My wife says she wants a divorce.....

[QuestioningEverythin]

I am new, my situation has a little back story, its a little long. But PLEASE, any input would be greatly appreciated.

 

I have an awesome wife, we are of Christian faith, and try to stick to up most of the time. She is a great person, sweet, kind, shes smoking hot, a great mother, and awesome to me. Really no problems whatsoever besides a stroke of financial difficulties over the past 3-4 months. We have the most beautiful and cool little girl... she is sooo awesome, and my wife is 3 and half months pregnant also.

 

We have been together 11 and half years. The one thing we knew about each other (or at least I thought) was that we would never cheat on each other. I knew she would never cheat and she knew I would never cheat, because we both wanted to settle down and we both came out of crazy relationships with pieces of crap that cheated on us all the time. We have had our problems, big and small, but we always got through it. This chick saved my life, I was on the road to nowhere fast and she got me to stop partying and acting like a fool. She really saved me in about every way possible. We really love each other, and everyone could tell that knew us.

 

Well heres the screwed up stuff.... about a year and half ago, I hurt my ear, hurt my back, and my shoulder in a matter of 3 months and started taking pain meds. Well about 3 months into taking the meds, I decided I was going to quit taking the meds because I wanted to see how much better I had gotten. Well, the first day I stopped, I was sick as a dog.... thought I had the flu.....second day, still sick. Then I remembered I had a few friends out of town I had heard were hooked on pain meds so I called one and asked him what the heck was going on.... he said "you are hooked and going thru withdrawals". I thought, heck no. No way. So I called my doctor and told him and his words were "oh, you are addicted to them now so I cant see you", i said "you cannot help me get off?", and he said "no". Cold and f**##d up, right? So anyways, my "friend" (yeah right), started giving them to me so I would be sick and i tried to wean down on my on, well i went up and down and up and down for a while till finally I said screw it and went to an addiction therapist and he helped me quit via a short term medication thats non addictive. So, I took this and it was truly a blessing from God! Awesome.

 

My wife was aware of my problem, I used to talk to her daily about how bad I wanted to stop, how i hated my "friend", my doctor, and myself. I truly felt like a lowlife. Even though I was working and living a normal life, just had to take pills to feel normal. But, when I got off, my wife was so proud, and I mean happy and proud. But, the short term (2 month) meds I took to quit had a small side effect I was not aware of..... loss of sex drive (lasts about 4-6 weeks). Due to this, I only had sex with my wife 1 time in 3-4 weeks, even though she wanted it almost daily. I really felt like a looser deep down, even though i knew it was temporary, because that part of our marriage was always awesome and crazy spactacular!

 

Besides this, everything was fine between us besides some financial problems due to a crooked business partner I had. But because of this financial difficulty and sex drive loss, I really was questioning God, why was this happening? Stupid of me, I know. But then worst happened...... I was eating lunch with my wife in the bed and we finished, walked outside and her parents were outside moving her stuff out, she was leaving me!

 

I asked her why, she finally told me in front of everyone.... she had found 3 short porn flicks on my phone (and yes I know its wrong) and saw where I had tried to pull prank on a friend involving this really unatractive woman. And now, she thinks that I am not attracted to her anymore and must be cheating! This blows my mind!

 

Ok she leaves me and goes to her parents house an hour and half away to our home town where all our families live.

 

In the 11 and half years we have been together, she has left me 6 times counting this one. Everytime there is a problem, I think everything is fine, walk outside or get a knock at the door and her dad is outside ready to move her out. She moves back home with her parents for about a week. Everytime this has happened, she always ignores my calls and texts and emails, and she sends me the most hateful emails and texts, she talks about me to everyone very hatefully, and she has even flirted with guys on Facebook during the seperation, and even keeps my daughter from me. And everytime, I usually sit there begging her back, telling her I love her, go to church and prey, talk to the pastor and counsolers and try to do whats right, and sit and wait on her and just take everything she dishes out. And then she usually comes back after we finally talk and she is back to herself, just an angel. Its amazing.

 

But this time has been different, these seperations she does usually occur like clockwork about every 1 and half to 2 years. All she talks about is a family, we even just planned this baby and she is 3 months pregnant, planned! I have given up friends, family, and even medical school and a career as a doctor to be with this woman. For 11 and half years I have shown her repeatedly how much I loved her. I thought that my being faithful to her was the one thing she would never doubt.

