Thinkalot Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 We've had a few discussions on here about marriage and engagement and whether it makes a difference. Well, on an internal level, it has made a difference to me. I feel secure and happy, and delighted to be able to share the level of our committment with others. I've also noticed that people have started to treat us differently too, which is an interesting comment on our society's perceptions, and preconceived ideas. Our committment is just the same as it was before, only now, people have started to ask us about our long term plans, babies, where will we settle etc. It's like they take us more seriously now, that there's a ring on my finger. Interesting. I guess I do the same in the reverse if I'm honest. Link to post Share on other sites
YellowLioness Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 I heard something the other day on American Society in general and couples that are engaged vs. those that are not...I think it's strange that we don't have a word, like the French do, (conjointe? i think that's what it is) for a couple living together who act like a married pair, but who aren't engaged, the only difference being the absence or presence of a ring. I'm sorry, but when you live with someone, or even date them for awhile, "boyfriend," or, "girlfriend," is sorely inadequate! :-) It's strange how that little ring gets everyone to take you seriously! Perhaps that little gold, silver, or platinum band DOES give the perception of solidarity with in American Society. When I see wedding bands, I think, "Children." I guess engagement rings have a similar symbolism to me. In a way, I think it's like Dumbo and his magic feather. It's a level of commitment and love that is already present with in the couple, but when you actually have that ring those thoughts become more of a reality. Sorry to ramble, thought your post was interesting Thinksalot! :-) Yellow Link to post Share on other sites
Rhonda Posted July 14, 2004 Share Posted July 14, 2004 I could not agree more. I am not engaged but we already live together and act like we're married. This post has served only to further convince me that the symbolism is necessary and we should be engaged even if we would like more time to discuss our plans/goals/wants/needs before marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
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