MidNiteAgl Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Originally posted by anangel2be first off I dont need to grow up. I am very much so a big girl. I just thought that these things would help me understand more of why guys want to mess around. and i have not done much with him and i will probely never will. that would be something i would have to live with for the rest of my life if something happned and i am not willing to do that. I just dont get why i am so confussed. and i am sorry if you guys think i am one that you catn help. but have i gone and judged you guys. hey if i knoew hafl the things you have done then i might can ber hard on you to . and hey if you are on this thred hey that means you must have the same problem. do you see me bashing you so No Let me start off by saying, "Grow Up" doesn't always have to mean you need to get older. But I am sorry but I still stand behind me saying that you need to grow up. I am not trying to be harsh, I am just trying get you to see that this man doesn't want you. And if that is being harsh. Then hey I guess I am harsh. And if you want to know half the stuff I have done go and read some of my post. And if you want to bash me, then go ahead. That is why I put them there. I wanted people to be brutally honest with me. And for me it helped. You are the one that said you can have any man you wanted. Then, why don't you go and get you a good man that will respect you. This man has no respect for you what so ever. If he did he wouldn't treat you like his personal play thing. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Sorry if we are too harsh, angel. It's just that we are trying to give you advice and you keep saying things that make very little sense. Then you say other things that you can't seem to defend to us. For example, you say he is a good friend, but you can't give us any examples of how he is a good friend. You DO tell us stories about you guys making out like teenagers behind your workplace. Another example is that you say you don't want to sleep with him, but then you say that you are in puppy love. You say you don't want to sleep with him, but you make out with him and you SOUND like you want to sleep with him. You said the only reason you didn't sleep with him was because you just got waxed. Another example is that you are sad that he is married. You think that if he weren't married you would like to date him. But that doesn't make any sense, because he is a cheater. You want to date a cheater? Also, you think you'll be alone the rest of your life if you don't date this man. This is not logical. You are very young. You say you are good looking and could get any man. If you think this, then why are you going after this man? You see, you are not making much sense. So it is hard for us to help you! Link to post Share on other sites
MidNiteAgl Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Originally posted by anangel2be hey i do love and respect myslef if i did not i would have sleep with him by now. If you love and respect yourself, why do you allow yourself to be degraded. I am sorry but a married man pulling your tit out in public is not respectful. A married man putting his hand up your skirt out in public is not respectful. If you loved yourself you would not allow yourself to be drug thru the mud like that. Link to post Share on other sites
sinner Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 The unrepentant or unapologetic other woman (OW) is frequently criticized (or bashed)on LS, as is the married man (MM). The only difference being is that the MM is too busy having fun to post on a relationship-focussed message board. There are more sympathetic OW sites out there, just not on LS. Most people that post here sincerely believe that nothing, not anything-- whether it be sex, love, feelings, adventure-- justifies an affair. A huge gulf divides the affair participant, whose brain is awash in love/lust hormones and the overwhelmingly negative Greek Chorus on LS. The problem is that as exquisitely pleasurable affairs are to the participants, these outlaw relationships are equally painful to all the innocent bystanders. All the compassion flows to these innocent bystanders, all the criticism targets the sexually rapacious OW and her venal MM. It's the Jezebel syndrome on LS and her cyber-stoning. Link to post Share on other sites
Author anangel2be Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 For one thing i am very old fashaned i dont like to run after men. for two how is he a good man . well he help brightne my day if i am having a bad on just like i help brighten his to . and no that is not with be phyicall with him that is just listing and being a good friend. and on the subject i just like some of the things he has in his persoanly not the fact that he goes behind his wife back thought. if that makes any since Link to post Share on other sites
Author anangel2be Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 so if i cant get my om thing to work how can i talk to just you? Link to post Share on other sites
sinner Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Sure. Work permitting. Link to post Share on other sites
Author anangel2be Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 sohw can we talk then? when your work will let you? Link to post Share on other sites
MidNiteAgl Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Originally posted by sinner The unrepentant or unapologetic other woman (OW) is frequently criticized (or bashed)on LS, as is the married man (MM). The only difference being is that the MM is too busy having fun to post on a relationship-focussed message board. There are more sympathetic OW sites out there, just not on LS. Most people that post here sincerely believe that nothing, not anything-- whether it be sex, love, feelings, adventure-- justifies an affair. A huge gulf divides the affair participant, whose brain is awash in love/lust hormones and the overwhelmingly negative Greek Chorus on LS. The problem is that as exquisitely pleasurable affairs are to the participants, these outlaw relationships are equally painful to all the innocent bystanders. All the compassion flows to these innocent bystanders, all the criticism targets the sexually rapacious OW and her venal MM. It's the Jezebel syndrome on LS and her cyber-stoning. I am sorry sinner. But I have to disagree. I was not cyber-stoning anyone. I am an OW. You can read all about it on my post Can you be friends w/MM after it's over. She asked for advice and she got it. She was asking questions about this man's intentions. I just told her what I thought. This man seems like a user. She asked and she got. If she didn't want the brutal truth don't ask. