crippler22 Posted July 5, 2004 Share Posted July 5, 2004 I am with this girl who is 24 and she and i been going out for like a month and a half now, but she is living with her baby father and his family all in one small home. this chick always says she love me and i also love her. we always talk about one day me geting an apartment and eventually she will leave him and live with me becuase at the moment i am in my family home living off them until i find a aprtment. since we been together, i told her about this girl i been with for 2 yrs but her family sent her back to her country becuase they found out she was pregnant with my baby and made her have an abortion and sent her to her country.... so, suposely i havnt seen my ex or even gotten a phone call for like 5 months now.... so my current girlfreind is a very jealous person all the time, so i made all this up about the ex girl becuase at the time we had just gone out and i just wanted to tell a story to her in a conversation.. so, recently i told my GF that this ex of mine call me the other night after 5 months and is beeging me to move over there with her and she love me etc.... which is of course a lie just to get my gf very jealous and maybe she would leave her baby father for me being that she is afraid she will loose me if i leave and move to my ex gf home in her country.... so just last week i told my gf the truth about everything and about i never had a ex for 2 yrs , the abortion, family sent her away etc.... so my gf got really pissed cuz sometimes at her home she would cry thinking of me leaving her and moving to my ex gf country.... so now my gf hate me and she didnt want to talk with me for like a few days which was last week. now we are talking on phone but she is talking about staying with her baby father and baby and her fa,mily and she will never forget the lie i told her ....... i still feel she love me but i dont knowm nhow can i make it up to her cuz i cant accept us as only freinds.. i have too much love for her.. WHAT CAN I DO OR SAY? she is telling me she need time, but she is also saying she doesnt want to see me but only talk on phone as freinds...... please help...... Link to post Share on other sites
TommyGirl Posted July 6, 2004 Share Posted July 6, 2004 Well....this just maybe a lesson that you will have to learn. Lying is a turn-off for most people. We all have lied or told some white lie at some point in our lives, but I think you went a little overboard there. You should not have to manipulate anyone to get what you want, if it's for you then it's for you. I am sorry to hear about your situation, and I believe that you are a good person and your intentions were also good, but I don't know if your girl will come back. She will have trust issues with you if she does come back, and that may lead to problems down the road, because she may always think that you are lying. But..maybe you can write a letter to her explaining HONESTLY and sincerely about what you did and how it was a mistake, and maybe love will prevail. But if it doesn't, just be happy with the friendship, and take this lesson into the next relationship. Pray about the situation and I wish you the best. Link to post Share on other sites
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