ShareHer Posted August 27, 2004 Share Posted August 27, 2004 Originally posted by nutzack69 ShareHer, I can completely relate to your fantasy. I have had the same fantasy about my wife for quite sometime now. I have never mentioned it to her though, and maybe one day I will, but I do know that if it bothers her I won't push it. Hi nutz, sometimes if I come up with a fantasy that I'm afraid to mention to my wife, what I'll do is, I'll tell her I dreamt about it the night before while sleeping. That way, even if she was totally repulsed by the idea, I can always say, "It was only a dream!" Completely honest? No. Better than getting slapped and thought of as a perv? Yes. Link to post Share on other sites
oannamarie Posted September 1, 2004 Share Posted September 1, 2004 Why cant all men be that trusting. I would go for it if I was her. Link to post Share on other sites
ShareHer Posted September 1, 2004 Share Posted September 1, 2004 Originally posted by oannamarie Why cant all men be that trusting. I would go for it if I was her. Helllloooooooo oooooannamarie! Thatta girl! How convenient, you live in Md ... too. Link to post Share on other sites
Taken_Angel Posted September 1, 2004 Share Posted September 1, 2004 This thread is way too long to read through so forgive me if this question has been asked already but I have to know...has she ever done it? Is this a control thing for you (that you can convince her to do another man just to please you)?? What is it about her having sex with another man in front of you that excites you? Is it like your own private porn type a deal? Link to post Share on other sites
ShareHer Posted September 1, 2004 Share Posted September 1, 2004 Originally posted by Taken_Angel This thread is way too long to read through so forgive me if this question has been asked already but I have to know...has she ever done it? Is this a control thing for you (that you can convince her to do another man just to please you)?? The only time she's ever done it was 2 years ago before we got married. I can't imagine it being a control issue because she is such a strong willed woman. She wouldn't do somehting she really didn't want to do. Over the course of her 2 month stay in Florida, she had sex with the guy on 16 different days, sometimes 2 or 3 times in one day. It seemed like every time I'd call her to see how she was, she'd be on her way to his house to have sex with him again. To me, this really doesn't sound like a person that was being forced to do anything. What is it about her having sex with another man in front of you that excites you? Is it like your own private porn type a deal? I wish I could answer this one but I can't. The idea that another man is finding out firsthand how sexy and hot my wife is, could possibly be one of the reasons. For example, in another thread, moose posted a link to his beautiful wife's picture. You can tell he's extremely proud of the way she looks and wanted to share her beauty with others. This could in some ways be the same way I feel except I take it a step further. I don't have sexual or jealousy hangups when it comes to my wife being with another man. I'm not a religious person so there aren't any ties between religion and sex to me. To me, a man having sex with my wife would be no different than another man shaking her hand, giving her a friendly hug or a peck on the cheek. I am excited by seeing things you're not supposed to see and watching another man have sex with your wife isn't something one generally sees. That's the best explanation I can give you. Link to post Share on other sites
Luckyman Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 my wife wants me to watch her with another woman and I am totally for it Link to post Share on other sites
ShareHer Posted September 15, 2004 Share Posted September 15, 2004 Originally posted by Luckyman my wife wants me to watch her with another woman and I am totally for it Wow! Ya gotta love a wife like that! Let me know if her wish comes true. Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted September 15, 2004 Share Posted September 15, 2004 Same here luckyman.. She also wants to watch me with another woman. Though something like this might never happen, or at least I don't see it in the near future. It's just a 'fantasy' of hers that she speaks of. Link to post Share on other sites
ShareHer Posted September 17, 2004 Share Posted September 17, 2004 Originally posted by jmargel Same here luckyman.. She also wants to watch me with another woman. Though something like this might never happen, or at least I don't see it in the near future. It's just a 'fantasy' of hers that she speaks of. jm, I'm just curious, why would you not want to give it a try? What if she gave you a no strings attached opportunity to try another woman? I love my wife dearly and when we have sex, it's really good but if she offered that to me, I'd be on it like a big dog! I don't want to eat at the same restaurant every day. I like trying new ones from time to time. That doesn't mean that I like the original restaurant any less. Variety. Link to post Share on other sites
oannamarie Posted September 17, 2004 Share Posted September 17, 2004 If you couldnt watch but your wife wanted someone else would that be okay? Link to post Share on other sites