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Sinner wrote: Most people that post here sincerely believe that nothing, not anything-- whether it be sex, love, feelings, adventure-- justifies an affair....It's the Jezebel syndrome on LS and her cyber-stoning. Oh please, Sinner. This girl is being used. Do you think that's right? Do you think she has her eyes open to how much hurt she could go through? This would be a whole different issue if Angel had more self esteem and wasn't being totally played by this married man. Angel wrote: For one thing i am very old fashaned i dont like to run after men. You could've fooled me. Angel wrote: well he help brightne my day if i am having a bad on just like i help brighten his to . and no that is not with be phyicall with him that is just listing and being a good friend. and on the subject i just like some of the things he has in his persoanly not the fact that he goes behind his wife back thought. if that makes any since I am so sorry, angel, that you have to go through this. But being a good listener isn't the only thing that makes a good friend. I bet Hitler was a good listener, but that does not mean he is a good person. A good friend respects you as a person, not just a piece of @ss. Also, feel free to bash me for all the stupid things I did in the past. I let my ex-bf rack up $30,000 in credit card debt on MY cards while probably cheating on me and leaving me constantly. I always tNow that's stupid! I have made so many mistakes and I am just trying to help you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author anangel2be Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 i am not bashing you for what you told me. And i did not say that this guy could not be a user did I? there are plenty of other guy at my work place that like me and would want to date me i am just not intrested in them like that. thats all. and this married guy seems to teese me about them all the time like it is funny or something. Link to post Share on other sites
Author anangel2be Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 if he did he would be trying to get me to have sex with him more then what he has done so far. and with him backing up and not acting so friendly i bet he has desides he was doing the wrong thing. so dont be so harsh on him either. Link to post Share on other sites
Author anangel2be Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 he works on the total oppise side of the bulding then i do the only time i see him is on breaks and lunch if i even go get him if not i dont even see him at all. how woudl that be running after him Link to post Share on other sites
Author anangel2be Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 i guess people are tried of talking to me already. =-( Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Looking back, I think all of us were wrong to be harsh to you and this fine example of a friend. Your comments have made such complete sense to me that I have now changed my mind. You are right. If I had a nickel for every time my tit got whipped out at lunch and a quarter for every time I got fingered on the swing by a friend, I would be a very rich girl. And for those of you who don't agree - you have no idea what it is like to have a true friend. As a matter of fact, I think I'm going to ask my boss to whip out his dick for a nice tete a tete. By the way, if you really wanted to talk to Sinner privately, may I recommend sending him a nude photo? I often find my friends respond very quickly to this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author anangel2be Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 man i dont know maybe you woke up on the wrong side of the bed or something but you need to take a chill pill. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Debster, priceless post! By the way, if you really wanted to talk to Sinner privately, may I recommend sending him a nude photo? I often find my friends respond very quickly to this. Yeah, watch out, Sinner. I know what this girl has in mind. Angel, You're not really saying anything new! What can I say that I haven't told you already. if he did he would be trying to get me to have sex with him more then what he has done so far. Ok, what is the rule here? How much does he have to ask for sex before you see that's all he wants? Here's the deal, Angel. There are some qualities that make a person a friend. Such as being a good listener and the like. BUT there are other things which disqualify someone from being a friend! Such as pulling out your tit at work and asking you to come over for a f--k while the wife is gone. Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Tee hee. You know in another post, a bunch of posters (I think they were all OW) said that you can't control emotions. So I just decided to finally let lose all of my emotions. After all, if OW are allowed to do what they know is wrong for the simple reason that they WANT to follow their heart, than why can't I? And let me tell you - it was fun. Clearly I am making myself live up to a higher standard than the rest of the world. I've decided to fall of my high horse and meet you at your level. My heart and emotions tells me that your logic is so incredible out of whack that I just can't control my emotional reaction to it. Actually, you know what - even with my sarcastic post, I still held back. You have no idea what I REALLY think of your actions. I guess no matter what, I DO still have control over my emotions. Imagine that. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Actually, you know what - even with my sarcastic post, I still held back. You have no idea what I REALLY think of your actions. I guess no matter what, I DO still have control over my emotions. Imagine that. Oh my God! What if we all posted what we really think! I could never. Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 HoldOn writes:Yeah, watch out, Sinner. I know what this girl has in mind. Actually, we should be warning this poor niave girl to watch out for Sinner! Or is it Bark...Jester...or Zarathustra this week??? So hard to keep up with this articulate wolf in sheeps clothing! Stirring up the soup pot again, are we? Link to post Share on other sites
Author anangel2be Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 and i gues the main one being the one i work with . Link to post Share on other sites
Author anangel2be Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 how do i get a picture by my nickname? what do i do to make one or what not? Link to post Share on other sites
kiababy Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 ...... I find this entire thread to be absolutely hilarious (hukt on fonics wurked fer me!) ...oops....sorry Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Honey...the main one you need to be looking out for is "yourself." You'll find that in the end, you are the only one you can count on. I agree with the others. Your married co-worker is a dog. He has already demonstrated he is only interested in one thing...some sex on the sly. And by welcoming his advances, you have shown him that you are willing to comply. Stand up for yourself, Angle, and don't let the predators take advantage of your naiveness. Men like this can smell weakness and vulnerability a mile away. Link to post Share on other sites
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Sinner - The only difference being is that the MM is too busy having fun to post on a relationship-focussed message board. HAHA! Nice one. Link to post Share on other sites
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