Star2007 Posted July 6, 2004 Share Posted July 6, 2004 HEY I NEED ADVISE WELL I WAS JUST WONDERING IF I WAS WRONG OR NOT? OK, WELL I GO WITH MY BEST FRIEND EX-BOYFRIEND. THEY DID NOT HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP DIDN'T TALK AT ALL SO SHE BROKE UP WITH HIM THAN A COUPLE OF MONTHS LATER HE STARTED TALKING TO ME AS A FRIEND THEN I STARTED TALKING TO HIM AND THEN I ASK HER DID SHE CARE IF WE WENT TOGETHER SHE SAID SHE DIDN'T CARE. SO WE BEEN FRIENDS FOR 4 MONTHS AND WE BEEN GOING TOGETHER FOR A MONTH NOW GOING ON 2 MONTHS. SO I TOLD HER THAN SHE STOP TALKIN TO ME AND SHE TOLD OUR OTHER BEST FRIEND AND SHE MAD AT ME TALKING ABOUT SHE IS GOING TO BEAT MY ASS AND STUFF. SO I WAS JUST WONDERING SHOULD I BREAK UP WITH HIM OR WAS I WRONG FOR GOING WITH HIM. THIS BOY AND I REALLY LIKE EACH OTHER WE TALK EVERYDAY N OUR RELATIONSHIP IS GOOD. Link to post Share on other sites
miz_barby Posted July 6, 2004 Share Posted July 6, 2004 That's sad and wrong! Not to preach but I would have stopped talking to your as$ too and maybe would have wanted to smack you around a bit as well because every "decent" woman or girl knows that you don't date your "best friend's" or any friend's left overs! You just DON'T do it! I have to know.....if you were good friends with this girl what would make you think it was okay to date her ex? Do you not have morals? How would YOU feel if SHE dated an ex you cared about even if you were broke up! You know what goes around comes around so when you get something bad that happens to you remember that'll be your payback for this! (if she does smack you around a bit maybe you'll gain some sense!) Ok on a more serious tone, yes you should break it off with this guy and find someone who was NEVER dating ANY of your friends! Find someone outside that "circle" doesn't it drive you nuts wondering if he's thinking of her?? Link to post Share on other sites
Varacha Posted July 7, 2004 Share Posted July 7, 2004 You broke the golden rule of dating, you NEVER date your best friends ex, no matter if she says you can or not, it's just not done. I suggest that yes break up with him, and hopefully salvage what's left of your tattered friendship. I am sorry to hear about your other best friend, I do understand why she got involved, and why she has said what she's said, I've been in exact position. So may I suggest after you break things off with her guy, you approach her first and work things out with her first and fore most. It will take a little bit more time for the hurt to mend with your other friend. I wish you the best of luck in your situation Link to post Share on other sites
Author Star2007 Posted July 7, 2004 Author Share Posted July 7, 2004 WELL I DON'T KNOW Y WOULD I DATE MY BEST FRIEND EX BOYFRIEND THEY DIDN'T TALK AT ALL DID EVEN HOLD A CONVO SO IT WAS JUST LIKE THEY DIDN'T GO TOGETHER. I DON'T WANT TO BREAK UP WIT HIM BECAUSE WE DID A LOT OF STUFF TOGETHER AND I REALLY LOVE THIS BOY. AND YOU SAID WHAT COMES AROUND GOES AROUND SO MAYBE ITS COMING BACK ON HER BECAUSE SHE DID THE SAME THING TO OUR BEST FRIEND AND NOW SHE KNOWS HOW IT FEEL. BUT I'M NOT BREAKING UP WIT IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN WE DID A LOT OF STUFF TOGETHER. I ALREADY TOLD HIM THAT I WOULD NOT LET THIS GURL COME BETWEEN US ANYWAY. I KNOW I WAS WRONG BUT IF SHE WAS A GOOD FRIEND SHE WOULD NOT LET A BOY COME BETWEEN OUR FRIENDSHIP ANYWAY LIKE WE ALWAYS SAID WHEN WE WAS LITTLE WE WOULDN'T LET NO BOY COME BETWEEN OUR FRIENDSHIP (WE HAD OUR UPS AND OUR DOWNS) I HAD THIS HAPPEN TO ME A LOT OF TIMES AND IT WAS MY BLOOD, MY COUSIN WHO WENT WITH MY EX BUT I WASN'T MAD THOUGH AND I STILL TALK TO HER. AND SHE AIN'T STUPID TO TOUCH ME