kgal Posted July 7, 2004 Share Posted July 7, 2004 I want to write him soo bad. I miss my ex. I was the one who said we should stop chatting online for a while. But he added that emailing wouldn't be good either. I don't care tho...I sent him an ecard for the Fourth of July...and now I just want to write to let him know what's up. I get the feeling I shouldn't tho...so I write and just save as draft. I don't know...I guess more time is better. He probably needs it....and even tho I want to write and forget the past....I should really wait. Do you agree? I want some support please. Link to post Share on other sites
StartingAgain Posted July 7, 2004 Share Posted July 7, 2004 Writing emails and saving them as drafts rather than sending them is a great idea! You can get so much out off you and then read it later and gain better perspective. Then when the two of you sit down to talk finally, you'll be better prepared. But don't ever let him see the messages; consider them your private thought, just like a diary or journal. How long have the two of you been split up? Link to post Share on other sites
Author kgal Posted July 7, 2004 Author Share Posted July 7, 2004 It's been 5 months now since we decided to break it off as a couple. We wanted to remain friends, though. But when we'd try to hang out just as friends...it would hurt too much..cuz there were still romantic feelings there and feelings of intimacy. We decided to take more time apart...and so just emailed and chatted on messenger. That really was messing me up emotionally..and I told him I wanted to limit the online chatting for a while. I still wanted to keep the lines open for contact...but there was beginning to be an expectation to hear back from each other...and if we didnt hear from each other than we'd either feel depressed or upset. Anyways...it's been a few weeks since I heard from him...and I wanted to write since I've been missing him...dreaming of him..etc. I don't think I should and I want to wait for him to return my email. I have written and saved the emails...as well as kept a journal. Yes, it does help! I'm okay..I feel like I can wait longer but I do miss him. Link to post Share on other sites
StartingAgain Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Time, kgal, it takes time. My wife an I divorced six months ago after a year of horrendous turmoil and a six month "in-house" separation (she moved into the guest room). We are just now getting to where we can talk to one another without it degrading into chaos. It still hurts so bad sometimes to hear her voice, especially when we talk like we used to talk. It seems so, well, normal. I guess a part of me will love her forever and one day the hurt will be gone. For now, it is hard. But I wouldn't have it any other way. She was my best friend, my lover, and my life for too long for me to dismiss her out of hand. And you never know; 30 years from now we may look back on ths time as an unfortunate result of our inability to think clearly when we needed to. But we will still be good friends. I have a draft folder full of rants that I'd never want her to see. Link to post Share on other sites
bart Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Yeah writing can be pretty cathartic. I found myself to be the sadest when the mind is confused. Writing definitely helps clearing the mind. So here's my question, why shouldn't I send a letter to my ex? I really want her to know how I felt. Even if she doesn't reply, at least I told my side of the story. Link to post Share on other sites
Author kgal Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 Yea...time is good. I just wish he'd write already. Thanks..I appreciate your support. Link to post Share on other sites
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