Author Shelly72 Posted July 7, 2012 Author Share Posted July 7, 2012 She dropped him off early this morning while my husband was still sleeping. I went and got him from her, she just told me what she packed him, apparently he's staying for a few days (I had no idea). He looked really happy to see me which just made me aww it was a nice change from what's been going on for the last few days. Then we just watched tv until my husband woke up. He's definitely my husbands son... 4 Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted July 7, 2012 Share Posted July 7, 2012 I'm even prouder of you now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shelly72 Posted July 7, 2012 Author Share Posted July 7, 2012 I'm even prouder of you now. Thanks, it feels good to be the bigger person. If this all goes through I'll probably never see him again anyway so I might as well get over it. Link to post Share on other sites
Stellar Wench Posted July 7, 2012 Share Posted July 7, 2012 Thanks, it feels good to be the bigger person. If this all goes through I'll probably never see him again anyway so I might as well get over it.Good idea. We should all get over it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted July 7, 2012 Share Posted July 7, 2012 She dropped him off early this morning while my husband was still sleeping. I went and got him from her, she just told me what she packed him, apparently he's staying for a few days (I had no idea). He looked really happy to see me which just made me aww it was a nice change from what's been going on for the last few days. Then we just watched tv until my husband woke up. He's definitely my husbands son... I think that's really nice that you two can bond. Sometimes we don't know what kind of a life a child is having on the other side of their family. This is Sunday morning here. I thought your H would mostly be caring for him while she was schooling/studying? But it looks as if she is looking for more space than that. How long has he been dropped off with you? I had also assumed even though he's five - that this is something that has just started? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shelly72 Posted July 7, 2012 Author Share Posted July 7, 2012 I think that's really nice that you two can bond. Sometimes we don't know what kind of a life a child is having on the other side of their family. This is Sunday morning here. I thought your H would mostly be caring for him while she was schooling/studying? But it looks as if she is looking for more space than that. How long has he been dropped off with you? I had also assumed even though he's five - that this is something that has just started? He's supposed to, but the longer he sleeps the better. I couldn't just leave him outside so I had to go out and get him. Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted July 7, 2012 Share Posted July 7, 2012 He's supposed to, but the longer he sleeps the better. I couldn't just leave him outside so I had to go out and get him. No. I didn't mean that. I meant she obviously means for you and your H to care for him often, if she drops him off on a Sunday morning, when she shouldn't be having any important obligations. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted July 7, 2012 Share Posted July 7, 2012 She dropped him off early this morning while my husband was still sleeping. I went and got him from her, she just told me what she packed him, apparently he's staying for a few days (I had no idea). He looked really happy to see me which just made me aww it was a nice change from what's been going on for the last few days. Then we just watched tv until my husband woke up. He's definitely my husbands son... This makes sense, but you lost me below.. Thanks, it feels good to be the bigger person. If this all goes through I'll probably never see him again anyway so I might as well get over it. Then you say this?? He's supposed to, but the longer he sleeps the better. I couldn't just leave him outside so I had to go out and get him. WTF is this? Sorry I really hope you are making this stuff up as you go along and that you're a troll.. Because if you are for real and this truly is happening, this situation is so messed up and you need therapy asap. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted July 7, 2012 Share Posted July 7, 2012 (edited) This makes sense, but you lost me below.. Then you say this?? WTF is this? Sorry I really hope you are making this stuff up as you go along and that you're a troll.. Because if you are for real and this truly is happening, this situation is so messed up and you need therapy asap. Disagree Shelly. Life doesn't have to be about running to shrinks - just because people on these forums continually spout it. WWU, I interpreted Shelly to mean: The longer her H sleeps is better. And that she'll probably never see the child again after the divorce. Edited July 7, 2012 by UpwardForward Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shelly72 Posted July 7, 2012 Author Share Posted July 7, 2012 (edited) Disagree Shelly. Life doesn't have to be about running to shrinks - just because people on these forums continually spout it. WWU, I interpreted Shelly to mean: The longer her H sleeps is better. And that she'll probably never see the child again after the divorce. Yes, this is what I meant. Sorry I wasn't clear about that. He said she has things she needs to do for the next few days. It's Saturday where I am, and he is supposed to be here until Tuesday. I have no idea what to do with him Monday since I'm going to file, and my husband has to work. I can't just take him with me... And I don't want to pawn him off on my 16 year old, that's not fair. This is 100% true, I wish it wasn't but it is. Edited July 7, 2012 by Shelly72 Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted July 7, 2012 Share Posted July 7, 2012 Yes, this is what I meant. Sorry I wasn't clear about that. He said she has things she needs to do for the next few days. It's Saturday where I am, and he is supposed to be here until Tuesday. I have no idea what to do with him Monday since I'm going to file, and my husband has to work. I can't just take him with me... And I don't want to pawn him off on my 16 year old, that's not fair. This is 100% true, I wish it wasn't but it is. It looks as if those are the only two choices - to have him with you or leave him with one of your children. If it's just a first time attorney consultation - it may not take long. You could perhaps take a coloring book/crayons or little truck/toys w you to occupy him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shelly72 Posted July 7, 2012 Author Share Posted July 7, 2012 It looks as if those are the only two choices - to have him with you or leave him with one of your children. If it's just a first time attorney consultation - it may not take long. You could perhaps take a coloring book/crayons or little truck/toys w you to occupy him. I'm ging to ask my son if he would mind, and that it shouldn't take long. Something tells me he purposely had him stay until Tuesday so I couldn't file. