Roadkill007 Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 I can honestly say.. Do not throw caution to the wind.... Now My ex met his current Gf on omegle, its a chat line.. Now many of the people on there are prostitutes, or bored idiotic children with nothing better to do.. now she met him there.. he met her.. They are now together.. He loves her wants to marry her ^_^... It really depends on the individual, who knows you could meet "the one" or kiss a lot of toads.. I personally don't believe in online dating but later on tonight... I am going to go on omegle and chat just for the hell of it.. OMG omegle XD I had so much fun on that site. I remember one night I was trying to see how creepy(weird/scary creepy) I could be and how fast I could get people to disconnect. Then apparently I found someone with the same goal, and we ended up having an hour long discussion about all sorts of sordid topics that we blew up to ridiculous proportions. The worst times I had on omegle was when I was just being normal, saying hi, how's it going, etc. etc. I dunno about OLD because technically omegle isn't soley for OLD, but there ways of meeting people online that can bring you close to someone much faster than irl. Then again, there's also a much greater chance of you having an entirely boring or terrible encounter. Oh, and there was this one time I was having this amazing chat with this British girl... and my internet disconnected before I could ask for contact info. Why omegle why? why don't you allow me to reconnect?! PORQUE MARIA?! Sorry guys, getting way off topic, lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Locust Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 you will get offers and hits if youre good looking. the better you look the more offers youll have. everyone is shallow and everyone wants to date someone good looking. thats how it is. what you write in your profile does help but people ultimately click because of the picture. you see a picture of a fat guy or girl in that first thumbnail, how many are going to click? you see a muscular good looking guy, how many are going to click even out of curiosity? I'm nowhere good looking trust me what I say. I think Iwill do better dating a homeless girl with no teeth. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 OMG omegle XD I had so much fun on that site. I remember one night I was trying to see how creepy(weird/scary creepy) I could be and how fast I could get people to disconnect. Then apparently I found someone with the same goal, and we ended up having an hour long discussion about all sorts of sordid topics that we blew up to ridiculous proportions. The worst times I had on omegle was when I was just being normal, saying hi, how's it going, etc. etc. I dunno about OLD because technically omegle isn't soley for OLD, but there ways of meeting people online that can bring you close to someone much faster than irl. Then again, there's also a much greater chance of you having an entirely boring or terrible encounter. Oh, and there was this one time I was having this amazing chat with this British girl... and my internet disconnected before I could ask for contact info. Why omegle why? why don't you allow me to reconnect?! PORQUE MARIA?! Sorry guys, getting way off topic, lol Sad ............ Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 It is good in theory, but too many flakes and just found it's not worth the time. Plus too many people get over inflated egos from how many messages they get or how many people available and just have insane standards, it's pretty bad. I don't want to sound arrogant, but I would message girls and be interested OLD that I wouldn't consider approaching in real life. My options are very limited outside of OLD, but i've pretty much stopped it's just not worth my time. Plus if I stop, it forces me to make something happen when i'm out in real life. But I don't regret trying it. Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 I'm nowhere good looking trust me what I say. I think Iwill do better dating a homeless girl with no teeth. What's wrong with a homeless girl She still has feeling:bunny: 1 Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 I'm nowhere good looking trust me what I say. I think Iwill do better dating a homeless girl with no teeth. Basically you're blaming online dating for what will happen in real life as well. There are women of every racial heritage and looks good and bad. There is someone for you. What may be impossible to find in real life is more possible with a large list of people to find that someone. Open your account back up and treat it and the women there with as much respect as you would like to get. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SunsetRed Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Reminds me of a Seinfield episode. George Constanza tried internet dating and met a woman, but then decided he couldn't let himself fall for a woman who dated online. I actually found myself doing this. I would meet a man online but then since we hadn't had that surprise, accidental lighting strike first meet, I didn't place as much value on our interactions. There's also the fact that when you meet someone in real life, you don't go home and find 30 flirts or I'm interesteds in your inbox. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Locust Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 (edited) It is good in theory, but too many flakes and just found it's not worth the time. Plus too many people get over inflated egos from how many messages they get or how many people available and just have insane standards, it's pretty bad. I don't want to sound arrogant, but I would message girls and be interested OLD that I wouldn't consider approaching in real life. My options are very limited outside of OLD, but i've pretty much stopped it's just not worth my time. Plus if I stop, it forces me to make something happen when i'm out in real life. But I don't regret trying it. I agree. If I try online again I will search for a foreign girl like from China or Thailand. Edited April 6, 2013 by Locust Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 I agree. People too judgmental just mainly online. If I try online again I will search for a foreign girl like from China or Thailand. Honestly I felt like I was settling, messaging girls I was barely or not even attracted to. Or even ones who were not successful or pursuing anything in life. I mean i'm not a 10, but based on past girls i've been with I can do good looks wise, but with OLD? Ya not so much. Link to post Share on other sites
