SamanthaX Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Weve broken up before but, he always comes back. I mean, we break up all the time and get back together since it is LTR. Weve been doing this for 2 years now. I spoke to my boyfriend last night and he said he wanted to think about whether or not he wanted to break up. He then proceeded to call me later that night, emailed me twice during the day, and then called me 3 times tonight. He now wants to go on vacation. i thought we were taking time to think? It just shows me how much he thinks of me. However, I am sick of being his doormat and am taking back the power. I haven't answered any of his communications since that call after deciding we were going to take time apart. Can I impose a no contact period now? Or do I have to tell I am not speaking to him? I just want to establish some boundaries and regain some pride. Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Yeah, just start ignoring him. Give it 3 weeks. Maybe 4. Maybe 79.. Just completely blow him off. Get really busy with something new and if he calls say sorry I'm too busy being busy. I mean, we break up all the time and get back together since it is LTR. Weve been doing this for 2 years now.You make it sound like it's perfectly natural to break up "all the time". It's like, not. Long Term Relaitonship or not. Why do you break up so much? Do you not value your time? Why waste it. Definately impose the no-contact. Avoid telling him you're avoiding him because it might just cause a scene. Actions speak louder than words. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SamanthaX Posted July 9, 2004 Author Share Posted July 9, 2004 Thanks for your response. I have not been too coherent as of late. I know its not normal to break up all the time. It just seems like I do that in alot of relationships. So, I guess I am used to it. I am 27 and still acting the fool when it comes to love. He keeps calling and calling. He hasn't left any messages. But, I ve dodged about 15 calls in the past 2 days. I never said anything to him...do I owe him response? Is it wrong that I am enjoying watching him call? I wish there was something I could do to make this situation work out. I dtill love him but he is hurting me. What to do? Link to post Share on other sites
kellydontwanttasleep Posted July 9, 2004 Share Posted July 9, 2004 don't play games it only belittles you, but tell him you're going to take some time alone and thats it. if he doesn't respect that then tell him you wont see him anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SamanthaX Posted July 9, 2004 Author Share Posted July 9, 2004 Am I playing games? I just want him to seriously think about where we are going and to let him know he cant treat me poorly. I thought not answering his calls might put him in his place. I want to talk to him. But, now what do I say? Link to post Share on other sites
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