jerryinva Posted July 6, 2004 Share Posted July 6, 2004 Even with the best of intentions... Ok..so I didn't call her during her whole vacation. She called me last night, then got off phone. This morning...I go online early to check my email..and I see she is on instant messenger. I check my email, and within the 5 minutes it took me to check it, she was gone. I got offline...and within 3 minutes she called me. Logically, I thought maybe she had been online, I popped up, she noticed what time it was, and that she needed to be out the door. So, I asked her where she was. When she told me, I realized there was no way she could have been the one online...OOPS!! So then I try to back out of the situation when she asks me why I asked (which I tell her the truth.) She gets irritated, and then said, " no that's fine, it will be taken care of when I get home this afternoon." See, he had used her laptop to get online, and it had logged her IM on automatically. So I bumbled into some "stuff" without realizing it. The rest of the conversation was strained. So...I didn't call her the whole 4 days she was out of town...only responded to her calls..(and one day of the 4, I didn't even do that,) but we are still at odds... :-( Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryinva Posted July 6, 2004 Author Share Posted July 6, 2004 She has not called back, or said a peep since this morning... Link to post Share on other sites
InLimbo2 Posted July 7, 2004 Share Posted July 7, 2004 >>I tried, what went wrong?<< You answered the phone! Seriously though, I have kept up with your continuing saga - the best thing you could ever do with this woman is disappear off the face of the earth to her, lick your wounds, and find a woman that won't play games with your heart and head. If her fiancee logged into her messenger without her permission, that's between THEM - not you. You saw her online, assumed it was her, it came up in conversation - no way for you to know you were stepping on a landmine - and not your problem. Haven't you stopped to wonder this? What if you DID get this chick back? How do you know she wouldn't have another "jerry" on the side like she has you now? What security could you EVER have with her? What is she doing online that she's upset if her fiancee is logged in as her? She EMAILED YOUR PARENTS and said you wouldn't leave her alone - but she still calls you!!! That dear is about control - getting it - keeping it - and keeping YOU in line. Next step will be, when fiancee catches her - she'll report you to the police as a stalker so as not to have to face the music with fiancee. Stop obsessing about the dream of the woman you thought she was when you were together and look at the reality of who she is now! As a dear wise friend once told me - just because you love someone doesn't mean it's healthy - this is not healthy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerryinva Posted July 7, 2004 Author Share Posted July 7, 2004 It seems it was her online yesterday morning...I jumped to a conclusion, and defended myself when there was no reason to... kinda stupid... Link to post Share on other sites
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