parents influence in mate selection

[joel]

i am chinese 23 yr old guy and i now if i ever had a gf my folks would definely have a bigggggg decsion in my mate she has to be chinese, traditonal, consverative.....nowing my folks they are very controlling ppl. how about u guys does ur parents have a say or do they even care or are they just easy going ppl. nowing my folks its probably easier to go get a escort for the night than a gf for a mnonth considering they are soo picky in who i date and see, i just now em they are like that. they even want to now my sisters firends to see if they are good ppl they are assuming they aren;'t not sure why not. she ain't doin anything wrong in her life just bad potrayal of young ppl in the media

[DerangedAngel]

how about u guys does ur parents have a say or do they even care or are they just easy going ppl.

 

My mother is not easy going, she does care, but she has no say.

 

-DA

[Samson]

I could write volumes.

 

My parents weren't thrilled about my wife. Why, I've never really known, but I suspect it had something to do with her ethnicity (Italian) and religion (catholic) and their own stupidity.

 

At any rate, they never told me. No one ever said "Hey, have you REALLY REALLY, REALLY thought about this." Instead, they tried to turn her and her family against the idea of our marriage: On the day her mother called mine to get a wedding guest list, my mother went on a "tear." She accused me of having all sorts of terrible traits, drug abuse being the worst. So, as far as my wife's parents were concerned, the wedding was off: BULL'S EYE MOM, GREAT SHOOTING?

 

HA, HA: We put on our own wedding, invited everyone, including my parents, who refused to attend. My bride had known me for years. We had lived together for over a year without ANY abuse, much less drug abuse. We didn't speak to my parents for four years, and only then because our first son was born.

 

Then, at some point about five years ago, I began to wonder if I'd made a mistake. I began to think that, if my parents hadn't interfered, would I have gotten married? Did my decision reflect more spite than true feelings of undying love that I'd sworn to maintain until death?

 

Well, we'll never know, will we?

[Mr Spock]

Parental influence in mate selecton

 

 

"MARRY RICH, SO YOU CAN TAKE CARE OF US WHEN WE'RE OLD AND DROOLING"

 

 

That's about it.

[CurlyIam]

Easter Europe ex communist country of origin girl here! My parents aren't as bad as the boys' parents in my country (or so they say!!).

 

My mom loves me to death and she will most certainly say whatever's on her mind, do I like it or not. She adored my ex, up to two years ago when he turned into a bastard. She told me right then and there. We were thinking marriage one day soon, then my dad was so upset at the idea that he actually told me he's gonna have "a talk"with him. Which touched me dearly, since my dad is a very tolerant, laid back and generally speaking easy to live with type of person. So yeah, when all my family was clearly dead set against him, that made me wonder... should they have adored him, boy it would have been tough for me to split.

 

 

I think I would literally kill my parents if I marry a man of another nationality than mine. That or they'd within a year be fluent in that foreign language - they must talk to the guy, they must know him and most importantly, the want to make themselves heard - quite a talkative family!

 

 

 

Anyway, after talking to my mom on the phone last nigh, she confirmed me once more her belief that there is not one good enough man for me on the place of the planet, so I've quit long long time ago trying to impress them with my choices... I guess they'll have to settle with me being happy with my choices...