Sweett Posted July 2, 2012 Share Posted July 2, 2012 We had a disagreement and this particular night he would not answer my calls or texts. Normally after an argument he would still answer my calls and texts but this particular night he did not. I sensed something was not right so When I caught him with her it was at his house at night.I drove to his house parked onn the street so he could not see my car then I knocked on the door and stood to the side where he could not see me through the peephole he opened the door and looked as if he saw a ghost. I asked him what was going on and who was inside he said "a friend" and I said who and what is going on and all he kept saying was I'm sorry. So I went into his house and she was in his bedroom (fully dressed) laying across his bed. Now if this was just a friend why was she in his bedroom. when I asked him that he said because thats where she felt comfortable. I'm sorry but if I am just friends with a guy sitting on his sofa is where I will be as opposed to his bedroom!!!!. I asked her who she was and how long she had been talking to him. Thats when she told me a few months. I told him to ask her to leave she left and thats when he lied and said he had just met her and her sister lived in his neighborhood so she just stopped by for a visit after leaving her sisters house!! Well after doing reserach herr sisteer is only 15 and lives 100 miles away in another county at home with her mother. How lame is this!!! He promised to give me a key to his house whie we were together and he never did, his phone used to ring in the middle of the night but he swore he wasnt cheating!!! If I was insecure I feel he certainly made me that way and didnt do a good job to make me feel otherwise!!! Just dont understand how he could abuse the word love and tell me he loved me throughout the relationship when it all seems like a lie now . I wasted 2 years of my life with a maniplative- panic disordered person!!! I wonder if he is actaully the insecure one because who I caught him was not very pretty. They even got me fired from my job. I sent her an email to warn her about him and she took it to the police and said i was harrassing her so she did an incident report. Well he and she took the incident report to my job my manager got it and I was fired after 8 years. I was never found guilty of anything but I cannot get my job back. Amazing how 2 evil people seem to prosperr while I sit and suffer!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 Sorry to hear this happen ... have you talked to a lawyer, the way you got job dismissed from your job doesn't seem right to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sweett Posted July 3, 2012 Author Share Posted July 3, 2012 Sorry to hear this happen ... have you talked to a lawyer, the way you got job dismissed from your job doesn't seem right to me. I actually have but since I just found a job in my same field making more money the attorney told me not to do anything because it may be to costly. I just can't believe people are really this evil and seem to end up with happiness. Link to post Share on other sites
nessaaa Posted July 3, 2012 Share Posted July 3, 2012 you've learned your lesson, guys are scum and not worth being loyal to. treat guys like ****, play with their heads, never give them 100% of you from now on. become scum yourself it's a lot nicer. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sweett Posted July 3, 2012 Author Share Posted July 3, 2012 you've learned your lesson, guys are scum and not worth being loyal to. treat guys like ****, play with their heads, never give them 100% of you from now on. become scum yourself it's a lot nicer. Amen to that! Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 Yeah cracking idea. Lower yourself to their level, become a bitter arsehole and add more sh*t to the world. It's just what the human race needs! Yep, that's right, the s**t just keeps swirling around the bowl. F*** over others before they can do unto you becomes the new mantra. OP - Did the company you work at previously have a HR Officer or union rep, because if it does, you should pay them a visit and demand a better outcome. You were not charged with any offence, and I cannot see how this relationship breakup incident could impact your future career performance. I dont know what your labour laws are like where you live, but it qualifies for unfair dismissal imo. If a snotty email can get an incident report filed, then, having them harrass you at work, is also worthy of a harassment claim to police and subsequent incident report. Link to post Share on other sites
nessaaa Posted July 4, 2012 Share Posted July 4, 2012 Yeah cracking idea. Lower yourself to their level, become a bitter arsehole and add more sh*t to the world. It's just what the human race needs! it's not being bitter it's called not giving a ****!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sweett Posted July 4, 2012 Author Share Posted July 4, 2012 Thanks, I'm not sure if I will look into this since I'm making more money now. It just ticks me off that my ex and his fiancé are so evil. I wouldn't try to make my worse enemy lose a job in this economy. Amazing how they are so evil but yet so happy while deep inside I hurt! Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted July 10, 2012 Share Posted July 10, 2012 Amen to that! Amen to that? So what you are saying is you condone treating someone in this ridiculous fashion? Becoming the same kind of scum because you had a bad experience with a jerk? People who think this way have no business dating, or to be more specific, engaging in commitments. There are great guys out there. And if you want to subscribe to nessa's ridiculous notion that you should just be a beyotch to guys, then I can tell you that THIS is what is wrong with dating and relationships. Too bad the scum can't just find each other and the people that believe in integrity, honesty, faithfulness and respect can't find each other. If you listen to the advise of nessa, you are going to be very dissappointed and alone in the future. