Ever get broken up with in an email and then ignored forever?

[ScienceGal]

So, I take it he never contacted you after that?

 

Nope. I saw him out 2 months after the break up and as he was leaving I asked him to talk. He said no, that it had been a long day and he wasn't up for it. I never reached out again.

[Samilia]

Nope. I saw him out 2 months after the break up and as he was leaving I asked him to talk. He said no, that it had been a long day and he wasn't up for it. I never reached out again.

 

I don't blame you, I don't see how it can be such a long day that you can't give someone 5 min of your time.

 

I have often wondered what she made of my response. It was clear from her email that she had absolutely NO IDEA that her breaking up with me by email was not the right way to go about it. I know her and she lives in her own little world. I suspect that in her mind (based on the content of her email), she assumed that after a week or two I would just get over it and we'd be buddies again. Perhaps if she had handled it like a grown up (she is in her 30s so no excuses there) we could have been friends (or at least friend-LY) down the line. I kept waiting for her to call and apologize for the way she handled it (much like the op is doing now), but almost 6 months later and not a peep!

 

I'm over the break up, but the feeling of disrespect still lingers.

 

I don't know if it's being in her own little world or being self absorbed. One could say it's the same thing but I see a difference. I still like the fact that you got to treat her the way she treated you.

[skyisfalling]

Nope. I saw him out 2 months after the break up and as he was leaving I asked him to talk. He said no, that it had been a long day and he wasn't up for it. I never reached out again.

 

what an a**hole. I dont understand how some people can be so cruel. Sometimes, I wish my ex could have just told me to f*** off right to my face than disappear into thin air. At least then, there's no guessing what he's feeling/thinking.

[Samilia]

what an a**hole. I dont understand how some people can be so cruel. Sometimes, I wish my ex could have just told me to f*** off right to my face than disappear into thin air. At least then, there's no guessing what he's feeling/thinking.

 

haha so true! We have a saying in my country, basically it says "tell me sh*t if you want, but tell me something".

[StarlaStardust]

The day is over. It's getting easier and easier:) Sending you all lots of love!!

[Sugarkane]

OP this is pretty common these days. I've been dumped by text more than once by guys. My ex dumped ne by text and told me I couldn't communicate, had no contact The while time. It's now been over a year and a half I think. You aren't alone at all!

[StarlaStardust]

OP this is pretty common these days. I've been dumped by text more than once by guys. My ex dumped ne by text and told me I couldn't communicate, had no contact The while time. It's now been over a year and a half I think. You aren't alone at all!

 

I feel ashamed of humanity in this technological age. It's turning us all into p*ssies.

[Samilia]

I feel ashamed of humanity in this technological age. It's turning us all into p*ssies.

 

meh.. not all... some people take the cowardice route, some people remember it's good to say no to our kids once in a while, and that facebook is not the center of the universe.

[shayla]

I was dumped by email...which was bad enough. But the email contained information that didn't make any sense like, "We need to get on with our lives, we've been broken up for some time...." which was a lie.

 

Turns out that he had another woman, he'd lied to her about me and made it seem like I was some psycho ex girlfriend when we had never broken up, were still seeing each other, and we had spent the night together days before all this. He wrote that email with her over his shoulder so he had to keep the lies up.

 

He married the other woman two months after I got that email. That was November 2010 and I was still pissed off about it until a couple of months ago.

[StarlaStardust]

meh.. not all... some people take the cowardice route, some people remember it's good to say no to our kids once in a while, and that facebook is not the center of the universe.

 

I want to date these people.

[StarlaStardust]

Yikes, Shayla. You deserve better.

[Samilia]

I want to date these people.

 

If I was a guy, you'd date me then, I'm one of them. Actually till a few months ago I didn't have a cellphone, I have a home phone. I'm debating whether or not I should keep mine.

[StarlaStardust]

I don't want to be high and mighty here, though. I DID email with my ex about some serious things. I wish I hadn't. We thought it'd be "easier." But I figured it was common knowledge to break up in real time when you've been dating for nearly a year. Guess not.

[Samilia]

I don't want to be high and mighty here, though. I DID email with my ex about some serious things. I wish I hadn't. We thought it'd be "easier." But I figured it was common knowledge to break up in real time when you've been dating for nearly a year. Guess not.

 

People don't send letter anymore, they send emails; so nothing wrong with conversing through email.

 

The important stuff should be said face to face: break up, asking someone out, etc..

[skyisfalling]

You would think that since they had the decency to "ask you out" to be their girlfriend to your face, they would do the same by telling you they dont want to be your bf anymore to your face.. what a double fu**ing standard.

[Paigey]

Totally know where you're coming from here, mine sent me a fb that didn't really mention breaking up and then proceeded to ignore me. Keep in there, it's got to get better

[TheBetterPerson]

My ex and i broke up and the only contact we had was emails,

we worked together and i left because of him!

he ignored me for a month before i left, like he didnt know me!

 

When people stop making an effort with you, then you need to too!

 

there is a saying that goes, why do we try to impress people were not impressed by! Are you impressed with you ex's actions?

 

do you like the way they have treated you?

are they acting like they ever loved you?

are they your friend?

 

ask yourself these questions truthfully and if they all answer no

 

then i think you know what you should do!

[Kovalchoke]

You would think that since they had the decency to "ask you out" to be their girlfriend to your face, they would do the same by telling you they dont want to be your bf anymore to your face.. what a double fu**ing standard.

 

 

This is so right. I asked my ex to be my girlfriend at HER HOUSE. A little over a year later she broke up with me over text and refused to see me in person, saying "it's too hard". ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! Gutless! I told her to grow a spine and say it to my face. I tried calling her but she said she couldn't pick up, even though she was on the phone with her friends... Ridiculous.

 

In conclusion... People like this don't deserve to have good, long-lasting relationships.

[StarlaStardust]

I've been in NC (on my end, since he went full silent treatment immediately) for well over a month now, and I seem to be slipping backwards with the urge to contact him. It's just so hard to wrap my head around being extremely close with someone for 9 months and having them just absolutely refuse to talk to you for no good reason. I keep trying to think of reasons why I would deserve this, and there isn't a single thing that comes to mind. All of my attempts to have a 2-way conversation with him after his breakup email were beyond kind and gentle and respectful...

 

I deserved better, so I wish I could get over it, instead of wanting answers or even reconciliation.

[Kovalchoke]

I've been in NC (on my end, since he went full silent treatment immediately) for well over a month now, and I seem to be slipping backwards with the urge to contact him. It's just so hard to wrap my head around being extremely close with someone for 9 months and having them just absolutely refuse to talk to you for no good reason. I keep trying to think of reasons why I would deserve this, and there isn't a single thing that comes to mind. All of my attempts to have a 2-way conversation with him after his breakup email were beyond kind and gentle and respectful...

 

I deserved better, so I wish I could get over it, instead of wanting answers or even reconciliation.

 

I know...im still used to my ex texting me but it suddenly just vanishes. I have no answers either. I think shes just trying to save face because she knows she messed up. Who knows. Everyone knows i deserve better too, and one day the answers will come to light!