Texting

[Aquamelon]

I was wondering how often your SO texts you "I love you"? Recently my boyfriend has been hearting me to death lol What I mean is he'll constantly text me "<3" instead of texting me the actual words. It's not a big deal but it's starting to get under my skin somewhat.

[january2011]

A few times a day. He uses a combination of typing out the entire sentence and/or adding a beating heart smiley.

 

I think that you need to reframe this. If your SO is "hearting" you to death, it suggests that he's thinking of you often when you're not around. That in itself is wonderful to be on the receiving end of.

 

However, if it bothers you how he expresses his feelings, then I suggest that you tell him directly that you really like reading the actual words of, "I love you." If he probes you further, you can tell him that you really appreciate the "<3" but there's just something about the actual words that really makes you feel his love for you.

[Aquamelon]

You're right, the heart symbol is cute and it does mean he is thinking of me. I asked him this morning if the heart symbol and the words "I love you" are one in the same to him, he replied with no they are similar but not the exact same. I just said that he was using the heart rather the words too often recently. He laughed and told me he loves me, I replied with "I heart you too" and we both laughed and I told him I was only teasing and that I loved him too.

 

I think my head is trying to pick fights or something to a certain degree.

 

I mean this morning I woke up with a kidney infection so I wrote as my facebook status "7 days before i see the love of my life and i wake up with a kidney infection.." his response to my status was, ":( hope you feel better soon <3"

 

Am I reading too much into this? Probably. Most likely. But still it bugs me, I just expect more of a loving response in certain situations.

[january2011]

Yes, I think you're reading too much into this. However, you feel what you feel. On the face of it, it sounds like you have a loving relationship and, overall, he tends to be responsive to your emotional needs. And importantly, you're also able to articulate them to him - he's also responding with kindness and care.

 

I suspect that since you're not 100% at the moment, perhaps it's making you feel a little emotional and you're nitpicking. Best to get some perspective and realise that you're not normally like this. It could be that you're just having a bad day, feeling a little sorry for yourself and need a bit more extra loving from him. Just let him know. Don't ask him to be a mindreader. He sounds like he really does want to make you happy.

 

Perhaps something like, "[sO], I'm feeling really rubbish and down today because of this kidney infection. Do you think you could give me some extra TLC tonight?"

 

Hope you feel better soon, Aquamelon.

[Aquamelon]

Funny thing is I asked him for some extra love last night since I was feeling a bit off. Kind of like I knew I was going to get ill without feeling ill yet and sure enough here I am lol.

 

I asked him to call me on break at work cause I had bad news, he freaked thinking I was going to tell him that the trip was cancelled or something. When I explained everything (possible surgery) he was relieved for sure that I could still come out.

 

Feeling ill plus the nerves about the trip is definitely not a good combo.

 

Thanks for the advice and well wishes

[LovinCousins]

My SO and I use the little <3 hearts to replace little kisses while we are apart.

 

So we frequently just spam the little hearts to each other all day. It's our version of xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo.

 

I'm guessing he is doing the samething? Maybe texts you <3<3<3 instead of I love you, because he wants to kiss you or hold you at that moment? So I think you are reading too far into it; to me, he's clearly trying to make you smile the little hearts.