OVERWEIGHT OR OBESITY? Has This Negatively Affected Your dating & Lowered Self-Esteem

[scandicprincess]

ok, overweight and obesity has had a critical affect SELF-ESTEEM. many couples are being dumped because they are just not sexy enough or is sexual performance is not good. despite all attempts to reduce, the slow metabolism just want allow the weight to go down and stay off. THIS, HAS OVERWEIGHT AND OBESITY reduced your dating pool access of quality and attractive mates or do all thew mates over-look your weight issues

[WonderKid]

There are ways to get that fat off you. Eating right and being active can't fail. Replace soda and Hawaiian Punch with water and natural fruit juice and your body will change. Bake your chicken instead of frying it. Eat 5 meals a day--small and proportioned. Don't eat late and over midnight.

 

If all else isn't getting you fast enough results consult with your doctors to get a weight loss surgery.

 

Nothing will change unless you change the mentality. I've had negative experiences with overweight women so I don't go for them. But I do no everyone can change. In a month span, I lost over 40lbs and about 6% body fat.

 

My sister is overweight and she complains about it ALL the time. But I continue to tell her, the only how you can lose weight is when you get tired of it. If you aren't tired, you won't discipline yourself.

[scandicprincess]

WITH ALL THE FAST FOOD PLACES AROUND, there is no way people will ever be and remain healthy. their weight will always be up and over whats considered normal

[Nicomis]

ok, overweight and obesity has had a critical affect SELF-ESTEEM. many couples are being dumped because they are just not sexy enough or is sexual performance is not good. despite all attempts to reduce, the slow metabolism just want allow the weight to go down and stay off. THIS, HAS OVERWEIGHT AND OBESITY reduced your dating pool access of quality and attractive mates or do all thew mates over-look your weight issues

 

I'll go ahead and say it. NOBODY WANTS TO PICK THE FAT KID. This is so true when it comes to dating in this day and time. Women generally have it a little easier, as no matter how huge they become, SOMEBODY is always willing to have sex with them. On the other hand, a fat single male might as well get comfortable with the idea of sleeping alone or paying escorts. Fat/obesity is a reflection of how you take care of your body, and how you present yourself, and to women it's just as bad as not cutting your nails, or brushing your teeth. So, of course it does! The problem these days is that obese people (particularly women) have decided that people who are not attracted to them are participating in a large scale (no pun intended) social injustice. It's OK for you to be happy with how you look, but you can't make others attracted to it.

[Nicomis]

WITH ALL THE FAST FOOD PLACES AROUND, there is no way people will ever be and remain healthy. their weight will always be up and over whats considered normal

 

With all the cliffs and tall buildings around, there's no way people can resist the urge to jump. Sound silly? Just step away from the Big Mac.

[Feelin Frisky]

Does Africa have flies?

 

It's a terrible curse to have obesity problems that you can't permanently solve. By 6 months of age I had a double chin. My childhood pictures from grade school show me as a bit overweight but not a fat pig yet I was hounded by kids calling me "hippo" and "meatball" and dozens of other denigrating names. I'm an intelligent and sensitive person--but that ridicule treated me as if I was an absolute buffoon that just didn't know when to stop eating. That and other experiences are why I always "weigh in" on threads where I hear flippant comments about the obese (not that this is one of them)--no one is saying anyone has to think its attractive, it's just obnoxious to hear people who don't understand what it's like to have eating disorders pat themselves on the back for something that they got pretty-much a free pass on. That's not to say there aren't millions of people on the edge of obesity who with some effort couldn't improve their looks, it's just to say that no one gets fat by choice and yes, we can all accept that it's not appealing and don't need to be ridiculed to be reminded.

 

If there are people getting their intestines stapled or having their stomach's surgically banded, that should be evidence enough that obesity is not a simple matter of choosing to "eat that Twinkie" or not. For many it's an impulse that there is no "off switch" for and they may win a battle here and there but a few minutes later the war resumes. And though some heavy people seem gregarious and act like it doesn't bother them, they all have personal hurts where they know they've been rejected out of hand based on their looks. Even those whom have lost all the weight and look like super-stars don't lose the scars on their self-esteem.

[Nicomis]

Does Africa have flies?

 

It's a terrible curse to have obesity problems that you can't permanently solve. By 6 months of age I had a double chin. My childhood pictures from grade school show me as a bit overweight but not a fat pig yet I was hounded by kids calling me "hippo" and "meatball" and dozens of other denigrating names. I'm an intelligent and sensitive person--but that ridicule treated me as if I was an absolute buffoon that just didn't know when to stop eating. That and other experiences are why I always "weigh in" on threads where I hear flippant comments about the obese (not that this is one of them)--no one is saying anyone has to think its attractive, it's just obnoxious to hear people who don't understand what it's like to have eating disorders pat themselves on the back for something that they got pretty-much a free pass on. That's not to say there aren't millions of people on the edge of obesity who with some effort couldn't improve their looks, it's just to say that no one gets fat by choice and yes, we can all accept that it's not appealing and don't need to be ridiculed to be reminded.

