Moose Posted July 6, 2004 Share Posted July 6, 2004 What are some of your ideas on how to get you in the mood and to get a clear indication from you to go ahead and make the move towards sex? I couldn't swear by it, but I think I had a couple of opportunities this weekend, but didn't go all the way because my wife didn't out right tell me she wanted to make love. Do we men just have to ask out bluntly? To me that takes all the romance out of it. What are some clear indicators? How do we know we are clear for take off? This is Capt. Under......over...... Link to post Share on other sites
supermom Posted July 6, 2004 Share Posted July 6, 2004 I don't initiate sex w/ my husband because he is always so ready to do it and for some reason....i just don't say anything. i am on bc and the pill lowers my sex drive unfortunately. i told my husband to "treat me like we are just about ready to get together" like okay, i like it when my husband kinda flirts w/ me for a bit....like you know back in the day when you wern't sure the other one liked you or not? well i like it to "just happen". also, when i was 16 and he was 21 i dated his cousin, and i didn't know he liked me..my parents wouldn't of let me date him then anyway, well now were 25 and 30 and i told him to pretend i was 16 again and we are at a party and just happen to find a bedroom. i know it kinda sounds sick (16) but it's because of our history together it kinda makes it irrotic, like we're doing something "bad" even though we're married w/ a child. just a mind game but it kinda works. i like to be flirted with for a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
FolderWife Posted July 6, 2004 Share Posted July 6, 2004 My husband goes "mmm hm!" That's how I know. He'll look at me, and go "mmm hm!" and start rubbing my back, then he'll go "mmm hm!" and touch my boobs, then he'll go "mmm hm!" and start kissing them, then he'll go "mmm hm!" and do something else, and so on. If he's good and ready, he'll take my clothes off. I can just lay there. If he can't get it in, because I'm not ready, he'll touch me down there, until I'm wet. By this time, I'm ready, and he proceeds. Sometimes, he'll just put my hand on his thing, as an indication to get his engine running, because he's ready to ride. I don't know, it don't take much for me, I guess. If he tried to start something, and I flat out said no, then I'd expect him to stop. What's the problem? Just proceed, and if she says no, go grab a porno. When you stop trying, and she's on here whining about your porn addiction, then you won't have to worry wether or not she's ready, because she will ALWAYS be ready... Or at least that's what my husband did. I think I turned him down twice, and he stopped having sex with me altogether. TWICE!!!! Jeeze I don't ever turn him down now Link to post Share on other sites
Karlise13 Posted July 7, 2004 Share Posted July 7, 2004 I love it when we have a good heart-to-heart talk It doesn't have to be about anything deep....just a good talk about things we think about, things that happened throughout the day, stories about our friends. I like feeling connected. Whenever we really connect, I'm reminded of what a special guy my BF is. And that's what makes me WANT him that way Link to post Share on other sites
Potatohead Posted July 7, 2004 Share Posted July 7, 2004 Actually I have the same problem most of the time....it is rare for my wife to give of signals that she wants sex....It usually takes a fair bit of encouragement. But when she does give a signal it is usually by annoying me....like squirting me in the head with a water sprayer......and I joke that if she doesn't stop it then she is gonna get it......and if she keeps it up....she gets it....lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author Moose Posted July 7, 2004 Author Share Posted July 7, 2004 I just told her that from now on she has to give me a clear sign that she is willing to give herself to me. Cause, I'm not kidding you, I never know anymore!!! I mean, there are days where in the middle of the afternoon she'll tell me that the night before she was hoping that I'd put the move on her......well, I probably would have had I known. The thing is with her, ( And I dare to say all of you ladies ), is when the launch sequence has started and she says to abort, that really tends to put us guys in a foul mood!!! So now, I don't want to start anything just to avoid that situation. She was in bed and had a headache last night when I talked to her about it. You know what she said? "Give me a little bit to get rid of this headache and then we can do something." THAT WAS NOT MY INTENTIONS!!!!! I just wanted her to know that I need to know when it's ok to go ahead and start something.....not that I wanted to right then and there. It was like she was saying, "well, if I have to, just give me a minute". I'm almost convinced to mark nights on the calendar when we are to make love, then maybe we will both expect it. Any more suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
PUHLEEEEZE... Posted July 7, 2004 Share Posted July 7, 2004 Hey, Moose - Putting the date on the calendar thing works for me and my hubby... Wednesday is "Prince Spaghetti Night" at our house!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Moose Posted July 7, 2004 Author Share Posted July 7, 2004 Interesting Puhleeeeez....can you explain this "Prince Spaghetti Night", to me? I hope you're not telling me he has a noodle down there.....hehe, sorry..... Link to post Share on other sites
PUHLEEEEZE... Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Quite the contrary, Moose! He's the BIG RAGU!! Remember the commercial for Prince Spaghetti? Tony always knew he was gonna "get it" on Wednesday -- that made him one happy boy, so he raced through the streets to get home. It was a sure thing he could count on and looked forward to. That's the principle we've applied here. I can plan my day to make sure I've got enough "sauce", and he knows he's in for one spicy a-meatball!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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