Locust Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Honestly I felt like I was settling, messaging girls I was barely or not even attracted to. Or even ones who were not successful or pursuing anything in life. I mean i'm not a 10, but based on past girls i've been with I can do good looks wise, but with OLD? Ya not so much. That's sort of sucks, but at least you were getting messages from real people. And btw what is OLD? Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 That's sort of sucks, but at least you were getting messages from real people. And btw what is OLD? Oh ya I was talking to plenty of women. 3 this week alone, but it's just frustrating. Most I end up talking to can't even hold a conversation online or texting, and any dates i've had from it i've found the same. I just can't be bothered anymore. OLD is online dating, just short hand. Link to post Share on other sites
Roadkill007 Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Sad ............ lol yea the worst part of that was that not only was I screwing up the courage to ask for the last 10 minutes of that conversation, but when I wasn't getting a response at the end, I just thought she was busy and couldn't respond... a couple minutes later, I was still waiting, but a little more impatient. And then I looked down and noticed... the disconnected internet symbol... NUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU! Curse my shyness! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Locust Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 lol yea the worst part of that was that not only was I screwing up the courage to ask for the last 10 minutes of that conversation, but when I wasn't getting a response at the end, I just thought she was busy and couldn't respond... a couple minutes later, I was still waiting, but a little more impatient. And then I looked down and noticed... the disconnected internet symbol... NUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU! Curse my shyness! I have shyness too. I will admit I'm not very comfortable in my looks so I go for girls who don't dress well and not that good looking. But yet couple years ago I was waiting for a class to start and I manage to have Russian woman come up to me who was a model. That made me feel really uncomfortable. She can grab any guy she wants, I can say that for sure. But online dating doesn't work for me very well at all. I'm not good at writing about myself besides not putting up a picture. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 I have shyness too. I will admit I'm not very comfortable in my looks so I go for girls who don't dress well and not that good looking. But yet couple years ago I was waiting for a class to start and I manage to have Russian woman come up to me who was a model. That made me feel really uncomfortable. She can grab any guy she wants, I can say that for sure. But online dating doesn't work for me very well at all. I'm not good at writing about myself besides not putting up a picture. Russian girls are really beautiful 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Locust Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Russian girls are really beautiful Yup, that is why I don't bother with them. I focus on those who I think will fit or go below my looks but not above. I will feel uneasy about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Roadkill007 Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 well with sites like omegle that aren't the standard of OLDs, there's a level of impromptuness. Omegle literally just links you with another stranger and you two start talking. Ofc a lot of times this gets pretty awkward, but sometimes if you start off with something clever/silly and you get a similar response, you just kind of keep rolling on. actual DATING SITEs, however, are what most people refer to when they're talking about OLD. These are the "put picture, description, send messages and hope I get a response in the next few days". I don't feel they let you get the same intimacy as fast as impromptu meeting sites like Omegle. Ofc with omegle, you literally have no filter, so 95/100 or so of the people you meet, you'll kind of hate just by their first line ("A/S/L?", "Are you a girl?", "我不能說英語"). Not to mention omegle's an even harder site to feel secure when meeting people, since you don't even get a picture, etc. unless you ask. But once again, if you aren't good at formally presenting yourself in a fashion that attracts people socially, chances are you may want to use impromptu dating scenes as opposed to the static dating sites. Link to post Share on other sites
Noproblem Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Yup, that is why I don't bother with them. I focus on those who I think will fit or go below my looks but not above. I will feel uneasy about it. You think so much! If that hot girls liked you, she obviously found something in you that attracted her, and I'm sure other girls will find something too So yeah, try to be casual, talk with any girl you like and see how it works from then Life can surprise you Link to post Share on other sites