ANYWAY. AND I DON'T SEE Y YOU WILL FIGHT OVER A BOY ANYWAY ITS MORE FISH IN THE SEA, SO YOU WILL BE STUPID FOR TRYING TO FIGHT ME OVER SOME BOY ANYWAY. THE POINT IS THAT ITS NOT LIKE I TRIED TO GO WITH HIM AS SOON AS SHE BROKE UP WIT HIM. HE CAME TO ME. I THOUGHT SHE WOULDN'T CARE BECAUSE THEY DIDN'T TALK AND SHE SAID SHE REALLY DIDN'T LIKE HIM SHE WAS JUST GOING WITH HIM JUST TO HAVE A BOYFRIEND ANYWAY. SO, DO YOU STILL THINK I WAS WRONG. Originally posted by miz_barby That's sad and wrong! Not to preach but I would have stopped talking to your as$ too and maybe would have wanted to smack you around a bit as well because every "decent" woman or girl knows that you don't date your "best friend's" or any friend's left overs! You just DON'T do it! I have to know.....if you were good friends with this girl what would make you think it was okay to date her ex? Do you not have morals? How would YOU feel if SHE dated an ex you cared about even if you were broke up! You know what goes around comes around so when you get something bad that happens to you remember that'll be your payback for this! (if she does smack you around a bit maybe you'll gain some sense!) Ok on a more serious tone, yes you should break it off with this guy and find someone who was NEVER dating ANY of your friends! Find someone outside that "circle" doesn't it drive you nuts wondering if he's thinking of her?? [color=blue][/color] Link to post Share on other sites
Varacha Posted July 7, 2004 Share Posted July 7, 2004 I see, well it appears you've already made your choice, so why come and ask for opinions? It also seems you did let a guy come between your friendship, which is a shame Link to post Share on other sites
Author Star2007 Posted July 7, 2004 Author Share Posted July 7, 2004 I CAME FOR OPINIONS TO SEE WAS I WRONG OR NOT. AND NO, I DID NOT LET A GUY COME BETWEEN OUR FRIENDSHIP ACTUALLY SHE DID CAUSE I WAS CALLING HER BUT SHE WAS ACTIN LIKE SHE DIDN'T WANT TO TALK TO ME AND SHE TELLING ME THAT SHE DON'T WANT OUR FRIENDSHIP TO END AND SHE IS THE ONE WHO STOP TALKING TO ME. I'M NOT FIT TO KISS NOBODY ASS JUST TO BE THERE ****ING FRIEND I KINDA FIGURE SHE WAS GOING TO GET MAD AT ME BECAUSE SHE GOT MAD AT OVER A ****ING BOOKBAG. I JUST CAME FOR ADVICE IS THAT A PROBLEM? HELL, IF YOU WAS IN THIS SITUATION WHAT WOULD YOU DO. I ASK MY FRIENDS WAS I WRONG THEY SAID I WASN'T I ASK HIM WAS I WRONG HE SAID I WASN'T. AND I DON'T THINK I WAS WRONG SO I JUST CAME FOR ADVICE. SO HEY I'M YOUNG, I'M ONLY 14 YEARS I JUST NEED A LITTLE HELP. Originally posted by Varacha I see, well it appears you've already made your choice, so why come and ask for opinions? It also seems you did let a guy come between your friendship, which is a shame Link to post Share on other sites
Varacha Posted July 7, 2004 Share Posted July 7, 2004 I see, I wasn't trying to make you mad, and if I was in your position I wouldn't have gone for a guy my friend had been seeing or whatever it's called at your age. As for bending over backwards to please a friend no one needs to do that. If you truly want to stay with this guy thats up to you, just remember boyfriends come and go but friends are forever (usually) Link to post Share on other sites
