to focus on hobbies, friends, and keeping a calm or uplifted attitude. When I am enjoying myself and free from stress, people enjoy being around me. Even if I am not dressed in the nicest of clothes, didn't get to shave, and my hair isn't just right, my personality always makes up for it. Think of it this way: If you want to lose an inch from your stomach, and you constantly look in the mirror, that inch looks like four inches. You know where to look and you are looking for a specific flaw. Most other people will not do that, and will see you as an entire package. If you can, stop fixating on flaws, or attempting to find them, and just enjoy yourself as much as you are able. Link to post Share on other sites
Author charleskg Posted July 4, 2004 Author Share Posted July 4, 2004 Actually, I do not really see anything wrong with me. I have nothing to nitpick about. There is something that I am not aware of and I can only think that it must something physical. I say this because I have written 200+ women on Internet dating services and I rarely get a reply back. If I do, it is something like "I'm not interested." Now, I have had a number of women write me that I was not attracted to so I don't think that counts. Anyway, like I said, I used to think that I was not bad looking but there must be something not attractive about me. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted July 4, 2004 Share Posted July 4, 2004 If you have written 200 women and none are interested, how did you manage to come to the conclusion that it was your looks and not what you wrote that was a turnoff? Women are interested in a guy's personality. You must be giving away unpleasant aspects of yourself in your letters. I suspect your lack of success has everything to do with what you say and/or how you say it. Link to post Share on other sites
Jim24 Posted July 7, 2004 Share Posted July 7, 2004 Secondly, you may have to face the fact that online dating arrangements arent the thing for you. They don't work for everyone. Maybe you should work on forming a relationship with someone you know personally. Link to post Share on other sites
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