Svet74 Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 so by you letting him have contact but dont care enough to be a CONTRIBUTOR to him getting on his feet that makes you feel better about yourself? yes you have issues and its clear your of no emotional/monitary support to a partner Um actually you are wrong. I was a very big contributor for a long time. Letting him borrow money and just being there for him emotionally. letting him know everything was gonna be ok and to just stay positive but he decided to use the money i gave him to go party. drink, and buy his cigerettes.. so yeah as of right now.. or as of since january I stopped being a contribetor.. He needs to change, and if he doesn't I will never take him back. the problems he caused, he only did to himself, for making poor choices Link to post Share on other sites
Oncehadluv Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 Um actually you are wrong. I was a very big contributor for a long time. Letting him borrow money and just being there for him emotionally. letting him know everything was gonna be ok and to just stay positive but he decided to use the money i gave him to go party. drink, and buy his cigerettes.. so yeah as of right now.. or as of since january I stopped being a contribetor.. He needs to change, and if he doesn't I will never take him back. the problems he caused, he only did to himself, for making poor choices so you left him over a few beers and ciggarettes? there is an issue way deeper your not telling us Link to post Share on other sites
Svet74 Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 so you left him over a few beers and ciggarettes? there is an issue way deeper your not telling us a few beers? No i would call it acloholism actually. And honestly he was just being an ass. He wanted to do what he wanted and have me too. How is that even fair? Or no he wanted to be with me, but not be comitted to me. its not what i wanted. I was unhappy. I left a relationship that was already broken. He was the one who broke it. Then after i left him and went NC to move on he ended up losing his job. But at least this time he was not coming to me when he needed me. Now it really seems like he is trying to change and get his life back on track. he even brings up marriage. its something he wants Link to post Share on other sites
Cobber9 Posted July 13, 2012 Share Posted July 13, 2012 Listen, having been through a horrible break up that lasted 5 years because both of us couldn't maintain no contact was the biggest distraction of my life. I found out she was married, I had been divorced for years. In the minute I stuck to no contact the toxic relationship and associated heartache left me. I turned my business around, met wonderful women, and I moved on. If a person wants you, and you want them, then it works out. If not, then you must deal with the reality, and move on. The only way to do that is to move on, which means no contact. If you don't understand no contact then you are still in the emotional denial stage. Perhaps years from the point of the break up you can talk as friends, but as I told my ex, we are either lovers or nothing. We don't exist as friends, you don't get that part of me. No contact is what you do when it's done, and it's a bitch to know when it's done. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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