AlexanderJames Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 Samilia, you would hate me. By this logic, I am the biggest dimbwit on earth. I cant even be classifiead as high as halfwit haha Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted July 11, 2012 Author Share Posted July 11, 2012 Sure, why wouldn't I want to hang with someone nice? I don't like mean people, to put it simply. Probably why I don't like sarcasms. Did you know sarcasms is the lowest kind of wit? Sometimes I think I care too much. Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted July 11, 2012 Author Share Posted July 11, 2012 He's telling me again how he really has noone supporting him, I told him I was there for him, and he just brought up the breakup. He said no, the one time I pissed you off you turned your back on me, you knew you were all I had ( I didnt) and you turned your back. I thought i've showed him enough that it was a mistake and that I want to be back in his life... Link to post Share on other sites
AlexanderJames Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 Dunno what to say to that. Seems like he's taking a dig... If you ignore it, he will assume he is correct. How can you correct him without looking weak? I would reply with your last sentence. It's a bit shock and awe and considering his delicate circumstance might cause more problems though. But "I thought I've done enough to show you that it was a mistake and that I want you back in my life" would definitely open my eyes if I were in his shoes not knowing where you stood and how you felt. Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted July 11, 2012 Author Share Posted July 11, 2012 Dunno what to say to that. Seems like he's taking a dig... If you ignore it, he will assume he is correct. How can you correct him without looking weak? I would reply with your last sentence. It's a bit shock and awe and considering his delicate circumstance might cause more problems though. But "I thought I've done enough to show you that it was a mistake and that I want you back in my life" would definitely open my eyes if I were in his shoes not knowing where you stood and how you felt. He's shutting down, getting angry. Bringing up the past when a rumor was recently brought up about him hooking up with people, i called him a mean name, told him to f off. Hes bringing it up again. I thought we got past that. He said "depression wins'' I give up" I asked him if I could come over, he said "no." So i asked him what he wants me to do regarding us. I just sent that. I can't deal with this emotional boy much longer. If he is just going to constantllly shut me out I have to leave. Link to post Share on other sites
AlexanderJames Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 I could never hate you! I broke NC once even though the whole forum said not to. We do what we have to. Does sound like excuse after excuse really. The money comment was probably just him venting some of his anger about what his dad did. If spending time with him means that much to you all you can do is ask. "When are you free next? I want to spend some time with you, nothing fancy or expensive just to catch up and spend some time together" If he dodges THAT, then all that's left for you to do is what you started yesterday or the day before (stupid timezone). Step back, leave him alone and let whatever is going to happen happen. Because you've clearly put in a lot of effort before and after his father problem and it hasnt got you face to face. You owe it to yourself to put yourself first. At the end of the day, he won't let you come to him so the only thing that leaves you with is to either drop it and move on or give him some space to come to you. But that wont work if you have your weak moments and ask to see him. You have to be strong.! I wish I met girls like the ones on this website in real life haha. All the people on here are the worlds "good guys" and "good girls" that everyone hopes to meet one day. The one's with no intention to fool around or hurt others. People that are in touch with their emotions and that value relationships are hard to find. But theyre in abundance on here haha Link to post Share on other sites
AlexanderJames Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 I feel I have to change my opinions on this kid after reading that last post. He's a mess, emotionally crippled and has absolutely no idea what's going on with himself. I think his problems stem much deeper than just you and your past. Honestly, can you be with someone who is so emotionally destraught and unstable? People often give advice on here saying "before you chase after someone make sure you haven given yourself the time to heal and discover who you are." It makes sense really, you cant expect to be able to hold a stable relationship and make someone else happy if you cant even make yourself happy. I think maybe before YOU go seeking reconciliation with his boy. HE needs to have the time and space alone to come to terms with his own emotions... If that makes sense. I wouldnt try and pursue anything with him until I was confident that he's emotionally stable and back on track. It would just be too complicated and cause too many more problems if he was a train wreck and you got back together. Get out, step back and leave him on his own for a while. Let him sort his **** out. If he comes back afterwards then you be the judge on how he's matured. If not well I honestly don't think you'll be missing out on much. Certainly not anything you wont find and more in someone new. Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted July 11, 2012 Author Share Posted July 11, 2012 a lot has happened. He's shutting down, getting angry. Bringing up the past when a rumor was recently brought up about him hooking up with people, i called him a mean name, told him to f off. Hes bringing it up again. I thought we got past that. He said "depression wins'' I give up" I asked him if I could come over, he said "no." So i asked him what he wants me to do regarding us. I just sent that. I can't deal with this emotional boy much longer. If he is just going to constantllly shut me out I have to leave. He told me he wants me to be happy. I told him that that wasn't my question, I wanted to know if he wants this to work or if he doesnt, I said its a yes or no answer. He just keeps saying I want you to be happy. I said C___ No, please answer my question. Do you want us to work this out or are we completely done? He goes " I don't want to talk about this anymore" I told him it was easy, yes or no. And to look in the future and see if he saw me. He's now saying stuff like, " its hard to think about my future when I don't think i'll have one." He said if he was home i could come over but he is out driving "god knows where" I told him that I would like to. And he said that is if he comes back.. I told him that he need to get help and to not talk about that. (hes been saying hes depressed and is worthless blah blah) So he said he is driving and doesnt know where he will end up. personally I think thats sketchy I feel like he is driving to some girls place that lives a while away, maybe about an hour ish. Idk why he would do that, im maybe over thinking. but i'm worried about him. he really needs help. I dont know where this is coming from all of the sudden... Link to post Share on other sites
