Fayebelle Posted July 5, 2004 Share Posted July 5, 2004 So my BF and I have been living tog for about 5months. Last nt we went to a 4th BBQ at his parents and ended up staying the nt b/c we were tired and had been drinking. His parents asked me to stay in the guest rm and him on the couch b/c we aren't married. My BF was pissed but I was cool w/it b/c it's their house and I respect their rules. Now I'm confused b/c we are going to a wedding w/ them out of state and they have gotten a rm for themselves and a rm for me, my BF, his sister, and her BF (they also live tog.). Do you suppose his parents expect the girls to be in one bed and the guys in another? My BF and his sister say too bad if they do but I have a lot of respect for his parents and want to respect their wishes. I'd feel a bit awkward coming out and asking them but I don't know how else to decide. My BF and his sis say they don't care and think the couples should sleep as such so they won't ask. What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted July 5, 2004 Share Posted July 5, 2004 If you're at their house, you should respect their decision. But considering that you are away, at a wedding, you are both adults, I think it's a bit ridiculous to be staying in different rooms, especially since you're living together. Although I agree with respecting them, what they believe in and everything, this is not their shot. I think it is a bit rude of them to be making reservations without asking their son first. This little issue is to be handled by your bf. He is to explain that there is no shame in him having one hotel room with his grifriend, especially when sharing a house. You have nothing to say here whatsoever, nor do his siblings. It is strictly between them and him. I think this may be important on the long run. Like making a statement about your relationship, about how you want to show it to the world, to enjoy it, to live it. Something like standing up to them, with all the love and respect taken into consideration. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fayebelle Posted July 6, 2004 Author Share Posted July 6, 2004 OOPS- I may have been vague in my wording- They got 2 rms- 1 for them - and 1 w/ 2 beds for the 4 of us. They planned and paid for the trip since it is a family wedding. That's why I don't want to trespass on their views. I feel like given the circumstances this is an extension of their home. Maybe I'm just worrying too much and I should go along w/ my BF and his sis. I just don't want any awkward moments once we are there. Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted July 6, 2004 Share Posted July 6, 2004 Maybe I'm just worrying too much and I should go along w/ my BF and his sis. I just don't want any awkward moments once we are there. How will they know who you slept with? If they expect you to sleep with his sister, then they'll tell you when you get there. Trust me. If not, then don't worry about it. I would assume that (separate beds) is something that they wanted only in their home. If they do - then it's up to you, your boyfriend, and the other couple. You can't very well sleep with his sister if she insists on sleeping with her boyfriend. Not a big deal, sleeping arrangements will fall into place. -Deranged Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted July 6, 2004 Share Posted July 6, 2004 I'm sure they won't ask and there is no reason whatsoever for you to tell. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted July 6, 2004 Share Posted July 6, 2004 I doubt they'll check up on you !!! Forget about this, worry about the dress and about the hair style ! Hope you have a great time! Link to post Share on other sites
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