I seriously think being born female makes dating 2x more easier.

[CarrieT]

Indeed. Men can speculate into the minds of women all day, and women can speculate into the minds of men all day, but one will never reach true empathy and understanding of the other.

 

But if everyone understood this concept, we would no longer have gender wars here...and that's just ridiculous to even think about...

 

I logged in to say this very thing. Every time there is some thread started by a misogynist about how easy we women have, I think of the aphorism, "walk a mile in their shoes."

 

Just like these people who get in relationships and experience GIGS, there is a propensity to fantasize that someone has it easier or that somethings come easier to others.

 

Here's the skinny, folks:

 

• Men with big penises don't necessarily have better sex lives.
  
• Indian men are not reviled.
  
• Women with big boobs are not better lovers.
  
• Short men are just as likely to find love as tall men.
  
• Not all women give up on sex after marriage.
  
• And, lastly, being a woman does not make life/love easier.
  

 

 

Learn some perspective, people! We all have trials and tribulations to deal with and no one can understand the difficulty of others without opening one's mind and understanding that perspective.

[phineas]

I logged in to say this very thing. Every time there is some thread started by a misogynist about how easy we women have, I think of the aphorism, "walk a mile in their shoes."

 

Just like these people who get in relationships and experience GIGS, there is a propensity to fantasize that someone has it easier or that somethings come easier to others.

 

Here's the skinny, folks:

 

• Men with big penises don't necessarily have better sex lives.
  
• Indian men are not reviled.
  
• Women with big boobs are not better lovers.
  
• Short men are just as likely to find love as tall men.
  
• Not all women give up on sex after marriage.
  
• And, lastly, being a woman does not make life/love easier.
  

 

 

Learn some perspective, people! We all have trials and tribulations to deal with and no one can understand the difficulty of others without opening one's mind and understanding that perspective.

 

Oh look! the "M" word. Everyone take a drink!!:lmao:

[iris219]

While I understand that it’s not possible to have true empathy for the other gender, I genuinely believe if I was male and had the attributes I have now—attractive, fit, educated, fun to be around, caring, good job, affectionate, funny, relationship-minded—I would have the ladies lined up down the street.

 

Too bad there's no way to test out this theory!

[Kamille]

It's all a matter of perspective.

 

Many men associate dating and relationships with sex, so if you can have sex, then you are successful at dating and relationships. Since they perceive that women can get sex almost effortlessly, then they conclude that women have it easier with dating and relationships. It's a valid conclusion based on the man's perspective.

 

 

The main reason I don't associate dating success with sex is because I don't think a one night stand would be as satisfying sexually for a woman as it would be for a man. Not because of some emotional psycho-babble but because of physiology. Let's face it, in order to orgasm, most women need clitoral stimulation. Hard to imagine the drunk-but-cute guy hitting on me at the bar willing to do much more than a quick bang.

 

So yes, finding someone to have sex with is somewhat effortless. Finding someone to have great sex with is a challenge. And for most women, it makes a difference.

[phineas]

While I understand that it’s not possible to have true empathy for the other gender, I genuinely believe if I was male and had the attributes I have now—attractive, fit, educated, fun to be around, caring, good job, affectionate, funny, relationship-minded—I would have the ladies lined up down the street.

 

Too bad there's no way to test out this theory!

 

What makes your statement lulz-worthy is that you also claim there are no single men where you live.

[iris219]

What makes your statement lulz-worthy is that you also claim there are no single men where you live.

 

Guess I really would be a stud then. In that case, I might not be as relationship minded as I thought.

[phineas]

Guess I really would be a stud then. In that case, I might not be as relationship minded as I thought.

 

You still don't get it.

 

Nobody believes your claims of there are no single men in your city.

 

How do you expect us to believe your claims that if you were a man you'd do so much better than the other men on this forum complaining?

[iris219]

You still don't get it.

 

Nobody believes your claims of there are no single men in your city.

 

How do you expect us to believe your claims that if you were a man you'd do so much better than the other men on this forum complaining?

 

You're addressing two separate issues here.

 

Why wouldn't an attractive, smart, fun, kind, interesting, financially secure man do well? Add in the fact that he wants a relationship, will be faithful, and will make a great husband and father, and you've struck gold. (This is assuming there is a pool of desirable single women to choose from, which there is in my area.)

 

What do I gain from lying about the lack of single men? I wish I WAS lying.

[Anela]

True, most women 37+ look like a garbage. i will be fabulous in my thirties. ;-)

 

Not so fast, young grasshopper. That doesn't just go for the women - although many women that age and over look better than you would expect.

[Anela]

Oh look! the "M" word. Everyone take a drink!!:lmao:

 

The thread title alone, warrants a drink - with or without a drinking game.

Now we just need for someone to start on feminism.

[Kamille]

The thread title alone, warrants a drink - with or without a drinking game.

Now we just need for someone to start on feminism.

 

 

If we had a drink for every time a poster blamed feminism for everything, we would never get anything done! And we'd be all out of marula juice.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

I logged in to say this very thing. Every time there is some thread started by a misogynist about how easy we women have, I think of the aphorism, "walk a mile in their shoes."

