confusedagain Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Hi. I really need some advice here. When she broke up with me for no other reason than the relationship winding down and not working for her, my ex told me she hoped we could still be friends. After two months of no contact, she just sms-ed me today with "Heya, I passed driving this morn! Haha ... Hows life?". I really don't know how to react. Ignore? Reply cordially with "Congrats"? The "Hows life" bit is a bit harder to answer though. She seems to want to avoid any sense of what was between us before, and also seems like she wants us to carry on as friends based on some unconscious feeling devoid of the conscious memory of our relationship itself?? Really, I have no idea why she wants to be friends. In my opinion, it is much easier to develop new, and close friendships than to try to turn your ex into a friend. Thinking about why she is making an effort to be friends then makes me feel like she either wants to feel less guilty about dumping me (in which case, she'll cease trying to be friends soon enough I guess), or she wants to keep me in the wings (as someone told me, she might want to be loved by many people, only one of which is me), or she wants to get back together? Or maybe she thinks she can get the good parts of our relationship and avoid the bad parts by just being friends. But really, I gave her all that I felt was good in me because I was in love with her. confused (again) Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 13, 2004 Share Posted July 13, 2004 Sounds like its too confusing to have any contact with her now. What do you want? Do you want to see her again? Like you said, its easier to make new friends then to convert old lovers. If you are feeling really vindictive, you could reply with "Great, now" and leave it at that -- but I wouldn't recommend it. Just ignore her. If she continues to send you messages, block her access. Link to post Share on other sites
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