shortbus74 Posted September 17, 2004 Share Posted September 17, 2004 guys...and gals....just remember that if you decide to take the plunge make sure your relationship is strong (really really strong)..... My honey and I have some wild sex, it is fun.....but there have been a few fights over it..... Link to post Share on other sites
balths Posted September 18, 2004 Share Posted September 18, 2004 I'm very surprised that this subject hasn't been brought up on this post, or that ShareHer doesn't know more about why this turns him on so. Google the following words: Candaulism Cuckold Sperm Competition Syndrome Compersion The reason it turns on virtually millions of men around the world is quite simple and biological. When a man sees his partner with another man, or simply suspects it, or even is just absent from her for some time, he will have an orgasm 3 times stronger than usual, his pelvic thrusts will be 3 times as hard. There's one simple reason for this: he wants to make sure the baby is his. Free will? We're all just victims of our cells and what they want to do. Enjoy. P Link to post Share on other sites
ShareHer Posted September 20, 2004 Share Posted September 20, 2004 Originally posted by oannamarie If you couldnt watch but your wife wanted someone else would that be okay? Oh absolutely! The only condition being that she had to tell me about it, preferably with all the graphic details. But if I had my choice, I'd want to watch her. Link to post Share on other sites
ShareHer Posted September 20, 2004 Share Posted September 20, 2004 Originally posted by balths I'm very surprised that this subject hasn't been brought up on this post, or that ShareHer doesn't know more about why this turns him on so. Google the following words: Candaulism Cuckold Sperm Competition Syndrome Compersion The reason it turns on virtually millions of men around the world is quite simple and biological. When a man sees his partner with another man, or simply suspects it, or even is just absent from her for some time, he will have an orgasm 3 times stronger than usual, his pelvic thrusts will be 3 times as hard. There's one simple reason for this: he wants to make sure the baby is his. Free will? We're all just victims of our cells and what they want to do. Enjoy. P Hi balths ... thanks for the keywords. I'll definitely look them up. I'm already familiar with "Cuckold" ... which involves humiliation of the husband by his wife and her partner. I wouldn't want that every time but it might be interesting to try once in awhile. Link to post Share on other sites
pinnicle10 Posted September 30, 2004 Share Posted September 30, 2004 I have the same desire and I have acted on it. My wife, before we got married was with only one other guy. I got her to do a couple other guys for me and she did exactly that. It was for me. After we were married we took a couple trips to exotic islands and would hookup there so nobody would know us. On occasion I would drop her off at a bar and wait outside to see how long it would take her to come out with a man. Once it took less than 3 minutes. She would go into his car and take care of business and on a couple occasions go back into the bar for another couple rounds. Sometimes she would stay in the car and the guy would go back in and another man would come out and go into the car. Three guys in one night was the most. We did this only for the first 18 months of our marriage. Then she wanted to stop after about 50 guys. She only did it for me. She said enough was enough and we can now live on the memories. I was fine with that and agreed because knowing she did it for me and that she wanted to stop it was only fair. Ten years later it never happened again. Link to post Share on other sites
shortbus74 Posted September 30, 2004 Share Posted September 30, 2004 ShareHer....regardless of what you want.... it has to be a three way street... I have done the two guys and one girl and I will say the aftermath of the action was not exactly good.... I was not forced into the situation but I did not feel "right" about it... fantasies are great, but they lose their appeal when they become reality.... Link to post Share on other sites
hotgurl Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 Shareher, After reading your post I got an idea. You said this guy still calls your wife? why don't you watch her have phone sex with him and maybe help it might make her more comfotable to have a liver performance. As for me I have had several threesomes. They are so hot . I'd rather be the center of attention though 2 guys and little ole me but when i did it in a relationship it blew it apart. He thought he would be fine but wasn't. He became very jealous afterward and possive. But with 2 casual aquitanses it woked fine Link to post Share on other sites
pinnicle10 Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 I like your attitude. You just did not have the right partner. I like the fact that you like to take a walk on the wild side a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
hotgurl Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 We are actually celebrating 3 yrs at a victorian inn at the cape. I go a french maid outfit and some silk scarfs and a blindfold. But I agree thoose types of relationship can work but everyone has to be on board but sometimes it's hard to really know how you'll feel until after it happens. The only thing I wish is to have a ffm but the bf isn't into it. and i have, to say I am a little jealous so I don't know how I'd react latter. It's fuuny though I've never been jealous before but i've never been so deeply in a relationship before either. Maybe for his b-day I'll surprise him hmmm........ Link to post Share on other sites
