I wish

[Dreameister]

I wish you'd never met him.

I wish you'd never gone on that trip with him.

I wish you'd kept better contact with me, and not fallen for him, so hard.

I wish you'd broken up with me before it got physical.

I wish you'd broken up with me before he became the greatest love you'd ever felt.

I wish you'd told me the real reason we had to break up when you ended it with me.

I wish that you'd told me about him.

I wish I didn't have the image in my mind of every phrase of affection you two showed each other whilst we were 'together', which I read, finding out about him 6 months later.

I wish I'd been more on your mind.

I wish I could hold you right now, I wish I could hold you and feel only love for you, with you loving me with all your heart.

[PegNosePete]

If wishes were horses, we'd all be eating steak.

[nofool4u]

I wish you'd have told me you cheated BEFORE I married you.

[drifter777]

I wish you'd never met him.

I wish you'd never gone on that trip with him.

I wish you'd kept better contact with me, and not fallen for him, so hard.

I wish you'd broken up with me before it got physical.

I wish you'd broken up with me before he became the greatest love you'd ever felt.

I wish you'd told me the real reason we had to break up when you ended it with me.

I wish that you'd told me about him.

I wish I didn't have the image in my mind of every phrase of affection you two showed each other whilst we were 'together', which I read, finding out about him 6 months later.

I wish I'd been more on your mind.

I wish I could hold you right now, I wish I could hold you and feel only love for you, with you loving me with all your heart.

 

You sound shattered and my heart goes out to you. I've been there and know how it feels. You're going to suffer for a while and grieve for her and it's going to hurt. Don't try to ignore it, but don't just wallow in it either. Try to keep active with work or school and get plenty of exercise. And don't forget to eat, even though you seem to never be hungry.

 

The best advice I ever got when I was in your shoes was in a poem. It went something like:

 

"don't torture yourself with feelings of love you never felt while you were together"

 

In other words she wasn't perfect and your relationship wasn't perfect so try not to idealize her and everything about your time together.

[GLDheart]

She's done a very shallow thing to you. As drifter above said, she's hardly perfect. The best thing you can do is let her go. It's out of your hands now anyway. Accept it. Drifter's exercise tip is key. Seriously. Do it. Run. Bike. Do Yard work, Whatever. Just get the heck out in the sun and feel good. Hit up family and friends. Be around people. For a while it will feel fake. But, before you know it less of your thoughts will be on your Ex. She will fade. Then you can see her for her true self: An imature girl that couldn't end your relationship with respect. A liar. A Cheat. And far from perfect.

[nofool4u]

You sound shattered and my heart goes out to you. I've been there and know how it feels. You're going to suffer for a while and grieve for her and it's going to hurt. Don't try to ignore it, but don't just wallow in it either. Try to keep active with work or school and get plenty of exercise. And don't forget to eat, even though you seem to never be hungry.

 

The best advice I ever got when I was in your shoes was in a poem. It went something like:

 

"don't torture yourself with feelings of love you never felt while you were together"

 

In other words she wasn't perfect and your relationship wasn't perfect so try not to idealize her and everything about your time together.

 

I agree. Don't torture yourself, life will get better especially when you are no longer with your cheating abuser.

 

Sorry about my first post, thought it was a wish list thread.