pteromom Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 But what I find troublesome is the wife wanting to go from B to D cup. IMO, that is a cry from the wife to get more attention from other men. No. No. No. Those of us with larger ones have gotten comments on them since we were going through puberty. We either learn to appreciate them, or we buy "minimizer" bras and try to hide them. Those with smaller ones have gotten comments since going through puberty. They are made to feel "less than" due to their small boobs. Women either learn to appreciate them as they are, or buy push-up bras with padding and try to make them appear bigger. Let's say the wife with B-cups got "itty bitty titty" comments and spent years feeling insecure about her breasts, and always wishing they were larger. Now, her Bs are sagging, and since she needs them fixed anyway, she has the opportunity to have the breasts she always wished she had. She can have swimsuits actually fit her well. She can feel good about looking at herself in the mirror. It has nothing to do with men in most cases. Sure, there are probably women out there who factor attention from men into the decision. But I guarantee that isn't what it's all about. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 I haven't gone through the whole thread, but just how "bad" does she need these boobs? Does she have self confidence issues? Is she a fairly large girl with only B cups? B cups, on the right frame, are perfect. Boob jobs aren't free and definitely not without risk. You better make sure you know everything there is to know 10x over before you make that decision. She could come out asymetrical, deformed, too large, not large enough for the money... OR DEAD. Link to post Share on other sites
Fabrizio Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 You think boobs will suddenly change your sex life? I don't know. Probably not. But even there are only few chances to change things, why not? I think if marriage is in crisis, before goin to the extreme consequences wife an husban should try to save. If both want this. Link to post Share on other sites
Fabrizio Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 (edited) You could do a deal. She gets the bigger boobs you think she needs. You get the penis extension that she thinks you need. I do not feel proud of what I am askin to her, and there are millions of things that she would probably change in me, but our sexual life is dying and I just saw it as a possible solution. Am I an egositic dirty sciovinst male? Maybe. But propbably this is better than to cheath and try to find passion and desire outside the marriage. Edited July 17, 2012 by Fabrizio Link to post Share on other sites
Plan 9 from OS Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 Wow, some of you women can really skewer us "narrow minded" men... Sorry if I stirred any of you up. Since I never had to go through being judged on my chest size, then maybe the wife wanting the boob job is insecure about her body and wants to do something for herself. But as a married person I think it is still within reason for the husband and wife to sit down and talk this through before she gets something like this done. You never know what type of unintended consequences may result if she has these new and improved breasts. She may not be looking to step out on her man, but does she have the emotional make up to not fall for any extra attention that may come her way after the surgery? Some may take this as simple paranoia, but others may see this as a means to head off any problems before they have a chance to materialize. IMO, there is more to consider than just the fact of getting the breast augmentation itself. Link to post Share on other sites
Plan 9 from OS Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 I do not feel proud of what I am askin to her, and there are millions of things that she would probably change in me, but our sexual life is dying and I just saw it as a possible solution. Am I an egositic dirty sciovinst male? Maybe. But propbably this is better than to cheath and try to find passion and desire outside the marriage. Not trying to thread jack here, but the most important sexual organ is the mind. I think your problems are deeper than just a boob job. Apologies to the OP for the thread jack. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 I don't know. Probably not. But even there are only few chances to change things, why not? I think if marriage is in crisis, before goin to the extreme consequences wife an husban should try to save. If both want this. A boob job is an extreme consequence! Would you be prepared to do the deal I suggested: You could do a deal. She gets the bigger boobs you think she needs. You get the penis extension that she thinks you need. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 I would advise against seeking a breast augmentation during a period of marital crisis. A competent and ethical surgeon so informed would likely agree with me. The OP doesn't apparently confront that issue but it is one potential and one I did see in real life with one of my wife's friends and, yeah, she did end up being unfaithful and yeah, she and her H did end up getting a D which happened right when he retired from 20 years of military service. Sucks.... Link to post Share on other sites
Fabrizio Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 A boob job is an extreme consequence! Would you be prepared to do the deal I suggested: is YES, I would be ready. Link to post Share on other sites
Fabrizio Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 Not trying to thread jack here, but the most important sexual organ is the mind. I think your problems are deeper than just a boob job. Apologies to the OP for the thread jack. yes. Surely there are deeper problems: do u know human beings without problems? haven't met any yet Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 I realize that this is an old thread. But I just wanted to say as someone who HAS had a boob job, it had NOTHING to do with men. I had a baby I gave up for adoption years ago and my breasts were never the same. I hated the way they looked in bathing suits, and I felt self-conscious when I was nakey. With that said - yes they have also definitely changed the way men relate to me and I DEFINITELY get more attention. I went from a C to a D. This has NOT, however, changed how *I* relate to men. People will cheat if they want to, not because they all of a sudden have bigger boobs. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 So how come all the ladies who get boob jobs and say it is NOT for the attention from men, always seem to get the kind of boob jobs that end up attracting a lot of attention from men? Tell me - what kind of boob job wouldn't attract attention from men? So you are saying women should only get tiny implants, and they should be saggy? That's the only way boobs wouldn't attract attention from men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 If I get my boobs fixed for myself, it will be because I don't like looking at myself in the mirror and want my boobs to look nicer. If my boobs look nicer to me, it makes sense that they would also look nicer to men. But that doesn't make MEN the reason behind it. And as Drseussgirl said, it wouldn't change my personality and suddenly turn me into someone who would cheat or who would be going out seeking attention from men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Men like long hair. I like long hair. But since long hair is going to attract attention from men, I better keep it short or I'll end up cheating on my husband. See the failure in your logic? Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Also I better not work out to have a good body, or put on makeup, or wear clothes that flatter my figure, because all of THOSE things attract men, too. Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 I will also add - that you would be surprised how many women have breast augmentation that you would never be able to guess. Not all of us get big porn-star boob jobs. Mine are larger than they were, yes, but also tasteful. Link to post Share on other sites
randomized Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 I had mine augmented about 5 years ago. best decision i could have made. Went from an A to a DD. They don't look fake. I highly recommend she get the implant under the muscle, even though its a more painful recovery.. they look SO much better, and take longer to sag... so less maitenance. I'm very bottom heavy, and have a very broad muscular frame, and I got tired of looking unbalanced, and unfeminine. I've got way more confidence now because my clothes fit better, and I feel more attractive. Keep in mind, implants should generally be replaced and redone about once every 10 years, give or take. I spent a little extra on the 10 year leak, rupture, etc warranty because of that. I mentioned to my husband that I might want to get them redone a little bigger in a few years. At first, I thought maybe I did them too big, but after they settled into their natural position, I found that because of how broad my chest is, I probably should have done them a little bigger. He said he likes them no matter what, but wouldn't object to them being bigger. lol. In other words, yes, he approves. I would say, if she's had conversations with you about it, she's indirectly saying she wants your input and some guidance. It's a big decision to alter your body in that way. Wives know you have an opinion on boob size. She's probably trying to figure out how big she wants to go. If she can pick a size that you also like, this is a golden opportunity for everyone. So I would definitely get involved if I were you. Bring the subject up and let her know that you want to support her and help her out with anything she might need. Maybe hop on the computer together and do some research. Picking a doctor is a very difficult decision, plus you get to browse before and after pictures guilt free. LOL. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Got mine under the muscle too - and my man says they feel wonderful. Link to post Share on other sites
randomized Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Got mine under the muscle too - and my man says they feel wonderful. I had mine done a couple years before I met my husband. He loves them. Says they look and feel great. Under the muscle allows the natural breast fat and chest muscle you had to form a layer over the implant area... which adds to the natural look and feel. Versus over the muscle, which is just skin, some fat, and then implant. I didn't tell him right away that they were fake. lol. that was more for me, testing to see if he could tell. He said that had I not told him, he might never have known. He said he was a little suspicious because they were heavier than normal boobs... but didn't know if that was something that was different from woman to woman. Also, not really any loss in sensitivity. Was a little disappointed at how much my nipples stretched though. I'm at about a half dollar size now. Hubby says he likes them, but I hate that I'm always making sure they aren't sneaking out in a pushup bra. lol. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 I had mine done years ago. They were ok to begin with I just ...good or bad, wanted them different. And although I do enjoy some attention from men, it did not increase with my bust size. They did not fix a problem, or change my life. On bad days, I thought they were too big/small/ whatever just like anyone else might. On a good note, as Ive gotten older and put on a little more weight...my boobs now match my a** so I feel balanced. Not emotionmally, but you get it. On a bad note...I fear that as I further age, my fake boobs will be the only thing ...perky. Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 I said if they decide to get boob jobs, they should stop pretending it's not for getting attention from men. But it's not. Have you not read anything we wrote to you? If I lived on a remote island by myself, and had the opportunity to have breast augmentation to help me feel better about my breasts, I would still do it. Has nothing to do with other people at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Haha nope. Those are things that nearly EVERY woman does, regardless of her relationship status. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 ducksoup - seriously, I dont think thats the reason most of the time. Im not sure, if your guy, that I can explain myself well enough but... Its more of confidence thing. Its personal. I know that looking more attractive can be sexually motivated, but for a lot of women...thats not it. Ultimately, if a woman gets more attraction after a boob job, its a combination of her confidence showing through because she feels better about her body image and the male attraction to boobage. Its like, a man who has a great suit. He looks good in it and knows it, he feels better about himself and that translates to the way he carries himself, etc. A boob job, minus the confidence isnt going to change much. Also, I know that there certainly may be many other ways to gain confidence...but like I said, its a very personal choice for a woman. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 No one said you shouldn't grow your hair long. You're obviously VERY aware of the attention you get from men, for your hair, your chest, and most likely, everything else. So, no, the logic doesn't fail at all. Women do it for the attention they get from men. Feel free to undero any invasive surgical procedures you feel are necessary to get you the full measure of ego gratification you desire, whether that is external or internal, but don't pretend it's being done for some other reason. Welp, I already did, but thanks for your permission. Wait, which is it? Ego gratification, or attention from men? Now I'm confused. Link to post Share on other sites
Drseussgrrl Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Oh well - haters gonna hate. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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