pinnicle10 Posted October 1, 2004 Share Posted October 1, 2004 Thank you for the reply. If you bf does not want to do the ffm than it will nto be a surprise. If you are not sure how you will feel then you should definitely not do it. Stick with the mmf stuff since you know he is okay with it. I know I would be. I have done some very wild things with my ex wife. Steve Link to post Share on other sites
sassyone Posted October 3, 2004 Share Posted October 3, 2004 I've been in this kind of situation before. My husband started talking to me about 3somes and swinging partners. 3somes with another female i didnt mind as i always had a curiosity to try something new with a female in the relationship too. My husband is always saying how he wants to repay the favour and see me with another man....and although this has been a fantasy of mine for many years its something that i'd like to remain a fantasy. I love my husband way too much and i keep explaining to him that if i wanted to have sex with other men apart from him then i'd be single and not in a marriage because i just wouldnt do it . Yeah messing around and having some harmless fun would be ok but as for the sex im not interested whatsoever. But thats just me and my opinion. My husband doesn't pressure me to do it but he does bring the subject up quite often.. just wish he'd understand that the answer is always going to be no! I've had my share of fun and guys in the past..i want to be with the man i love and only him..why is that so hard to understand? Link to post Share on other sites
ShareHer Posted October 4, 2004 Share Posted October 4, 2004 Originally posted by shortbus74 ShareHer....regardless of what you want.... it has to be a three way street... I have done the two guys and one girl and I will say the aftermath of the action was not exactly good.... I was not forced into the situation but I did not feel "right" about it... fantasies are great, but they lose their appeal when they become reality.... Shortie, What do you mean three way street ... as in all 3 parties have to be willing? I'm willing and I've talked to lots of guys that would be willing. Now it's just a matter of finding the right time, the right circumstances and the right guy that would make my wife feel willing. Trust me, I'm not pushing her but she knows all too well that if and when she wants to try another man that I'm all for it. Link to post Share on other sites
ShareHer Posted October 4, 2004 Share Posted October 4, 2004 Originally posted by hotgurl Shareher, After reading your post I got an idea. You said this guy still calls your wife? why don't you watch her have phone sex with him and maybe help it might make her more comfotable to have a liver performance. Hottie, That sounds like a really great idea on paper but her Boy Toy is actually a bit conservative and shy for phone sex and I don't think my wife is one to initiate it anyway. She's starting back to work this week so I'm hoping that not being a stay at home mom all the time might get her interested. I too would prefer a MFM 3some. I'm sure a FMF would be fun but I don't think my wife would be comfortable with it. Link to post Share on other sites
hotgurl Posted October 4, 2004 Share Posted October 4, 2004 Yeah you have to make sure everyone is comfotable with it. My bf know I want a ffm and it does turn him on but he thinks the fallout will be messy and doesn't want to risk the relationship. So I have to repect him for that. How about a webcam? Phone sex it so fun it is a shame they are not into it. it can be very liberating. you should just invite the guy up all go hot tubbing and have a glass of wine and see where the night goes. Link to post Share on other sites
Hilarious Posted October 4, 2004 Share Posted October 4, 2004 Your wife doesn't want it, and no other woman does, as you can see from the responses. You want the best of both worlds, but this is one case where it is not possible. To be loyal and not to be loyal, to be married and remain single, in other words, to be sitting on two chairs. Judging by what you are saying, you love her, but you don't want her. You don't want her, unless you feel jealous, threatened, or challenged. But one woman can never provide you with these thrills, you have to choose, what's more important to you, exciting sex, or a stable relationship. Another thing, that is strange, is that you claim not to be religious, but you are constantly implying, that sex is dirty, and that a woman is a whore. But that's what religious fanatics do. It's like you enjoy a forbidden fruit, but if it's not forbidden (and it's not), then you are not interested. You have some sort of a split personality, your mind, heart and body don't function together in coordination. You cannot experience an act of lovemaking in its totality, when you melt into your partner with all your body, heart and soul. If you did, you wouldn't enjoy watching your wife like an object with another man. Degrading her, because you hate yourself. That's a case of sado-masochism. Link to post Share on other sites
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