Boyfriend is big flirt! - What to do? ...Confused........

[Smoothchik]

So here is my question: Should I be upset with this situation?

 

My boyfriend is a big flirt - he is a very charming, social guy. He will flirt with bartenders, waitresses, friends, and just women in general right in front of me. He is never rude or overtly sexual - he just flirts in a very joking way. He has reassured me that, althought he is a big flirt, he just sees it as a way for people to stroke their egos, and assures me that I am the only one for him, and that he never takes it past the point of innocent teasing. When we are out together, he will joke around, but he still makes sure to give me kisses and affection.

 

He also tells me that it is okay for me to talk to people too, as he knows he is the one I am going home with.

 

Okay, this is all cool and great, but why do I sometimes feel as if i am less than adequate....flirting is cool, but sometimes I feel like people are laughing at me because my boyfriend is "hitting" on other girls...mabey it is all in my head- he is wonderful to me and has never done anything to make me doubt my trust in him...

 

....confused.....

[echoparkdude]

As a guy, I know that guys with flirt when they're not that serious. Maybe he's not that serious with you, that's all. It's not like you guys are married...

[Debster]

It is natural to feel a bit of insecurity if your boyfriend is a flirt. However, from your post it appears as if he treats you well and reassures you. He may be a flirt but nothing will change that. He is what he is. Accept him - or get a new guy. I think you just need to recognize that YEs, he is going home with you.