AlexanderJames Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 He is hinting that he's going to hurt himself.. Whether he's serious or seeking attention it's very serious. I really dont think he's going to some girls place. He might be out driving to clear his head but chances are he is at his place, in his room, staring at his phone wondering how you will reply to his messages. He's never had a history of depression, angsiety or suicidal tendancies? This doesnt particularly sound like the kind of situation to push someone to these extreme levels of depression and self hate. I mean his dad stealing his money and going to jail sucks but would that push a normal person to such lengths? I don't think so. Maybe I'm missing something here. Maybe we both are? All I know is that this kid needs help. He's in a dangerous place. It might not help youre cause at getting him to prove himself but for his safety would you consider going around yourself to see him uninvited and trying to calm him down? Or going to his mother and telling her how destraught he is? I feel that leaving him to his own devices in such a dangerous mindset could have bad consequences. Maybe Phone his best friend and tell him what your ex is saying to you, get his best friend to help him out so you dont have to see him yourself? You definitely need to stop asking and talking about the two of you and your situation though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted July 11, 2012 Author Share Posted July 11, 2012 He is hinting that he's going to hurt himself.. Whether he's serious or seeking attention it's very serious. I really dont think he's going to some girls place. He might be out driving to clear his head but chances are he is at his place, in his room, staring at his phone wondering how you will reply to his messages. He's never had a history of depression, angsiety or suicidal tendancies? This doesnt particularly sound like the kind of situation to push someone to these extreme levels of depression and self hate. I mean his dad stealing his money and going to jail sucks but would that push a normal person to such lengths? I don't think so. Maybe I'm missing something here. Maybe we both are? All I know is that this kid needs help. He's in a dangerous place. It might not help youre cause at getting him to prove himself but for his safety would you consider going around yourself to see him uninvited and trying to calm him down? Or going to his mother and telling her how destraught he is? I feel that leaving him to his own devices in such a dangerous mindset could have bad consequences. Maybe Phone his best friend and tell him what your ex is saying to you, get his best friend to help him out so you dont have to see him yourself? You definitely need to stop asking and talking about the two of you and your situation though. He is definitely out driving, I'm about to go out and see if he is at his place, and if he is i'm going to tell him i'm outside. I need to think about the mom situation, and yes he told me he has been diagonosed before with depression... Can I somehow give you my number so I can text you as i'm out? Link to post Share on other sites
AlexanderJames Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 If you want I'll give you my full name so you can facebook message me? You have mobile fb yeah? Might be a lot of money to txt me considering I live in Australia and seeing as you say "mom" im guessing theres a great deal of water between us. I don't care who on this forum knows what my last name is Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted July 11, 2012 Author Share Posted July 11, 2012 If you want I'll give you my full name so you can facebook message me? You have mobile fb yeah? Might be a lot of money to txt me considering I live in Australia and seeing as you say "mom" im guessing theres a great deal of water between us. I don't care who on this forum knows what my last name is I'll post here. He isn't at his house. What do i do...call him? Link to post Share on other sites
AlexanderJames Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 He probably wont answer if he's driving? I feel like he's doing it to get attention. But why would he when he already has your attention? You don't want to tell his mum? Or his friend? Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted July 11, 2012 Author Share Posted July 11, 2012 I'm not sure what to do. I dont want him to get mad, but ok ots 220 am here. if I call he doesn't answer and time passes im calling someone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted July 11, 2012 Author Share Posted July 11, 2012 He didn't answer the phone, texted him and said i was about to start calling people. Link to post Share on other sites
AlexanderJames Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 Wow 10 hours behind ya. Yeah he might get angry if you go to someone else. But he's not letting you talk to him. It's not fair him doing this to you... Link to post Share on other sites
AlexanderJames Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 Good move. Letting him know you will before you actually do it. Smart thinking Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted July 11, 2012 Author Share Posted July 11, 2012 Should I wait till 3 to start calling people? Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted July 11, 2012 Author Share Posted July 11, 2012 This is such a turn off omg. Link to post Share on other sites
AlexanderJames Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 No reply from him at all? I'd hope it's not a turn on? Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted July 11, 2012 Author Share Posted July 11, 2012 Lol. Nope no response at all. Link to post Share on other sites
AlexanderJames Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 Do you think he will harm himself? Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted July 11, 2012 Author Share Posted July 11, 2012 I have no idea. I have no idea where he is, I just want to know he is somewhere safe. I keep driving to see if hes there. Should I contact a friend; Link to post Share on other sites
AlexanderJames Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 Might be hard to get in touch with someone at 3 am midweek... But if you think he's a genuine threat to himself I'd call a friend, regardless of how mad he gets. Possibly even the police, explain what he's been saying where he lives and what he drives. Link to post Share on other sites
Author livelife Posted July 11, 2012 Author Share Posted July 11, 2012 Just called him again, no answer. So i texted his sorority little sister. he can get mad at me all he wants but clearly I care for him...this is so immature. Link to post Share on other sites
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