MidNiteAgl Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Debster, I am sorry I was one of the people that post about not controlling my emotions. But that doesn't make me a bad person. I fell in love with a MM but I put a stop to it. I broke it completely off. He decided that he didn't want to lose me. And he is now going thru a divorce. But I told him that was not ready to pick up where we left off. I wanted to start off dating. Does this make me a bad person? Am I a bad person because I feel in love with a MM? I don't know from the sounds of it. You make me feel like a bad person. And I am not. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 MidNiteAgl, I am not Debster, but I don't think you're a bad person. Everyone makes choices and some of them are bad. We're just trying to stop people from making mistakes. I hope that people can simply take responsibility for their own actions and not say "I couldn't help it." "It just happened." "I was in loooooove, so I couldn't say no." Kiababy "(hukt on fonics wurked fer me!) " Ha ha. It has been so hard for me not to say anything. Part of the reason I thought Angel was 15 y.o. was the writing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author anangel2be Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 ok i did not know this thing had spell check so sue me. yes i am a bad speller and i have always been everyone has a weekness. and that will be one of mine and falling for people i cant have . Link to post Share on other sites
kiababy Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 I was bad, I admit it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author anangel2be Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 dont judge me when you dont know me. dont take a look at what i do wrong and think i am not worth getting to know. some people who have some problems , spelling this that and another dont make us bad people. I have good things about me too. so if you want to get to know me don't judge me to bad. I am a good person too. Link to post Share on other sites
MidNiteAgl Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 HoldOn, Thanks for the reply. I took responsibility for actions. And that is why I ended my relationship w/MM. It would have been so easy not to and keep on going just because "I was in Love" But it wasn't like that I was in love but I also had sense enough to see what I was doing was wrong. We have started dating (more like hanging out together, I want to wait until he is completely divorced before I go further) and he is going thru with a divorce. But don't get me wrong he did not get a divorce for me. He did it for himself. He left his wife during the time I wouldn't speak to him and had his phone number blocked. Link to post Share on other sites
kiababy Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Whoa, I didn't say you were bad - I'm deep in an affair with a married man. The people on here are trying to stop you from making one of the BIGGEST MISTAKES IN YOUR LIFE. You wanted help - listen to them. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Angel, I don't think you are bad person. I really don't. Everybody makes mistakes. Many people have been BLINDED by their feelings. You are blind right now, which is why I am being so insistent in my views. This man WILL hurt you. It is 100% likely. MidNiteAgl, I know it's hard and I many people couldn't be as strong as you. I wish you luck. Be happy and look for what you deserve! None of us deserve to be 2nd! Link to post Share on other sites
Author anangel2be Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 you see guys. i dress up for work and put on makeup and try to look my best to attract a guy that is not pinned down. but the guy that i like he is a cutie too. he has many good things about him. I have often got accused of dressing up for him and that is not it . i am tring to attract cute singel men too. just have not had any luck with it at all. so what else can i do? Link to post Share on other sites
Author anangel2be Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 i work night shift. and the people you see come in that time of night most of them are on drugs. not worth the time. So i dont know what to do to meet people i work all the time and when i am not at work i am at home. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Angel, I'm not sure what you are trying to say. What should you do? Look for men outside of work, obviously. Here are some ideas: 1.) Ask your friends to set you up. 2.) Go on an internet dating site. 3.) Meet men at bars. 4.) Get involved in an activity that you enjoy. 5.) Talk to friendly men at the LaunderMat or Grocery Store. 6.) Go to parties. Most importantly, ONLY LOVE THOSE WHO LOVE YOU! If you have to try to convince yourself that a man loves you, he doesn't. Also, I am really not trying to be mean. But you should try not being so easy. When you give up your body so easily (letting him take your tit out and get fingered on the swing without even a date or flowers or anything), THEN you'll end up with skanky guys. Let a man impress you before you give it up. Link to post Share on other sites
kiababy Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 ....ride a bike, rollerblade, go for a run or a walk, go to the gym maybe? How many men are you going to meet in your living room? All the guys are outside. Doing stuff. I've seen them. Link to post Share on other sites
sinner Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Actually, we should be warning this poor niave girl to watch out for Sinner! Or is it Bark...Jester...or Zarathustra this week??? So hard to keep up with this articulate wolf in sheeps clothing! Stirring up the soup pot again, are we? Except I'm not a predator, I only play one on LoveShack! Link to post Share on other sites
Author anangel2be Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 the last thing i would be considered is easy. I did not even have sex for the first time untill i was 26 years old. and i have only been with three people and not very many times may i add. so i am unexperanced maybe thats why i am so attracted to the maried guy i see him as maybe a teacher. i dont know Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 That's good that you waited to have sex until you were 26. But your behavior at work IS easy. I don't know what your definition is. But it's obviously different than mine. Easy girls let men take advantage of them without getting anything in return (Such as committment, a date, or respect.) Link to post Share on other sites
MidNiteAgl Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Originally posted by HoldOn That's good that you waited to have sex until you were 26. But your behavior at work IS easy. I don't know what your definition is. But it's obviously different than mine. Easy girls let men take advantage of them without getting anything in return (Such as committment, a date, or respect.) I have to agree with HoldOn. How would you feel if this got out to everyone you worked with? Because if it got out you would probably have a lot of "GOOD FRIENDS". Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 midnightangel (I think that was your login), Making bad decisions does not make you a bad person. Everybody makes bad decisions. I have in the past and I am sure I will in the future. The difference though is what you do afterwards. I commend you for leaving your MM. I know that leaving someone you love or care about is tough. I never once said you were a bad person and I'm sorry if my post made you feel that way. What I was trying to say was that you CAN control your emotions and CONTROL your destiny. Everybody can if they stand up and take responsibility for their actions. No, it is not easy. It is not always fun. It may not provide instant gratification. But in the longterm, it will. Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Angel, unless you are incredibly shy...you can start here: http://www.singlesonthego.com/state/arkansas/ Personally, I avoided dating the people I worked with. Even if the guy was single, it makes for a sticky situation all around trying to separate business from pleasure. I can't stand the office gossip. I met the most interesting people when pursuing my OWN interests and/or hobbies. At the gym, taking college courses at night, selling my artwork, and doing volunteer work three nights a week working with kids at a local community center. I found that other people who spend their free time helping others had HUGE hearts and were some of the nicest, most honest people around. And you also better your chances of meeting compatible friends who share your interests. If you're too shy to go alone...then take a friend! Link to post Share on other sites
Author anangel2be Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 hey i am on datring services. but i am not brave to meet them either just something about meeting people i have never seen. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 You can meet them for a quick lunch or have a friend come with you. What's the worst that could happen? I guess you could meet a married guy with kids... oh wait, then you'd be no worse off than you are now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author anangel2be Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 i just dont have it in me sorry Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 I guess you CAN say no. Listen, you can meet guys other places than at work or on the Internet. Get involved in your own life and forget about dating for a while! Link to post Share on other sites
Debster Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Okay, how is it you have "it in you" to have a married man yank your tit out in public and get fingered on a swing but you don't have the guts to meet people you haven't seen. I don't get it. Anyways, I met my fiance online. There are a number of safety precautions you can take. Link to post Share on other sites
Author anangel2be Posted July 8, 2004 Author Share Posted July 8, 2004 i have nto dated anyone in a year and 7 months and that is forget about dating dont ya think? Link to post Share on other sites
kiababy Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 Okay, how is it you have "it in you" to have a married man yank your tit out in public and get fingered on a swing but you don't have the guts to meet people you haven't seen. I don't get it. I was hoping SOMEONE would say it. Link to post Share on other sites
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