 

Since the seperation 3 weeks ago today, she has slanderred the ever-living heck out of me on Facebook with lies and more lies, sent the most evil crazy texts and emails you can imagine, her mother is telling her to question everything I have told her for the past year or so, which I have had to go around and get proof to shut her mothers mouth.... and suprise suprise.... even with proof she still is fueling my wife to hate me. I cannot have a reasonable conversation with her. I cannot even talk to her. I have spoken with her father. I havent seen my kid.

 

I miss my wife, I love my wife, and would crawl to Australia over broken glass just to swin through an ocean of alcohol to just get a look at her. She was talking divorce 3 weeks ago when she was cursing me in emails, she still hasnt filed, I have no idea what the heck to do! I am going nuts here and would love to know if anyone has any helpful input.

 

I know there is no cut and dry answer but maybe some opinions would help. Thanks, and Im sorry it was so long but I felt like some backstory was needed. Anybody out there, Ill be on here for a while.

Edited June 28, 2012 by QuestioningEverythin

[QuestioningEverythin]

I have heard exactly what you have said repeatedly from several friends, family, and church members. And you know, of course thats the most of it and I of course cannot write every detail; but it is really confusing because during the 51 out of 52 weeks of the year she is there, she is like super-wife! But then when shes gone, its like Jekyl and Hyde. I really appreaciate the input, because of course the people who know me are biased and I would like to hear to unbiased opinions/advice. Thanks

[whichwayisup]

Has your wife been checked by the Dr to see if she is bi polar? Her mood swings, over exaggerated reactions, her ups and downs etc..

[QuestioningEverythin]

I only touched the tip of the iceburg in my initial...... I appreciate your input a ton. I need unbiased advice and opinion.

 

The first week we were apart it was all crazy yelling and Facebook slandering, yadayadayada.... well finially her dad tells her that this is all bull and that theres no way I would cheat on her. (NOW THIS IS HER DAD!!!), and that everything Ive said turned out to be true. The next day we talk, she is actually calm and nice, though still talking the "D" word. Her mothers sees this and tells her that I came there threatening to take our daughter away from her in court (yeah right, Im trying to get her back.... Im gonna threated her). My wife calls me, I came over, she begins to hit me in the head, yelling the whole time as soon as i get there.... I say F&@# this and run for the car. Before I can leave the COPS pull up behind me because her trashy friend whom I had never met took it upon herself to call them. They take me to jail for disorderly conduct, simple battery (and i have knots on my head and shes looking perfect), 3rd degree child neglect (means yelling in front of a child) (and our child was NOT EVEN there) then takes out a restraining order on me, and one on me for our 5 year old. So, I get to spend the night in jail (isnt life awesome)..... Luckily though, there was a child molester and 2 murderers in the cell with me to make sure I could figure out how to use the payphone to call my attorney and get to put up $25,000 worth of property! Luckily, my parents and some other family members have a good deal of influence in this smaller town and we know judges, sheriff, ect.... So all that will just go away, but still..... how bout them apples... any opinion?

 

Moral of my two part little post..... DONT EVER SAY, THINGS COULDNT GET ANY WORSE!!

[QuestioningEverythin]

actually she has had a perscription to Klonopin for 5-6 years and takes them regularly, but she has stopped since pregnant. But, ive actually had a few people ask me about the bi-polar thing.... I thought they were just joking....

[whichwayisup]

Your wife is the one f..ked up, not you. She gave up on you and is selfish, immature. She runs when there are problems, calls her parents and they come running. Thank GOD her father has a bit of sense in him.. It's a real shame he didn't side with you when the cops came and you got to spend the night in jail.

 

From now on, bring a recording device with you. This way you can protect yourself from further 'he did this' and you have proof you didn't.

 

I still think she's bi polar..

[QuestioningEverythin]

Yeah, the cops knew it was fishy sounding. And as far as her dad, the only reason I allowed myself to pull up to their business is because his truck was still there and he and I had spoken earlier... so i figure what the hay, he's there. Im good. Plus, my wife has NEVER been violent in the least. EVER! Believe me Im mad, but I honestly am worried about her a little bc she is pregnant. Im starting to wonder SERIOUSLY if her cheese has fell of her cracker, Lord forgive me for saying it.

 

But now, shes really put me in a bad position, I am really confused, emotionally, as far as whats best for my little girl Hunter, and for my unborn baby. And as stupid as its sounds, whats best for my wife.

