gowiththeflow Posted July 16, 2012 Share Posted July 16, 2012 Hello New here and I am kind of in a frantic mode. My girlfriend and I have been discussing about marriage. She does want to get married. She has however been engaged 2 times before. But they were broken off. I know it may sound like alarm bells, and I am probably a sucker. However I do not know how to propose or when to propose. We just spoke about it and she was saying like she wants it in a romantic way. I said to her I'm a plain basic and simple guy and I am not rich nor am I that much of a romantic. She said she understands. so I am not sure how to propose and when the right time would be especially if she said that she doesnt want to get proposed if she knows she is going to get proposed. help!!! Link to post Share on other sites
NervisPervis Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 Google "walkaway wife", read up on it for a few days, reflect, then come back and reword your question. Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 If you have to ask when is the right time to propose, that means you aren't ready for proposing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 If you have to ask when is the right time to propose, that means you aren't ready for proposing. I agree. I'm really not sure how people decide to get married...but for me, it would need to be a discussion, after we've been together for a while, a serious one. About our future, our goals, what marriage means to us, practical things etc. BEFORE any proposal comes into play. If a man surprise proposes (as in we've never had the serious marriage talk before) I'd probably say no, or wait...as it only seems romantic, but is probably unwise to be proposing marriage if you've never actually discussed it realistically and see your relationship as one that needs to take that step. The day and how he actually proposes formally, with a ring, should be a surprise, but the discussion to get married should be mutual and done beforehand. That said: you should know your future wife well enough to know what she'd like as a proposal. I'm a sucker for romance, but what is sweet to me is a man who knows me well enough to put together something he thinks I'd like. I don't want to be proposed to in front of a crowd at all and the guy who is marrying me would know this. If you know me well enough to want to spend the rest of your life with me...you should definitely know what I would and wouldn't like and what would be sweet to me. I'm not your gf though So none of what I would say I'd like or what any of us say we'll like will help you....she is a unique person and as her future husband you should know her well enough to know what kind of things to do. If you don't....then maybe you should really think about this some more. Link to post Share on other sites
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