 

If there are people getting their intestines stapled or having their stomach's surgically banded, that should be evidence enough that obesity is not a simple matter of choosing to "eat that Twinkie" or not. For many it's an impulse that there is no "off switch" for and they may win a battle here and there but a few minutes later the war resumes. And though some heavy people seem gregarious and act like it doesn't bother them, they all have personal hurts where they know they've been rejected out of hand based on their looks. Even those whom have lost all the weight and look like super-stars don't lose the scars on their self-esteem.

 

I'm going to have to disagree with you a bit. I am by nature a big guy. Fortunately, I am also a tall guy. Nothing can be done about being "big boned" or " large framed", but fat can be fixed, unless their is some illness or handicap that prevents it. I have done it, and let me tell you, it wasn't easy, but nothing worth having is easy. Honestly, if getting laid isn't good enough motivation, adding years to your life should be. I am 6'03, and my weight was just over 300lbs at it's worst. I am down to 230lbs now, and ideally, I should be at about 215lbs (I am a large framed muscular guy).

 

So, my comments aren't flippant, and I do understand, I'm just saying you can either be happy with being alone or accepting the dregs, or you can do something about it (and 90% could). It's just hard work, and people in the western world (The U.S. in particular) have become lazy.

[scandicprincess]

The overweight and obesity issues is very challenging to go away. There are way too many fast food chains and restaurants selling nothing but salty, fatty, greasy, sugary, and unhealthy food that makes you gain weight and destroy your metabolism. The body metabolism can;t over-come all these toxins and adverse effects. the cause individualism to become addicted and with such low prices, they are difficult to turn down. This is especially true in low income neighborhoods.

 

As for losing it, people do not change and feel its discrimination to be asked or forced to lose weight. It like a put-down by saying you are too fat or overweight as opposed to looking at the real beauty. This is offensive and what causes overwight and obese people to lose self-esteem. many of the diets, fitness,and remedies they sue to lose weight actually lead to other health problems that make them worse off. Or they lose the weight for a while, then it returns. It never fully goes away and they spend so much time in their relationship trying to lose or control weight. They may vene stop eatinga nd become anorexic. Then later, eat massively and quickly regain it. The weight bouncing solves nothing.

 

 

These people have to be taken as is. Their weight is not going away. Their self-esteem from not being liked or valued enough lead to jealousy wars and self hatred of themselves.

[scandicprincess]

well, do you feel your weight is at an optimal level. do you want to look bettter or tone down even more. or has it not had any significance

[reboot]

I'm in great shape.

 

 

Round is a shape.

[scandicprincess]

well, weight issue has been a major issue everywhere. as people get older, it harder to lose and shrink it and with health problems more common, the relationships start to fall apart. weight is difficult and most couples want the hot, well toned, and stunning mates. they will run and even fight over the,. if they can't get them, they get jealous. these mates are much harder to come by and competition is fierce

[scandicprincess]

well, do you think overweight or obese individuals are just as sexy as those fit and toned. can internal and personal traits overcome their weight issues and its deteriment to their beauty or do you need very attractive body to work with

[Nicomis]

well, do you feel your weight is at an optimal level. do you want to look bettter or tone down even more. or has it not had any significance

I don't feel my weight is optimal. I need to lose another 15 ponds or so, but it has had a tremendous effect on my dating life, and on my self esteem, and confidence. I was so lonely at 300lbs, I had considered going to an Asian massage parlor, but I was so ashamed of my body, that I never went because I didn't want the girls there to see me naked and make a disgusted face. When I was about 275lbs,I met a woman on POF, who was absolutely gorgeous. It took me a few witty emails to get a text, and a few text exchanges to get a phone call, but I really worked hard to convince her, and finally she agreed to meet me. We got along great, and ended up kissing at the end of the night. We went out a few more times, and I thought all was going well, until one night she called me, and sounded unusually cold. During this conversation she told me that she really liked me, and mentally we were a match, but she "could never f@#k a fat guy, but we could be friends. I politely told her to go to hell. That was the point in my life I decided that fat, and unwanted went hand in hand, and I was not going to waste my one life on this planet being a "fat guy". I highly recommend getting in shape to everyone. Being the fat guy sucked big time. If I can do it, anyone can do it.

[scandicprincess]

well heart disease and diabetes is what killing overweight and obese people. currently, 27 million Americans have diabetes and 79 million have pre-diabetes. it the result of weight issues and slow metabolism

[WonderKid]

There are ways to speed up your metabolism and trick your body. If you have eating disorders consult with your doctor or someone of professional help. Our culture is so harsh on being accepted only if you can fit in a size 00-2, and if you have 6-8 pack abs, that we look at losing weight as being impossible and its not.