Author Star2007 Posted July 7, 2004 Author Share Posted July 7, 2004 WELL, WHAT YOU MEAN BENDING OVER BACKWARDS TO PLEASE A FRIEND. I KNOW THAT A BOYFRIEND COMES AND GOES AND A FRIEND WILL BE THERE FOREVER BUT I DON'T THINK SAYIN IS TRUE FOR A LOT OF REASONS. ONLY IF YOU KNOW WHAT I GO THROUGH EVERYDAY WITH MY FRIENDS AND MY FAMILY. I REALLY DON'T WANT I FRIENDSHIP TO END LIKE THIS BUT IF I TRY TO BE HER FRIEND SHE GOING TO HOLD IT AGANIST ME AND OUR FRIENDSHIP WILL NEVER BE THE SAME ANYMORE. I'M 14 AND I GO THROUGH SO MUCH. THIS BOY BEEN THERE FOR ME WHEN I WAS DOWN AND OUT OF IT. HE WAS THERE WHEN I HAD NO FRIENDS TO TALK TO. MY FRIEND HAVEN'T BEEN THERE BECAUSE SHE ALWAYS MAD AT ME OVER STUPID STUFF. AND I BEEN THROUGH A LOT THIS YEAR AND THATS WHY I CAME ON HER FOR SOME ADVICE. THANK YOU FOR GIVIN ME SOME, BUT I JUST WANNA LET YOU KNOW IT AIN'T GOIN TO BE EASY BREAKING UP WIT SOMEBODY YOU REALLY LOVE U PROBABLY THINKING I'M TO YOUNG TO KNOW WHAT LOVE IS BUT THIS BOY IS MY FIRST LOVE. AND I DID EVERYTHING WIT HIM IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN(HE IS MY FIRST OF EVERYTHING). AND I ALWAYS SAID THAT I WASN'T GOING TO GET ANOTHER BOYFRIEND BECAUSE WHAT MY LAST BOYFRIEND DID TO ME,CAUSE I USE TO THINK ALL BOYS WAS THE SAME. I WAITED FOR A WHILE AND A GOOD CAME ALONG BUT AT THE SAME TIME I LOOSEING A FRIEND FOR THIS BOY. I HAD THOUGHTS JUST GONE BREAK UP WITH HIM BUT I REALLY LOVE HIM AND ITS GOING TO BE HARD. TELL YOU THE TRUTH I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WANT TO DO. I ALREADY LOST A FRIEND AND I DOUBTED IF SHE TALK TO ME AGAIN. Originally posted by Varacha I see, I wasn't trying to make you mad, and if I was in your position I wouldn't have gone for a guy my friend had been seeing or whatever it's called at your age. As for bending over backwards to please a friend no one needs to do that. If you truly want to stay with this guy thats up to you, just remember boyfriends come and go but friends are forever (usually) Link to post Share on other sites
Varacha Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Originally posted by Star2007 WELL, WHAT YOU MEAN BENDING OVER BACKWARDS TO PLEASE A FRIEND. Just a way to say so you won't kiss their @$$'s to please them. Well hon I understand your friend issues I do and if you want some one to talk to about them you can send me a message. As for this being your first love I don't doubt it mine was at about the same age. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Star2007 Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 Thank you for listening to my problem Originally posted by Varacha Just a way to say so you won't kiss their @$$'s to please them. Well hon I understand your friend issues I do and if you want some one to talk to about them you can send me a message. As for this being your first love I don't doubt it mine was at about the same age. Link to post Share on other sites
miz_barby Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 If she was a "superficial" best friend I can see how you wouldn't really feel as bad as if she is a "true deep down" best friend but if she was the 2nd ( a true best friend) then you really were in the wrong, as long as she hasn't done this to you, you're in no position to judge her for what she did.....if I remember correctly you said she did that to your other best friend. You should have been the better one. You said it's been done to you by blood so why would you turn around and do it to someone else knowing how it feels? Even if they didn't talk and just slept together once or made out or whatever I still think it's WRONG! Obviously no matter what any of us say it's still your life and choice but I still say be careful in the future because you reep what you sew! None the less I wish you the best and since you're staying with him I hope it works out for you two! Link to post Share on other sites
Love2BLoved Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 I think that friend's should always come first because in the long run you will probably be left without the guy and without your best-friend! Link to post Share on other sites
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