Edited June 28, 2012 by QuestioningEverythin

[stupidgirl22]

[sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]I'm sorry to read you're hurting but are you sure you're telling us the full story?? A woman doesn't walk out of a marriage and go back to her parents for NO reason. Have you hurt her in some way? Is there another woman involved on some level? Violence? Bullying? [/FONT][/sIZE]

[K Os]

actually she has had a perscription to Klonopin for 5-6 years and takes them regularly, but she has stopped since pregnant.

 

Sorry to hear about your problems, QE. Your story sounds to me as if there's a serious mental health question at the heart of it. From what I can see, Klonopin is prescribed for seizure disorders and panic disorders. Could it be there's also a bipolar/depressive aspect to your wife's condition? If this happens regularly, no matter how far apart the episodes, it suggests there's a cyclic nature to it. These thoughts come to you from someone who's seen all too much clinical depression in his own family.

 

Does her doctor know she's stopped her prescription meds? Is it advised during pregnancy?

[QuestioningEverythin]

I told the entire story in the first 2 posts.... it is that she saw the 3 short porn flicks and the prank withe really large unattraced woman (and my wife is the picture of perfect...smoking hot, perfect figure and beautiful face), and just that. Her seeing the 3 porn flicks and that we called the big woman for the prank (a 1 minute phone call) she thinks I must not be attracted to her anymore and must be cheating. Thats it! and because I must be cheating, to her mother.... everything I have said must be a lie (and really stupid simple stuff too). SO for the first week she was gone, I went along just to finally shut her mama the heck up and went around and got proof to some of the things they were trying to say were lies (stupid crapp like, does that medicine really make you loose your sex drive, when if they wanted to she could have googled it and found out for herself). And still her mother bashed me and my wife is whatever at me.

 

I got on this forum for one reason and one reason only, my pastor and friend told me that I might to get some input from others experiences and maybe release some stress at the same time when Im going crazy mostly at night when Im by myself. This forum is anonymous, no one knows who the other person is. And thats why I am trying to be open and honest to hopefully get some insight.

 

And I love my wife, deeply, and it is killing me to not be able to just see her each morning. I would take her back today, even after all the police stuff. There is really nothing she could do that I dont think I could forgive her for. This maybe stupid on my part. But Ive dated alot of women, some for years, before I got with her. And, she is an amazing person, except when there is a problem.... and this is what happens. Ive heard that this is the same thing her mother did all the time, so her dad said. So maybe its how she deals with stuff, I dont know. But, I do know... there is nothing she couldnt talk to me about, or nothing she could say to make me think less of her.

 

Maybe Im the one with the problem for feeling the way I do, I dont know. Thats why im on here.

[jwi71]

I told the entire story in the first 2 posts.... it is that she saw the 3 short porn flicks and the prank withe really large unattraced woman (and my wife is the picture of perfect...smoking hot, perfect figure and beautiful face), and just that. Her seeing the 3 porn flicks and that we called the big woman for the prank (a 1 minute phone call) she thinks I must not be attracted to her anymore and must be cheating. Thats it! and because I must be cheating, to her mother.... everything I have said must be a lie (and really stupid simple stuff too). SO for the first week she was gone, I went along just to finally shut her mama the heck up and went around and got proof to some of the things they were trying to say were lies (stupid crapp like, does that medicine really make you loose your sex drive, when if they wanted to she could have googled it and found out for herself). And still her mother bashed me and my wife is whatever at me.

 

I got on this forum for one reason and one reason only, my pastor and friend told me that I might to get some input from others experiences and maybe release some stress at the same time when Im going crazy mostly at night when Im by myself. This forum is anonymous, no one knows who the other person is. And thats why I am trying to be open and honest to hopefully get some insight.

 

And I love my wife, deeply, and it is killing me to not be able to just see her each morning. I would take her back today, even after all the police stuff. There is really nothing she could do that I dont think I could forgive her for. This maybe stupid on my part. But Ive dated alot of women, some for years, before I got with her. And, she is an amazing person, except when there is a problem.... and this is what happens. Ive heard that this is the same thing her mother did all the time, so her dad said. So maybe its how she deals with stuff, I dont know. But, I do know... there is nothing she couldnt talk to me about, or nothing she could say to make me think less of her.

 

Maybe Im the one with the problem for feeling the way I do, I dont know. Thats why im on here.

 

Read your story.

First, I had to pick my jaw up.

 

First, you are in an abusive M and your W is emotionally, verbally and true to abusers she escalated to physical abuse. This is NOT normal or healthy for you or your children. And it must stop and now.