 

Just like these people who get in relationships and experience GIGS, there is a propensity to fantasize that someone has it easier or that somethings come easier to others.

 

Here's the skinny, folks:

 

• Men with big penises don't necessarily have better sex lives.
  
• Indian men are not reviled.
  
• Women with big boobs are not better lovers.
  
• Short men are just as likely to find love as tall men.
  
• Not all women give up on sex after marriage.
  
• And, lastly, being a woman does not make life/love easier.
  

 

 

Learn some perspective, people! We all have trials and tribulations to deal with and no one can understand the difficulty of others without opening one's mind and understanding that perspective.

 

Here. Here. Well said CarrieT.

 

Women do not have it easier. Neither do I think men and women hit 30 and all the suddent the "tables turn". I see a lot of men in their late 20s and early 30s that certainly aren't experience that "table turn". Whatever that is. It's hard for both sexes, no matter your age. There are always different things to deal with.

[oaks]

Here's the skinny, folks:

 

• Men with big penises don't necessarily have better sex lives.
  
• Indian men are not reviled.
  
• Women with big boobs are not better lovers.
  
• Short men are just as likely to find love as tall men.
  
• Not all women give up on sex after marriage.
  
• And, lastly, being a woman does not make life/love easier.

 

 

Someone should make that a sticky.

[phineas]

Not so fast, young grasshopper. That doesn't just go for the women - although many women that age and over look better than you would expect.

 

The thread title alone, warrants a drink - with or without a drinking game.

Now we just need for someone to start on feminism.

 

 

If we had a drink for every time a poster blamed feminism for everything, we would never get anything done! And we'd be all out of marula juice.

 

And that is why you are all in on the "men would date a pretty woman with down's syndrome" thread defending men the same way you defend women?

 

ROTFLMAO!

[Kamille]

And that is why you are all in on the "men would date a pretty woman with down's syndrome" thread defending men the same way you defend women?

 

ROTFLMAO!

 

Reading skills lacking this morning? Please read my response in that thread before passing judgement.

[Els]

Reading skills lacking this morning? Please read my response in that thread before passing judgement.

 

TBH, I don't think it's just 'this morning'...

[Anela]

And that is why you are all in on the "men would date a pretty woman with down's syndrome" thread defending men the same way you defend women?

 

ROTFLMAO!

 

I haven't even posted on that thread!

[Kamille]

I haven't even posted on that thread!

 

Now that's worth a ROTFLMAO!

[Anela]

And that is why you are all in on the "men would date a pretty woman with down's syndrome" thread defending men the same way you defend women?

 

ROTFLMAO!

 

This was Kamille's response in that thread:

 

I think there are all kinds of men out there. I couldn't imagine a single one of my exes being interested in an "intellectually disabled" women, not even for a one night stand.

[Bob_Funk]

The main reason I don't associate dating success with sex is because I don't think a one night stand would be as satisfying sexually for a woman as it would be for a man. Not because of some emotional psycho-babble but because of physiology. Let's face it, in order to orgasm, most women need clitoral stimulation. Hard to imagine the drunk-but-cute guy hitting on me at the bar willing to do much more than a quick bang.

 

So yes, finding someone to have sex with is somewhat effortless. Finding someone to have great sex with is a challenge. And for most women, it makes a difference.

 

The real reason: girls have a much lower sex drive than guys.

[sweetjasmine]

I haven't even posted on that thread!

 

That's irrelevant. If one woman says something disagreeable, then all women must agree and all women will defend all other women at all times in the EPIC BATTAL against men.

 

Incidentally this is the same reason why some men think all women have it easy. They're incapable of seing individuals - just an amorphous blob with boobs and a vagina.

[fortyninethousand322]

"Easy" is a relative term, and often situational. A shorter man is going to have easier time being a horse jockey than a guy who's 6'8". Put both of them on a basketball court, and things are reversed.

 

Being a woman in an area with a lot of attractive, smart, personable, financially secure men is easier than being a passive man in a place with fewer, more traditional women.

 

Most of the men having trouble on this forum seem to fit the model of "passive man". There lies the problem. Not your gender, but passivity. In most cases at least.

[ThaWholigan]

The real reason: girls have a much lower sex drive than guys.

No they don't

 

Theirs is just ignited differently.

 

Man's sex drive = switch. When on, it's on straight away.

 

Woman's sex drive = like a volume knob on a stereo to be turned up gradually.

[PJKino]

I really dont judge male attratcivenes that well either i guess, i dont think im that bad looking but apparently women disagree:laugh:

 

I was always told women were more lenient on looks then men but i see no evidence of it women seem to be pretty strict on looks and go after the same small group of men at least in the circles ive been around

[carhill]

We are all in late teens, i just feel like there is something sketchy going on here......discuss?

 

Your age may be a factor; I remember similar experiences at your age. However, moving forward, I think you'll find that, where it may be easier to garner attention, both wanted and unwanted, as a female, serious dating, relationships and marriage are no easier for them than for a man. As men, we have our perspective; as women, they their's. The truth is somewhere in the middle. My best advice is to live a full life for yourself. Women/dating/relationships/marriage may be a part of it but those dynamics aren't required to rule it. Good luck.