Woggle Posted July 10, 2012 Share Posted July 10, 2012 It seems that so many married women seem to despise or are at least unattracted to their husbands. Even many women have said to me that deep down the great majority of taken women would love to be single and envy single women. Is this true for the women on here? Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted July 10, 2012 Share Posted July 10, 2012 I'm still a newlywed, so perhaps my opinion counts less, but of course I'd marry Hubby again! I love being married to him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted July 10, 2012 Share Posted July 10, 2012 I'm still a newlywed, so perhaps my opinion counts less, but of course I'd marry Hubby again! I love being married to him. Do you have children? It seems that women's love for their husband gets replaced by love for their children. I've had women admit this to me, so it's not my own idea. Link to post Share on other sites
Latte Love Posted July 10, 2012 Share Posted July 10, 2012 I'm still turned on and attracted to my husband. I still love him. But I cannot live with him - with the issues that he has that he uses as a crutch and refuses to work on. So, older, smarter, I would take these things more seriously. No. I would not marry him again as he is right now. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted July 10, 2012 Share Posted July 10, 2012 I would, but only because marrying him led to our son. I don't despise my husband at all, but I think we have a lot of incompatibilities that make life much more difficult than it needs to be. Link to post Share on other sites
onthefence210 Posted July 10, 2012 Share Posted July 10, 2012 I think it all depends. I know that if I had to do it all again, at the stage and mentality that I am right now after 21 yrs of being with him...I'd say OH, HELL NO!!! I wouldn't even give him a second of my time. I think it totally depends on emotional maturity at the time you meet and get married. Who u r in your 20's is not going to be who u r in your 30's and so on. Well if you are then there will most likely be problems. I think couples need to grow together and sometimes it just doesn't happen that way. Sometimes you do fall in love with an image and not the person. But I've seen a lot of couples truly love one another. I think it takes a lot of work and it's possible. But oh Hell No!!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
onthefence210 Posted July 10, 2012 Share Posted July 10, 2012 I'm still a newlywed, so perhaps my opinion counts less, but of course I'd marry Hubby again! I love being married to him. Do you have children? It seems that women's love for their husband gets replaced by love for their children. I've had women admit this to me, so it's not my own idea. I believe some women do consume themselves with their children but I think there is a reason for it. Not saying its right just saying that it doesn't happen with healthy relationships. Some men view children as competition, their ego gets deflated, they are no longer the center of the universe. Love between husband and wife vs parent an child is different so in my opinion you can't replace one with the other. You can overcompensate with one when the other isn't what you think it should be. Sadly...too many people have kids to solve marital problems. Those are the ones who may tend to overcompensate or to fill a void. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted July 10, 2012 Share Posted July 10, 2012 Do you have children? It seems that women's love for their husband gets replaced by love for their children. I've had women admit this to me, so it's not my own idea. No, and I'm not going to have children (unless something very unexpected happens!) as it's not a priority for Hubby or myself. I know loads of women with children who love their husbands. Most people today parent together, and I imagine this has a lower chance of happening when BOTH parents are engaged and active in the child's life. Most women I know understand that even when they become a mother, they shouldn't allow Mother to be their whole identity. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mercy Posted July 10, 2012 Share Posted July 10, 2012 Yes, I would. I simply adore the man. He is my best friend. We've been married for years. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
g450 Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 Do you have children? It seems that women's love for their husband gets replaced by love for their children. I've had women admit this to me, so it's not my own idea. Well Im a guy but I can really relate to that and I think that you are spot on. Once our Son was grown and flew the nest my Wife looked over at me with that look like "what are you still doing here?" She could not divorce me fast enough. And she really couldnt tell me why. Got the lame "dont love you any more" thing then after divorce found out she found her one true love from HS online and was messing around with him the whole time. But yeah, some couples get so wrapped up in the kids that they tend to take each other for granted. In my case I got dropped off at the husband pound. Luckily Im a good guy and it didnt take long to get addopted again by a loving woman. Link to post Share on other sites