 

Except that leads me to problem two - you are a weak man from what I read. Weak in that you allow this abuse. You minimize it (it's great unless there's a problem). Your lack of action has trained your W that you accept and allow this. You allow by not stopping it. And yes, you can stop it.

 

Third, your W is unbalanced at best. She called the police and had you arrested on trumped up charges. While there may not be convictions, the arrest record stands in perpetuity (unless you seek expungement). Given your descriptions on her anger, I would not be surprised if she used these arrests against you. She may use this in a custody battle. She may pull this stunt again and develop a history of violence by you on her. Which means RO and you won't be seeing your kids. By court order. You do not appear to fully grasp the legal jeopardy in front of you. Find a lawyer fast. What if, after being intimate, she "goes off" and claims you raped her?

 

Fourth, her parents are NOT YOUR friends. Be very wary there.

 

In totality, their actions are not conducive to a healthy life. Especially when they engage in conspiracy against you.

 

My advice, and it's likely to be ignored, is to hire a lawyer for your criminal defense. Then hire a divorce lawyer. If possible, with lawyers consent, immediately close her access to joint funds (credit cards, checking, saving etc). If they are going to trump up false claims to put you in jail they're not above draining the accounts. Then, with lawyers consent, either move out of the family home or change the locks.

 

Then file for D. At LEAST a legal separation. Give her want she wants. And what you need.

 

Sorry, but she has crossed into territory which you cannot follow and from which there is no return. She IS willing to file false criminal charges against you for reasons unknown. She jeopardizes your freedom, your earning power, your access to your children and your public image. In "this state" her and her family had no problems with this behavior. It only gets worse - tried and true behavior of unchecked abuse.

 

Get out. Now. This has NO happy ending for you.

[StarsOnFire]

I'm sorry to read you're hurting but are you sure you're telling us the full story?? A woman doesn't walk out of a marriage and go back to her parents for NO reason. Have you hurt her in some way? Is there another woman involved on some level? Violence? Bullying?

 

Yeah, I definitely feel like stuff is left out. Obviously things weren't as perfect if she moved and hour and a half away with your children. And honestly, people aren't arrested and charged with all that unless there's a reason. I find it hard to believe if she's the one hitting and chasing you that she wasn't charged with child neglect (for ALSO yelling), and why was she issued a restraining order if you were doing nothing?

 

Honestly dude, whatever's going on, in the end, this is not a healthy relationship. I completely agree with jwi71's response for the rest of this. Think of your kids, and always remember "it's better to be FROM a broken home, then in one." Don't make them live in a broken home.

[QuestioningEverythin]

Nothing is left out. Especially anything to do with this situation. I am spinning, I am dumbfounded and my ears are smoking! I am shocked and stunned and why in the heck this has happened! Otherwise I would not be on here, I have several preacher friends, several friends who have went through divorces, and many family and friends to talk to...... and the only reason Im on here is because none of them have a clue. A few have said immaturity, bi-polarism, and some have said some more harsh things. but I wanted to see if there was even the slightest chance in the heavens that there was someone out there that had a clue. It is very unlike me to be on here talking to strangers and posting my business, I dont even have a Facebook account. I am very private usually when it relates to problems. I appreciate your honesty but nothing is left out. I want honest opinions, so thank you. But Im trying to get some help or insight here, so I have to tell the story.

 

It is hard to believe, it is insane. But one thing for sure, is its true. And anyone can take a warrant out on you for basically anything according to the police. It will be dropped in court if false, but the initial warrants will still be served and enforce intill the preliminary hearing or the actually court date.

 

My daughter and I are close! No one would say im anything but a great dad all the time. She is my life, I cant even look at her without picking her up and hugging the little princess. And I have always been very open and affectionate with my wife. She knows I love her and I have heard her tell many people such. There should have been no doubt in her head.

 

Usually she comes back after a week or so and I just tough it out. But this time, Im worried the pregnancy hormones or lack of, and possibly her hormonal imbalance and Klonopin are really heightening her emotions to the stars.

 

And as far as my wifes leaving routine, the very first time she left me we had went out with some friends, when we arrived back at our apartment, she couldnt find her car keys, and she left me and blamed me. Simple as pie. And then she actually found her keys in the seat cushions and was still mad for another few days, even after she admitted she found the keys.

