This article shows why many men are afraid of commitment

[Woggle]

They don't want to end up like this woman's husband.

 

Jennifer Koppelman Hutt: I Am A Horrible Wife... Are You?

[anne1707]

Have you actually read that article to the very end?

 

If you do, you'll see that the problem is that she is missing her kids and feels down because of that. She also knows that her mood will pass and she and her husband will have a great time together as based on every year when the kids go to summer camp.

 

She's not being a bad wife, she's being a good mother.

[HHC]

She's not being a bad wife, she's being a good mother.

She's being a bad wife.

 

She's more interested in being his children's mother when they don't need her, than being his wife when he does.

[Silly_Girl]

Wow. What a non-article. She's moody at first, I get it. Where's the story? She says it's only a few hours so I don't get how she's a bad (or good) wife (or mother, come to that).

[SJC2008]

She is fitness testing and sh*t testing her husband constantly, and he is failing. Way too beta. This make the attaction level go way down but she is clueless about why it's happening, so she is making up justifications.

 

It's the husband's job not to put up with her selfish, whiny, entitled-princess mentality--those seven week sleepaway camps in the Poconos aren't cheap.

 

1,000 - 1500/per week, per child.

 

And all he seems to do is cater to her whiny selfishness, but that's not what she really wants or needs.

 

She WILL cheat on him or do a walkaway wife on him if he doesn't change. This article is a "cry for help."

 

This woman is so arrogant and thinks so little of her husband that she believes she can get away with publishing an article saying what a horrible wife she is (implying that there are no consequences for being horrible imposed by the husband, of course), basically emasculating her husband to the entire internet.

 

What the husband needs to do when she starts whining that way is say "Fine. O.K. Get your ass out of the pool and clean the house. I am not wasting any more time catering to your nonsense. I will go out and have a couple of beers at the local strip club. When I get back I expect a hot meal on the table. After that since I will be very horny we will go into the bedroom and you will suck my dick like you've never sucked it before. If you don't like it, then leave."

 

So it's the mans job not to put up with it but what about the womans job of being a wife?

 

And if I have to dominate a woman like you decribe in the last part for her respect of me she aint gonna be my wife I can assure you that because I'd see that **** before it got to marriage and I'd next her ass.

[Radu]

Have you actually read that article to the very end?

 

If you do, you'll see that the problem is that she is missing her kids and feels down because of that. She also knows that her mood will pass and she and her husband will have a great time together as based on every year when the kids go to summer camp.

 

She's not being a bad wife, she's being a good mother.

 

No, she is being a very bad wife.

 

It's not his job to mindread her, and if she is this miserable she should just offer to do some nice, new, engaging, fun things together instead of being like that with him.

She knows she takes him for granted when she is like that, but she doesn't know how to stop.

 

It's quite possible that she will cheat.

 

Oh, and if i was her husband and i saw that article, i would be very very hurt.

Most ppl are not comfortable with their lives [sex-lives] plastered all over the internets.

Not to mention that i think she wrote the article just to use the reactions to get her back on track ... way to be selfish.

Edited July 2, 2012 by Radu

[xxoo]

God, someone got paid to write that?

 

Woggle, I'm mad at you for "making" me read that drivel! 5 minutes of my life I'll never get back

 

Anyway, try to get past your outrage and read the whole article. Last 4 lines:

 

"My husband and I will reconnect like we do every summer and our kids will come home to in love and in-sync parents.

 

Still, the first hours after they leave, I am all mixed up. And my husband gets the brunt of it.

 

I will be better because he deserves better.

 

And I love him."

 

She's depressed and withdrawls for a few HOURS after the kids to off to camp. She probably spent more time writing the article than she did withdrawing from her husband

 

Much ado about nothing....

[anne1707]

God, someone got paid to write that?

 

Woggle, I'm mad at you for "making" me read that drivel! 5 minutes of my life I'll never get back

 

Anyway, try to get past your outrage and read the whole article. Last 4 lines:

 

"My husband and I will reconnect like we do every summer and our kids will come home to in love and in-sync parents.

 

Still, the first hours after they leave, I am all mixed up. And my husband gets the brunt of it.

 

I will be better because he deserves better.

 

And I love him."

 

She's depressed and withdrawls for a few HOURS after the kids to off to camp. She probably spent more time writing the article than she did withdrawing from her husband

 

Much ado about nothing....

 

Exactly - unless men expect a Stepford wife who never feels low from time to time

[knitwit]

I thought that was one of the funniest articles I've read. I sincerely hope that she wasn't actually being serious that a few hours of mamma-sadness makes her a bad wife.

 

I doubt she's reading LS, but here is some free advice for her.

 

Next year, don't schedule EtcEtcEtc time with your DH when you already KNOW you are going to be sad and melancoly. Schedule a mani-ped or a spa day with your best GF instead. Do something that is relaxing and is totally for you. Make sure your DH gets to do something cool for him as well. Meet up again in the evening with NO EXPECTATIONS for that evening.

 

Everything will fall back into place like usual afterwards, except your DH won't be frustrated and you won't have worn the emotional hairshirt for simplying being a normal woman who is sad to say goodbye to the kids for an extended period of time.

 

I am happy to hear that the men who can't handle a few hours of sadness from their wives are the same ones who will avoid commitment. It is certainly the best for all parties!

[Radu]

God, someone got paid to write that?

 

Woggle, I'm mad at you for "making" me read that drivel! 5 minutes of my life I'll never get back

 

Anyway, try to get past your outrage and read the whole article. Last 4 lines:

 

"My husband and I will reconnect like we do every summer and our kids will come home to in love and in-sync parents.

 

Still, the first hours after they leave, I am all mixed up. And my husband gets the brunt of it.

 

I will be better because he deserves better.

 

And I love him."

 

She's depressed and withdrawls for a few HOURS after the kids to off to camp. She probably spent more time writing the article than she did withdrawing from her husband

 

Much ado about nothing....

 

 

I don't think she gets payed.

 

Read the comments, she was born into money, she is a SAHM and he works.

I doubt she gets payed, maybe for her radio work.

 

Call me a cynic, but sounds like another Sarah Palin ... 'i'm a mom who doesn't look godawefull after kids so that's my raison d'etre'.

[Mme. Chaucer]

I guess if a man is afraid of a woman's moodiness, it's for the best that he steers clear of committing to any of us. Lord knows, lots of us can have our times of moodiness.

 

Woggle - do you think your own wife feels safe and free to show anything other than a perfect face to you? I wonder if she would be afraid that if she ever had a "bad day" or got somewhat bitchy or moody in your presence, that would immediately throw her into the "evil woman" category.

[Radu]

From what i've read about his wife through his posts, i don't think she's the type to write an article about their personal life and plaster it on the internets.

 

PS: woggle just passed 20k posts ...

[Woggle]

Everybody has bad days but it seems that this is a common them in their marriage.

[zengirl]

Everybody has bad days but it seems that this is a common them in their marriage.

 

I don't really see that. She seems to know it'll be fine.

 

The only difference is: here is a woman who reflects on her moodiness and how it is unfair to her partner.

 

I promise you that every single person, male or female, has inflicted some unfair moodiness on their partner, if they're married. Hubby and I both have. Being able to recognize and reflect on it when you do it is a step forward, I'd say.

 

She's a terrible writer, though.

[angie2443]

This is a blog! If you follow the link you'll see that. All this is, is a little diary type entry except that it is done publicly. I have no idea if this woman is a good/bad mom or good/bad wife. All I know is that it is pretty silly to post this blog as an example of why men are scared of commitment.