Djz05 Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Russian girls are really beautiful Yes they are on topic: I never did like OLD. I admire a lot of women just based on looks, no particular taste really. But I take that at face value and nothing else. What really gets me attracted to a girl is when I get some time to talk to them and get to know them over a period of time. A lot (most) of my exes started out as just being friends until I felt that pull and asked them out on dates. But lately I've been trying out OLD because my social circle has gotten tighter and have fewer chances to meet other single girls that I prefer. Like faces, whatever's on a person's profile I take only at face value. It doesn't help that I'm just an average joe so nothing about me really stands out. But I still hope I find the "one" someday. Just hard to find 1 out of 3 billion other people. haha 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Roadkill007 Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Yup, that is why I don't bother with them. I focus on those who I think will fit or go below my looks but not above. I will feel uneasy about it. Also, locust, I think you're putting a little too much emphasis on beauty here. While there may be a certain degree of general beauty, I think people's tastes differ enough for you to be able to attract a supermodel simply because you are exactly her type. Basically, I think there's a general attractiveness and a specific attractiveness. General is the one where even animals have been proven to pick more attractive human friends more often than the unattractive ones. General beauty, imo, is improved by taking care of yourself, and can be deproved by not taking care of yourself (this also goes towards self-presentation). Then there's a specific attractiveness. This is more like "she's my type" kind of thing. An example is that there was this super popular girl in my junior high who a bunch of guys in my class were going crazy over. I had no idea what they were so excited about, because she was completely not my type. Also, I'm not exactly mr-ripped-classical-beauty myself. However, I've found that I'm pretty good nerd-bait : girls who go for me tend to like dorky cute guys. So basically, clean up and try to look your best, and just try to get yourself more comfortable around women you feel are "too beautiful", and I think you'll have a good chance when you meet another one who feels you are her type. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Locust Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Also, locust, I think you're putting a little too much emphasis on beauty here. While there may be a certain degree of general beauty, I think people's tastes differ enough for you to be able to attract a supermodel simply because you are exactly her type. Basically, I think there's a general attractiveness and a specific attractiveness. General is the one where even animals have been proven to pick more attractive human friends more often than the unattractive ones. General beauty, imo, is improved by taking care of yourself, and can be deproved by not taking care of yourself (this also goes towards self-presentation). Then there's a specific attractiveness. This is more like "she's my type" kind of thing. An example is that there was this super popular girl in my junior high who a bunch of guys in my class were going crazy over. I had no idea what they were so excited about, because she was completely not my type. Also, I'm not exactly mr-ripped-classical-beauty myself. However, I've found that I'm pretty good nerd-bait : girls who go for me tend to like dorky cute guys. So basically, clean up and try to look your best, and just try to get yourself more comfortable around women you feel are "too beautiful", and I think you'll have a good chance when you meet another one who feels you are her type. I agree with this, well said. Well she was a true Russian, she was from the country and had the accent and all. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr_Flay Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Oh ya I was talking to plenty of women. 3 this week alone, but it's just frustrating. Most I end up talking to can't even hold a conversation online or texting, and any dates i've had from it i've found the same. Yeah, there are many woman who seem to want you to entertain them, while contributing very little to the conversation. Sometimes they'll even message you first, then respond with one-liners that don't lend themselves to a good conversation. Talking to such girls is like pulling teeth, that's why I bail when I encounter one. I can't entertain someone like a clown or a stand-up comedian, and I don't want to either. I want to be entertained too. Link to post Share on other sites
Locust Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 i get a few dates, but maybe its just due to being over 6 feet tall. nothing ever comes of them. Interesting your bought that up. I would never date a woman who is taller than me. I'm 5'10 so I'm not too bad. Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 What is you experience with online dating? Do you think its really worth writing up a good profile or would you rather meet people in person? There's a giant thread somewhere nearby that really has covered all these issues already. I've had some of those issues you describe, but I've also had "success" with online dating including finding a girlfriend - we were together for about 6 months and dating for a bit longer than that. Also had plenty of enjoyable dates with some lovely women. Your last question is really two questions, because I'd rather do both than just one or the other. At the moment, life is conspiring to find me more dates via dating sites than any other way, but I'm not complaining about that. Link to post Share on other sites
irc333 Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 I think the ONE thing/phrase most often said in dating profiles is "I like to live life to the fullest!" followed by , "I love to laugh!" Anyone? lol Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 I think the ONE thing/phrase most often said in dating profiles is "I like to live life to the fullest!" followed by , "I love to laugh!" Anyone? lol I thought it was "writing about me is difficult" followed by "I love going out and staying in". Link to post Share on other sites
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