Stoneman70 Posted July 5, 2012 Share Posted July 5, 2012 As many know, I moved away to try to get over S. I felt this was all I could do to establish no contact. If i stayed, it would have never ended. I know that for sure. It felt like my only choice. Has anyone else moved away or switched jobs to get over their love? To get over their affair? I know I can't be the only one. It was the best decision for me. Nothing here reminds me of S, but she is still in my heart. Regardless, it helped to change the scenery. Link to post Share on other sites
Emme Posted July 5, 2012 Share Posted July 5, 2012 Hey Stoneman, how are you doing? What do you have planned for this weekend? Link to post Share on other sites
Breathless Posted July 5, 2012 Share Posted July 5, 2012 Hi... I quit my job the day after DDay. It was my decision - my BH thought that our marriage was over on DDay and did not ask me to quit. I left my career with a company for me and my mental health. There was no way to disengage myself and my heart from the xMM without walking away from it all. In order for me to rebuild my life with my BH and for him to rebuild his life with his BW - our friendship/relationship could no longer exist. I was giving US both a fighting chance to save our families. Link to post Share on other sites
Breathless Posted July 5, 2012 Share Posted July 5, 2012 Has anyone else moved away or switched jobs to get over their love? To get over their affair? I know I can't be the only one. It was the best decision for me. Nothing here reminds me of S, but she is still in my heart. Regardless, it helped to change the scenery. Meant to mention...even though I left my job, NC was established and never broken since by either of us, I avoided anywhere that held a memory of xMM, he was still on my mind and in my heart. I don't believe it matters where you go in the world - if you are not ready to let the love go, you will find yourself missing that person. Sucks, but it's true. But I have taken all that pent up energy and applied to it my "F@ck It...Bucket List!" The old me would say "oh one day I want to do that..." but never took the initiative to do it. I'm doing it now...I'm finding a hobby, finding out how much I really hate running, I realized that I am a damn good snowboarder, not so good surfer, etc. I realized that there IS enough time in the day to do what I need to do. The pain will eventually sting less, the memories will start to fade, and someday you will be able to look back at the time with S and smile instead of cringe. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stoneman70 Posted July 6, 2012 Author Share Posted July 6, 2012 Hmm...im doing ok. Things have been better. Some days im great, others I'm in a state of depression. I still think of S every day. This weekend...working and sleeping mostly. I'm staying with family so I spend a lot of time with them as well. Link to post Share on other sites
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