HannahBY Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 I'm f (19) my boyfriend of 4 years is m (19) I went to another friends residence for a party. When it came time for me to go to sleep I shared a bed with one of my girlfriends who passed out on the other side of the bed right away. I, on the other hand, had a harder time sleeping. My friend who owned the residence was having sex at the opposite side of the room on her bed. I started thinking about sex, and having sex with my boyfriend and really quickly masturbated to the thought of it. Now i'm having feelings of guilt for doing this while in the same bed as my friend who was sleeping. Should I feel guilty about this? Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 No, it wasn't unfaithful. You were thinking of your boyfriend at the time and you weren't engaging in anything with the person you were sharing a bed with. While it could be argued that you overstepped some line by masturbating in public (albeit under the covers, presumably) and in the presence of people who weren't your partner. Though they probablly didn't know what you were doing. However, since you didn't engage with anyone else while you were doing this, I wouldn't worry about it. It's not a biggie. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 I'm f (19) my boyfriend of 4 years is m (19) I went to another friends residence for a party. When it came time for me to go to sleep I shared a bed with one of my girlfriends who passed out on the other side of the bed right away. I, on the other hand, had a harder time sleeping. My friend who owned the residence was having sex at the opposite side of the room on her bed. I started thinking about sex, and having sex with my boyfriend and really quickly masturbated to the thought of it. Now i'm having feelings of guilt for doing this while in the same bed as my friend who was sleeping. Should I feel guilty about this? No, because you were thinking of having sex with your bf. Now if you were masturbating because you really wanted it to be you having sex with that guy in the other bed, then yes, I'd say you are unfaithful, emotionally anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 No. I wouldn't worry about that at all. Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 No. I mean, if I was the friend next to you in the bed, I might feel a little bothered by the brazenness of someone masturbating next to me --- but if there was sex also going on in the room, I guess it's a moot point? Personally, I don't want my friends masturbating or having sex while I'm in the room. But certainly not cheating in any way. The only imposition was on the friends you were there with, if any, and everyone has their own social codes, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
g450 Posted June 29, 2012 Share Posted June 29, 2012 Wow! You couldnt wait until you got home to do that? Next party I have I will be sure to invite YOU over LOL. As far a s what cheating is or is not...it's in what your real intent was. And only you know the real answer to that. Just food for thought though. If you were sleeping over in a room where at least one guy was having sex with another girl, how do you suppose your BF would feel about that? And if I was single and realized there was a girl masturbating in the same room I was in and realized what was going on...what do you think I would be tempted to do at that point? You see my point? You are putting yourself in a situation that may backfire on your relationship with him. Ultimately we are all responsible for our decisions. Even somebody as young as you. Link to post Share on other sites
Flyin in Clouds Posted June 30, 2012 Share Posted June 30, 2012 You and your bf need to have a mutually agreed to definition of what cheating is. Talk to him about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Sebastian76 Posted July 14, 2012 Share Posted July 14, 2012 Not cheating at all and totally ok! I think it's quite cute actually. You just got horny and thought about good things with your bf, nothing wrong with that. If my girlfriend told me a story like that I would laugh and kiss her and feel really good about her thinking about me in that way... Link to post Share on other sites
Aries77 Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 No, it wasn't unfaithful. You were thinking of your boyfriend at the time and you weren't engaging in anything with the person you were sharing a bed with. Well said!! Were you drunk at the time? We all do dumb sh-- when we're drunk! Link to post Share on other sites
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