 

I got to admit, in the beginning, I found that odd, but I like spirited woman and I just thought nothing of it because I figured maybe everyone freaks out every now and then. And the last time she left before this, she had wanted a mini daschund puppy. An old associate of mine had some, registered and all. She wanted 2 tone tan. When I paid for the puppy at about a week old it was 2 tone tan, but when I went back to get it at 8 weeks, it was red and brown with the black traces. It had changed in color same as many animals do as they grow.

when I arrived at home thinking she would be excited... she started squawling, I stayed up with her half the night trying to calm her, telling her that I would get her another and take it back. She finally after 4-5 hours of this, agreed. I wake up the next morning, her father is outside with a trailer to move her out again.

 

I hate to ramble... but, here is the time before that. We were going to get family pictures taken at Sears, just some old cheap pictures just to have another. Well I didnt have any dress shirts worth a flip at the time, so I said we should wait till next weekend so I could go buy a few because I wanted to look good in the pic, because she always looks great and my daughter is beautiful. She agreed after a simple little smart comment or two, nothing big. Just something like, "fine, get a shirt and we will do it next weekend" in a sassy tone. I think nothing of it, we get back home and actually are laying down watching TV together, and a knock at the door. Her mother and father had decided just to drop in. Well, she walks outside and says,, Im leaving. And she stayed gone about a week both of these times.

 

We have been together for 11 and half years, And the 2nd and 3rd times she left, we had been fussing. And I just chalked those upto, shes one of those thats gonna run to the folks. But over 8 more years have passed and they say the first few years are the toughest when living with someone. So I really didnt realize this was a pattern, I just figured... we are firey and passionate with each other when we get along, I guess its the same when we dont.

 

I have made many sacrifices for her so she didnt have to work and could get a 4 year degree, which she hasnt used and has been graduated 3 years. And after all this time, its almost overwhelming to even consider that fact, that even while she is pregnant, which she wanted to become, and even took Clomad hormones to get pregnant, that she can still just trash our life over such bull#^#$.

 

Hey, no ones perfect, and I am certainly not! I have made mistakes, I mean you read my first post. I mean if Im willing to admit that, and talk about going to jail. I think you should know Im not trying to hide stuff. But as far as my wife and I and our feelings for each other and our relationship, we were great. There had been some financial diffculties for 3-4 months due to a crooked business partner I had, and I had been worried about the new baby coming and being able to make the money I would like to have had by that time.

 

Im rambling... look, before we got married, I told her, "baby, this is for real, I love you and its for life", and all she had ever talked about since we met was having kids and getting married. So, I figured this is a LOCK, I love her more than anything, she wants to settle down, kids, just be old family folk. And she was soooo happy. And she still acts happy when this isnt going on. But all of this running everytime there is a problem, and even most of the time running when there isnt one. This is old. I will do whatever I must to make our marriage work and be here for her. But, I would give my left big toe to figure out how to stop this running.

 

Am I not as important as a dog, a set of keys, a picture, or appearently a porn clip? I love and miss my wife, even with her faults. I have mine too, but I am worried about her. And the guy above is right, I hate to admit it, but she knows I am going to be here, Im sure she does. And it might be messed up, but she is (or at least for the moment is) my wife and my family. And whatever I can do to help her I will. Also, she is the mother of my kids, and I will love her till I die because she is a good mother and my only true love! So, i would like to figure this out because I want her to be happy no matter what happens. I made a vow before God to take love and watch over this woman till I died when we were married, and I am trying to do my best to follow thru.

 

So please, keep the input coming, I really appreciate it, and all opinions are appreciated.

[QuestioningEverythin]

I just wanted to say thanks for all the replies but I think I finally figured out the truth. And thats that I actually love her, she never really loved me. This was a game in which she expected certain things to happen and when things didnt happen in the time she wanted, she left me for dead. Without a care in the world. I think several of you were right, I should be done with her. Who needs that, but I think I actually loved my family more than I loved myself. So, nothing I can do, how can you reason with someone who believes these kind of things. Thanks to all, I hope evryone on here gets back with their wives or husbands and lives happily ever after. IM DONE!

[Exit]

Glad to read that last post from you. There was a lot of good advice given in this thread especially from jwi71. You were putting up with horrible mistreatment and allowing yourself to be a pretty sad doormat about all of it too. When you said "There is really nothing she could do that I dont think I could forgive her for" I think she is able to pick up on that and use it against you after getting away with all of this craziness for so many years. Man up and get your spine back in place and start thinking about what is best for you and your kids. I'm so sorry that there are even kids involved because if there weren't it would be so great for you just to leave this woman in the dust and never look back.