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted July 7, 2012 Share Posted July 7, 2012 The fact that he was sleeping when he knew he would be dropped off is an avoidance tactic... He probably thought she would definitely touch him again. He also totally disrespected you AGAIN by not communicating what the plan was as far as how long he would stay. Who cares if he's supposed to work Monday! You go file! Hubby can take a day off work - it's HIS responsibility to watch his son! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted July 7, 2012 Share Posted July 7, 2012 No. I didn't mean that. I meant she obviously means for you and your H to care for him often, if she drops him off on a Sunday morning, when she shouldn't be having any important obligations. Co-parenting and being a 'babysitter' are 2 different things. I hope they're shooting for the former. Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted July 7, 2012 Share Posted July 7, 2012 Co-parenting and being a 'babysitter' are 2 different things. I hope they're shooting for the former. I think she's shooting to act responsible - until freedom w divorce. Link to post Share on other sites
Stellar Wench Posted July 7, 2012 Share Posted July 7, 2012 I'm ging to ask my son if he would mind, and that it shouldn't take long. Something tells me he purposely had him stay until Tuesday so I couldn't file.Your H deliberately made the reason you're divorcing stay so that you couldn't file? That would make a sane person more likely to file, not less likely. Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted July 8, 2012 Share Posted July 8, 2012 I'm glad you are seeing the little boy is innocent in all of this. But dont't let anything stop you from filing. This might be another way of him trying to prevent you fron filing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shelly72 Posted July 8, 2012 Author Share Posted July 8, 2012 The thing about telling him to miss work is I do not want to rock the boat. I'm already walking on egg shells as we speak. I go into more detail in the divorce section as to what's been going on. It's a bad situation right now... Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted July 8, 2012 Share Posted July 8, 2012 The thing about telling him to miss work is I do not want to rock the boat. I'm already walking on egg shells as we speak. I go into more detail in the divorce section as to what's been going on. It's a bad situation right now... Rock the boat? HE is the one who capsized that boat! His son...HE takes off work to watch him. You have Plans! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shelly72 Posted July 8, 2012 Author Share Posted July 8, 2012 I asked my son to watch him, he said that he didn't want to, but he would for me. I started to walk away and he said "hey, I wanted to let you know she (his sister) may not be on your side but I am, I love you." then he quietly closed his door. Maybe I have done something right. Link to post Share on other sites
Clair93 Posted July 8, 2012 Share Posted July 8, 2012 Oh my god... Your first comments reminded me of my infamous step mother. Please read my thread, this is what you'll become if you let that hate grow. Remember that she wasn't abusing me from day 1, her hate grew slowly. Step mother kicking me out (of home and family) I was happy when I read your next posts. Please don't do to him what she did to me. Please either divorce your husband or overcome your hate for this innocent child. He's done nothing wrong to you and even though he might remind you of your husband's infidelity, it's your husband's fault, not this child's. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted July 8, 2012 Share Posted July 8, 2012 I asked my son to watch him, he said that he didn't want to, but he would for me. I started to walk away and he said "hey, I wanted to let you know she (his sister) may not be on your side but I am, I love you." then he quietly closed his door. Maybe I have done something right. It's your husbands child - HE should be willing to watch him!!! Tell him it's on him! It should not be up to your son to do what your cheating H should be responsible for! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shelly72 Posted July 8, 2012 Author Share Posted July 8, 2012 It's your husbands child - HE should be willing to watch him!!! Tell him it's on him! It should not be up to your son to do what your cheating H should be responsible for! I completely agree, I just don't know if I can make him do it. Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted July 8, 2012 Share Posted July 8, 2012 I completely agree, I just don't know if I can make him do it. I haven't read your other thread. Seeking a divorce against his will, and living in the same residence, I agree you should 'walk on eggshells' .. This is no time for agitation, or even to show your hand. Time for Methodical procedure. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted July 8, 2012 Share Posted July 8, 2012 I have no idea what to do with him Monday since I'm going to file, and my husband has to work. Then your husband should have clarified that with HIS mistress and the mother of HIS child before allowing the child to come over. NOT YOUR PROBLEM. GET UP AND LEAVE MONDAY MORNING AND LET YOUR HUSBAND DEAL WITH IT. And warn your kids beforehand so they can leave as well. It's about time he learned that HE will have consequences in life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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