within Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 hello i have been with my gf for 3 yrs now and we get along so great never fight we are both very passive but about once every 6mos to a year she just says she dosent FEEL anything for me anymore and we kinda just stop all the dating stuff (oh yeah we also work togather that may be a big problem as well i dont know thats why im here) then after a month we get back togather but just tonite she said the same thing but insted of getting sad and depressed i just kept asking her questions because just leaving her alone dosent work or this wouldnt happen every year. i dont know what to do to make her feel like we are more than just friends i have been racking my brain. i really dont want to just let her be and sort it out her self cause obivsley it isnt working and i dont want her to find anyone else (just to have that spark and good feeling) im scared because even though we have been togather for 3 years she is and has always been way way way out of my leauge i dont know how i have kept her or why she is still with me. i mean i make pretty good money for a 20 yr old i am buying my own house and have a few cars lots of toys and i take care of her allllll the time what ever she wants she gets, i tell her i love her, shes beautiful cute gourges (spellcheck) 3,4,5, times aday im always giving her attn. (and we only see eather 4 days out of the week well its about avg.) i thought mabey i was around her too much but she said that wasnt it. It was that she feels like we have becoume more friends than we are gf and bf. i dont know. i now have a headach from crying too much and my brain is going to fall out from trying to fix this thanks for any help yall can give me Brian M. Link to post Share on other sites
LoOkInG 4 HiM Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 ok well, it seems to melike your relationship is probably getting boring, you have to do exciting things together, take a trip stay in a romantic hotel, buy her flowers.... i dont know soo many things to spice it up. It's probably not really that she doesnt fool for you anymore, its probably more like shes getting to used to the situation and shes losing interest, as a girl i know it happens alot. you gotta spice it up. but dont give her EVERYTHING she wants, thats just too clingy and is prolly scaring her away, you got to give her time but you also gotta let her know, you love her and sit her down and talk about everything, but dont seem to forward and like you are the one who wants to fix everything , you gotta play hard to get as the saying goes, she'll realise what shes doing and come back and once she comes back thats where u start doing exciting things Link to post Share on other sites
kellydontwanttasleep Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 most people think they're falling out of love when they think its getting boring, but i think it's just when you start to feel comfortible and thats when the real relationship begins. you still will need to talk with her, we love it when guys really open up and talk to us and listen to us talk Link to post Share on other sites
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