My ex broke up with her boyfriend tonight. I want her back. Where to go from here?

[gant29]

I found out through a mutual friend that my ex broke up with her current boyfriend tonight. I haven't talked to my ex for 3 days now. Texting or phone calls. To refresh, after my ex and I ended our little affair about 2 months ago following a blow out argument--she refused to talk to me for a month. The last week and a half we have been texting very sporadically, but have been in casual contact. No talk about our relationship. She has initiated all the texting except for one time. I am getting not over us being over and decided to go NC again.

 

but...

 

She is single again. And my plan is to at least make things better so we can possibly have another chance in the future. I don't want to date her or anyone for awhile, I need some "me" time for at least a few months. In the blow out argument we had before we ended things I said some horrible, regrettable things to her and made some assumptions and harsh allegations toward her character and intentions toward me. Some were true, some were not, and some were crossing the line. We both showed a lack of respect toward each other. I want to make things right again eventually. We have broken up a few times before, but this is the only time that our distance between each other has been this great. Regardless of the wrongs she committed, I believe I really hurt her with some of the things I said. I have apologized for them.

 

What to do now though? If I want to get her back in my life eventually? Should I initiate more contact with her? or continue giving her a lot of space? Should I stay casual when we do communicate? Or should I try to talk to her about how I feel?

 

And do you think we can possibly be okay again? As friends or otherwise?

Edited July 11, 2012 by gant29

[gant29]

SIDE NOTE: Am I pathetic for wanting this girl back?

 

Also, don't jump and think I am a crappy person for dating her again while she had a boyfriend. She told me initially that it was "over" between them. I believed her. When I stopped believing her-that's when things ended for us.

[Xjusticenlossx]

Wait...give it another 7 days. If you jump in now shes going to know who told you....it also guve you a chance to see if sd he hasnt already have a fall guy.

[Pod81]

I'd give it more than 7 days. If you take her back right away, that just makes you seem needy and willing to be her backup option. Also, you don't want to be just the poor rebound. I'd wait more like a month or two. Act nonchalant and don't let her know that you're aware of her breakup. Besides, girls like guys who present themselves as being somewhat of a challenge. Act consistent with how you're communicating with her at this moment. If she loves you and wants you back, she'll make it known.

Edited July 12, 2012 by Pod81