tenspoons Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 (edited) I've been seeing this chick for about a month now, and I just found out that she had an amazingly fun time at a bar last night. Several photos of her were posted on a social networking sight with her arms linked with other guys I've never met, one of them was with her just walking away from the camera linked to one guy. I found out that the one guy she was with alone asked her to come to the bar with him next weekend, and she accepted seeming excited and pleased. Apparently they are old friends, because they said they haven't seen each other in a while. Am I right to think something is up, or can I cool down a little? because it's not really making me jealous, but I'm just really pissed right now because it seems like she is meeting up with an old friend that she sees in a different light now. It's not like she planned it either, he just tagged along with a girlfriend she was going with. they want to meet up again after just one night of drinking. He bought her the most drinks out of the other women that were there too(all of that info was on the social networking sight too). And this is coming into my knowledge just a few days before a date were I am going to make some heavy moves to advance on her ladder. I'm just really frustrated right now and idk what to think. help please, I'm upset. Did she just find an old friend to catch up with, an awesome bar buddy, or what I fear? I feel like I was so close, then some other random dude came out of nowhere to snatch her up in under a day. When it took me a month to get where I am now. Edited July 9, 2012 by tenspoons Link to post Share on other sites
FryFish Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 Move on man... Even if you "get" her... party girls are mostly trash. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tenspoons Posted July 9, 2012 Author Share Posted July 9, 2012 she isn't a party girl. does going to a bars once and a while with friends count as a party girl? Link to post Share on other sites
FryFish Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 Sounds like she is going every weekend... And getting drunk with other guys... Ask yourself, would you ever buy a girl you werent gunning for a bunch of drinks? People go to bars to get laid... Link to post Share on other sites
Oncehadluv Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 party girls arent trash they just dont do well with a guy with goals, if you want to settle down with a party girl expect hell on earth party girls are just that , party girls dont expect anything more Link to post Share on other sites
Plan 9 from OS Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 You've been dating for a month. Have you take your relationship to the point that you two are supposed to be exclusive or are you on dates only? Sometimes you finish in second place. Obviously, you need to talk to her and find out if she wants to just date or if you two are supposed to be committed to each other. Lay your cards on the table and communicate with her. If you think she's lying to you, then break it off. You can't build a relationship based on lies, lack of trust and lack of communication. Aside from love, these other 3 items are critical: honesty, communication and trust. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tenspoons Posted July 9, 2012 Author Share Posted July 9, 2012 (edited) I suppose it could be a combination of us not agreeing to be committed and her being single. I just hate the fact that she posted that **** all over the internet when she knows what's going on between us. Part of me wants to believe she is trying to make me jealous because I haven't made a move yet hoping it would spur me into it, but what are the odds. Like it just feels a little staged/thrown to me. She has never done anything remotely close to this before. she was always the person who didn't flirt or display something like this over the internet. In fact she doesn't even respond to flirting on the internet from anyone, not even me. Edited July 9, 2012 by tenspoons Link to post Share on other sites
Oncehadluv Posted July 9, 2012 Share Posted July 9, 2012 party girls know how to stage, if you cant decifer when she is or isnt id keep a distance Link to post Share on other sites
Author tenspoons Posted July 9, 2012 Author Share Posted July 9, 2012 (edited) someone give me a list of traits the defines a party girl that has not already been listed. I will compare them to my girl and get back to you. I definitely do not see her being a huge party girl that plays super games and ****. It just wouldn't be worth anyone's time to be this elaborate just to get one guy. It's far easier to just come out and say "**** me" seriously, she has gone way out of her way just to have diner with me. and by way out of her way, i mean driving across 1/2 a state. She was even going to take that drive after a long shift of work just to see me. I rescheduled to a day she had off so we can have time to do more, and without her being tired as hell only to turn back 1 hour 1/2 later. I doubt those are traits a party girl would have, I mean a party girl would just go to the local club to get a date that's closer. Edited July 9, 2012 by tenspoons Link to post Share on other sites
goodthingscome Posted July 14, 2012 Share Posted July 14, 2012 Instead of posting here, why don't you just talk to her? Tell her how you feel about her bar behavior and ask her where do you fit in her life. She might be feeling smothered and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
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