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GLDheart Posted July 10, 2012 Share Posted July 10, 2012 you've learned your lesson, guys are scum and not worth being loyal to. treat guys like ****, play with their heads, never give them 100% of you from now on. become scum yourself it's a lot nicer. That's a great way to have the decent mature men of this earth sense what you're all about and run the other way. I bet you then wonder why all the good men don't bother with you. It's a self fulfilling prophesy for you. All you're left with is the bottom of the barrel players to return the game you started. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 That's a great way to have the decent mature men of this earth sense what you're all about and run the other way. I bet you then wonder why all the good men don't bother with you. It's a self fulfilling prophesy for you. All you're left with is the bottom of the barrel players to return the game you started. Amen to THAT!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sweett Posted July 19, 2012 Author Share Posted July 19, 2012 Amen to that? So what you are saying is you condone treating someone in this ridiculous fashion? Becoming the same kind of scum because you had a bad experience with a jerk? People who think this way have no business dating, or to be more specific, engaging in commitments. There are great guys out there. And if you want to subscribe to nessa's ridiculous notion that you should just be a beyotch to guys, then I can tell you that THIS is what is wrong with dating and relationships. Too bad the scum can't just find each other and the people that believe in integrity, honesty, faithfulness and respect can't find each other. If you listen to the advise of nessa, you are going to be very dissappointed and alone in the future. Ok, whoever u are dont chew me out just because I said amen to that doesn't mean I truly think all men are scum!!Hell my daddy is not scum and I know some other men who are not!!! The dude I was with was a bastard and does give men a bad name but there has got to b something better for me! I'm sure other women may have bashed men when things like this happen but for the record don't mean it!!! Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 Ok, whoever u are dont chew me out just because I said amen to that doesn't mean I truly think all men are scum!! Uh, but you said amen to the following "advice" you've learned your lesson, guys are scum and not worth being loyal to. treat guys like ****, play with their heads, never give them 100% of you from now on. become scum yourself it's a lot nicer. Hell my daddy is not scum and I know some other men who are not!!! The dude I was with was a bastard and does give men a bad name but there has got to b something better for me! And there will be, unless you take whats-her-diddle's advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sweett Posted July 19, 2012 Author Share Posted July 19, 2012 Uh, but you said amen to the following "advice" And there will be, unless you take whats-her-diddle's advice. I dont give a damn what I said at the time! I know what I think and I do not need to convince u of ****!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sweett Posted July 19, 2012 Author Share Posted July 19, 2012 I dont give a damn what I said at the time! I know what I think and I do not need to convince u of ****!!! I do not think all men are scum if u want to disagree then that's u, like I said I know what I think and don't need to convince anyone!!! Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 I dont give a damn what I said at the time! I know what I think and I do not need to convince u of ****!!! Well so much for me telling you that something better is out there for you. I figured you deserved something better. My bad. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sweett Posted July 28, 2012 Author Share Posted July 28, 2012 Well so much for me telling you that something better is out there for you. I figured you deserved something better. My bad. Once again, I don't need to convince u of anything!!!! And god will be the judge of me finding something better not you!!! Link to post Share on other sites
silvermercy Posted July 30, 2012 Share Posted July 30, 2012 Guys just leave her alone. She had a TERRIBLE time and she has every right to express herself in a board anyway she feels like. She said she didnt mean it anyway. There's no point in taking it literally. Sweett, your revenge will come later when these losers get their karma back. They will. In the meantime can you ask your lawyer the advantages of filing a restraining order against them? You could argue they make up false allegations and you dont want to take the risk of them coming close to you perhaps? Ask your lawyer. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted July 30, 2012 Share Posted July 30, 2012 Once again, I don't need to convince u of anything!!!! And god will be the judge of me finding something better not you!!! So I guess when I said you deserved better, it wasn't a compliment. Oh well. By all means then, follow the advice of our resident misandrist. Let us know how that works for ya;) Link to post Share on other sites
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