murtucky Posted July 4, 2004 Share Posted July 4, 2004 i broke up with my ex about 3-4 months ago, i work with her still... she makes me a better man, she is the most beautiful woman i have ever seen... we dated for 3 1/2 years... she is very scatter brained, i am very level headed and logical... i engage the world in a way that she does not understand, I place a heavy importance on communication... she has a hard time expressing her feelings, and hence i get frustrated... my problem was on top of this frustration, i was afraid of losing such a great girl...so i did not express it 100% (because of a previous long term relationship) we are not exactly opposites, i have expressed any issue with confidence, trust, and honesty...she became intimidated by this... she talked heavily of marriage, but i knew we needed time to sort out our differences and grow together.... eventually, i became solvent and knew i wanted her for the rest of my life...her strengths, commitment, and values are everything i could possibly want... me talking and pleading for 4 months, she backed away...and i broke up with her After much phone conversations (she called me)...she finally opened her heart, and i fell for it...she agreed to work on it...i bought her a ring and promised a new future, marriage, children, etc... I had been ready for at least six months prior... she agreed but after all the time,calls,dinners,etc...she finally admitted she needed space and was uncertain about the relationship she said "too little, too late"-yet she calls all the time, kisses me, wants to hang out, and tells me she loves me so here i am...heartbroken, still working with her, longing for her, and constantly waffeling about what to do...i have catered, avoided, stonewalled, and all she says is just be yourself, and if it is meant to be, it is meant to be... I AM GOING CRAZY!!!!!!!! Any help? Link to post Share on other sites
StartingAgain Posted July 4, 2004 Share Posted July 4, 2004 I guess my question for you is why would a level headed and logical man want to spend his life with a scatter brained woman who cannot connumicate with you at the same intellectual level and doesn't seem to know what she wants out of life? You don't need to wait until the end of the summer for your future to appear. I suspect that any future you would have with this "great girl" would be one of pain. she finally admitted she needed space and was uncertain about the relationship she said "too little, too late"-yet she calls all the time, kisses me, wants to hang out, and tells me she loves me She's mindf*cking you, friend. So what if she's a looker? There are other lookers out there who are intelligent and won't jerk you around like this one is doing. This one's a looser. You are obiously captivated by her beauty, but distressed by her inferior mind. And her behavior is abominable. Do you really think you could have a healthy marriage? If so, think again. It's time for you to take a walk. Link to post Share on other sites
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