 

Her behavior is far past the line of acceptable. Leaving you 6+ times, and now leaving a few months into a new planned pregnancy, that's just ridiculous. Just to echo what others have said, she sounds very unstable and immature.

 

You yourself pretty much hit the nail on the head, if she is acting this way then quite simply she must not feel the love for you that you feel for her, or she would be at home working on the marriage instead of running off to the parents and spreading bad words about you to everyone else.

 

Watch your step, she's obviously looking for ways to get you in trouble so limit your contact with her and mind your manners. If she still hasn't filed I definitely think it would be great for you to get a lawyer and take care of it first.

 

You can be a strong and powerful man without compromising your beliefs. Nobody is suggesting to be cruel or mean to her, but you definitely need to stand tall and strong and decide what you want to happen and start defending yourself.

[QuestioningEverythin]

I apreciate the post man! Last night I was alomst at the breaking point, seriously. It was horrible, I have never felt that way before in my life. Just tons of messed up stuff, like her parents and the way they have backstabbed me after I had been kissing their tail for years now, trying to get them to like me. Lot of good it did. Lets see if the next man puts up with that leaving bullcrapp like I did. My wife could be an awesome woman, thats for sure, she has the potential, but I cant put up with this bull anymore. 11 and half years and shes almost 30 and she thinks porn means you are cheating. And to even think this 300 pound thing could even be of interest to me. She has really showed me (and about everyone in our hometown who know about this) her true colors! But, I had an appifiny this morning, I woke up, opened my bible and turned right to a scripture that just gave me hope! I do love the Lord and if this situation has taught me anything, it has brought me closer to God and that is worth any price I have to pay. But, today has been awesome, I think the Lord wants her to change her ways and this whole situation is about her problems.... not mine! Took me 3 and half weeks to realize that. But, I have been getting awesome support from our home town, I have been having people come up to me telling me that they know this is lies, and that not to worry. And today has been awesome, I had been trying for this job with an awesome company my father worked for and am going to take the mental aptitude test today, but I ran into an old friend at the coffee house this morning and he offered me a job that paid alot more and is alot less stressful, more regular hours, great benefits, retirement, and close to the place Im about to own on the river. Its really been an awesome day. And, thanks for the advice... Im way ahead of you, I went and saw a lawyer this morning! Im sick of this bull. This web site and a preacher friend of mine that I am able to be really open with have really really gave me some outside points of view that I knew were honest and have allowed me to finally see this girl (and I say girl because a woman doesnt act like this) for who she really is. Ill say this one last thing and Ill stop the rambling because I have to go..... Im not trying to sound week or spineless..... but, I will probably always love this woman, and I will probably always be here for her even if we didnt have kids, but I am too selfLESS of a person to have someone try to torture me like this. So, I honestly will pray for everyday and hope she gets some sense, and who knows in the future what can happen. But, screw it, what good does it do to hurt over someone like this.... because I fould out she has been flirting with guys on Facebook almost immediately after she left , one in particular who I always knew she had a thing for, a partying church drop out musician. And everyone, including some family members of hers on her Facebook have even expressed to me how they were so sorry my wife was screwing me over and how embarassed they were of her Facebook attitude and this whole general situation. That really meant alot. And she did the same thing last time we broke up with almost the same guys, and I forgave her and never mentioned it. She has really got her grasp on reality twisted, and Im not about to sit here and be made a fool of any longer. I know know the reason she wanted to makeup that stupid lie about me cheating, was because she wanted to believe it so she could go after this and other guys. She wanted to cheat, so she accused me of it. It really about killed me to see her doing this again, but it was the final straw for me trying to prove something to her. Let Mr.Broke Bar Musician take care of her and put up with this. I will always love her, but she has always tried to break me and mold me and train me the way she wanted me to be, and i let her even though the way she went about was messed, because most of the time it was good changes. But this time, she needs to change finally after 11 and half years of playing games. Let her mama and daddy deal with it. I do miss my daughter something aweful though and keep thinking about my baby. But screw it, Its time to make some $$$, the dry spell is finally over, and I do not need a woman after this one has ripped my guts out and made guitar strings out them! Thanks a hell of alot to all who posted, yall probably kept me from going completely nuts and I am definitely going to recommend this website to anyone who is having relationship problems! Gotta go, yall have a good day!