16thstreet Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 Married women would you marry them over again? Yes. It seems that so many married women seem to despise or are at least unattracted to their husbands. Even many women have said to me that deep down the great majority of taken women would love to be single and envy single women. Is this true for the women on here? No, at least not for me. By the way, my single friends in their 30s are not happy being single and I do not envy their unhappiness at all. Perhaps age matters? That said, I think I would be happy being single if my SO had not come along or if heaven forbid something happened to him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 So it's an even 3 and 3 right now. Sounds just like the divorce percentage. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 In a heartbeat, whether we had children or not!! Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 Yes, I would marry my husband, the father of my children, over and over and over and over again 2 Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 Yes, I would do it over again. Would I have done things differently? Yes. I would have chosen different external factors that have affected our marriage. I would let HIM handle his family, rather than get involved for him. I would have taken distance learning at college, so we were both free to work full time and pull in an income. Perhaps I also would have waited longer to get married or under better circumstances, but we were doing what was best for us at the time. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
woinlove Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 Yes, I would, and yes we have children. Marrying my H was the best decision of my life and I know he feels the same way. Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 Could you pls mention how long you have been married too, your age might help too. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 It seems that many married men seem to despise or are at least unattracted to their wives. Even many men have said to me that deep down the great majority of taken men would love to be single and envy single men. Is this true for the men on here? I think there are plenty of married people who reminisce fondly about the single life, but if all were said and done, those who REALLY feel that way deep down get a divorce. For the rest, it's probably a part of the waxing and waning that is a part of many marriages. Which you, Woggle, define as "misandry." But it's not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted July 11, 2012 Author Share Posted July 11, 2012 Here is a better question. If you won the lottery would you still stay with him? Link to post Share on other sites
BetheButterfly Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 It seems that so many married women seem to despise or are at least unattracted to their husbands. Even many women have said to me that deep down the great majority of taken women would love to be single and envy single women. Is this true for the women on here? It's not true for me!!! I LOVE my husband!!! I am attracted to him from the top of his head to the soles of his feet!!! I have no desire to be single and I feel empathy for single women who are lonely and desire a good husband and are still looking for him, because I was in that situation. I pray for my single friends who are wanting to get married, that God blesses them with wonderful husbands very soon. I also pray that God helps me be a wonderful wife for my wonderful husband, and am striving to grow in all areas of being my hubby's helpmate, cause I love him. My hubby and I will have our first wedding anniversary en September. Even though we are newlyweds, our goal is to grow old together and enjoy this beautiful thing called life together. I never ever want to be single and without him again!!! I feel we are soulmates and that we complement each other, and I would never ever want to see him hurt or sad. Does that answer your question? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BetheButterfly Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 Here is a better question. If you won the lottery would you still stay with him? Yep!!! We'd use the money to pay bills, help family members, and start our own business, which would be cool! However, I am a pessimist when it comes to lotteries... I don't buy tickets because of my negative view in the odds of my winning. My hubby shares this negative view of the lottery, but if someday we perchance buy tickets (which is unlikely right now), we would most definitely use the money together. Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 Could you pls mention how long you have been married too, your age might help too. Married 10 years. I am 44. Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 Here is a better question. If you won the lottery would you still stay with him? Money doesn't factor into whether I leave or stay at all. We have money, so money isn't one of my issues. Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 It appears the majority of those who posted yes, display a commitment to "the through thick and thin" and are willing to ride out the rough times because they believe in their partner and their love. That is a wonderful thing. My reason for saying "no" has nothing to do with a lack of commitment. I have committed myself up to the point of my own extreme unhappiness trying to meet his needs. Sometimes being willing to ride out rough times is a wonderful thing, and sometimes, it's just a waste of your own life. Every marriage is different. Link to post Share on other sites
Got it Posted July 11, 2012 Share Posted July 11, 2012 Even though we divorced I would marry him again. We ultimately weren't compatible but we had some great fun and a great friendship. They say people come into our lives for different reasons and so my ex was in it for many reasons. I learned so many great lessons. He was my first love and my first almost everything. Sure we didn't last forever but that doesn't make it a mistake or regrettable. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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