unsure11 Posted July 4, 2004 Share Posted July 4, 2004 Hello I've posted here a few time before and just wanted to get some input from some of the people here. I'll just start off basic, when I was younger I was an over achiever, I had to be the best, in sports academically everything. Around grade 8 my marks dropped from 90's to the 70's range, I dropped out of most of my after school sports and it got steadily worse. Now I've been thinking of joining the Army and I just have this problem with thinking that I will fail, not just with this but my whole life, I've turned down job opportunities and instead took a easy job that I know I can easily do, after a bad relationship almost 2 years ago where I apparently didn't do all that I could I stopped dating. I had never even thought about this until a few days ago, I was just surfing the internet and found something that sort of relates to this and it hit me, I don't want to try anything because I am afraid that I will fail, so I've stopped trying. I'm sure some of you will think it's a cop out, but after I've been thinking about it it makes perfect sense. Now I was wondering if anyone else has or had a similar problem, or would know of anyway to change it around, I'm starting to goto the gym, although I go later at night when noones there, to work toward my military goal. I've started to work up to dating again, being out of it for so long makes it very hard to get back in. And am looking at finishing my schooling off. At first I thought that I was just depressed, so I started to take ST john's wort, but I noticed a slight difference in my mood, and now this realization hit me and it seems so obvious, I mean I've had many people tell me I'm an under achiever, but I never took it to heart. Anyhow I was just hoping for some input. Link to post Share on other sites
msrealdoll Posted July 5, 2004 Share Posted July 5, 2004 I have let my fear of failure stop me from trying so many things in the past...what a waste! I don't think it's a cop-out at all. It can be quite disabling at times. It sounds like you're taking positive steps to overcome it. That's really wonderful. The best advice I can give you is to just ignore your fear, and jump in. Remind yourself that if you're not good at something at first, that you will get better with practice. Failing is not the end of the world-it won't kill you (though I have, in the past, believed it would!). I still don't like failing, but I don't allow that fear to stop me from trying things. Link to post Share on other sites
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